Winnie
- Date posted
- 3y
1ihateocd-1ihateocd-
- Date posted
- 3y
i seriously feel the same way about any boy i talk to or if they give me a hug or anything, and the feeling of guilt is extremely stressful because then you start to second guess youself and convince yourself you actually were flirting. you know deep down you didn’t do anything wrong just let yourself sit through the feeling of uncomfort and don’t try to stop thinking about it because it will only make it worse. let yourself feel uncomfortable to feel comfortable again. idk if that helps but
Winnie Winnie
- Date posted
- 3y
Yeah I get you exactly. I knew in the moment I wasn’t flirting or anything. I’m just worried that what I was doing was inappropriate and I was too close to him
the kgthe kg
- Date posted
- 3y
I struggle with something very similar. Most interactions I have with the opposite sex I worry about coming of wrong. And it's easy to sit and let your mind spiral. It helps me to try and think about the fact that I was just friendly or talking. And it helps me to try and think of it from an outside perspective. I know it's not easy to do that. But for me that's what I try and do.
Winnie Winnie
- Date posted
- 3y
I’m worried that from an outside perspective it would’ve looked bad. With my hands around his neck and his on my waist, that looks more than friendly even tho it was just friendly :(
1ihateocd-1ihateocd-
- Date posted
- 3y
i know my therapist and my mom both told me not to tell him because it’s just feeding into my ocd pattern but i feel like even if i already told him once there’s some sort of information that i need to tell him to see if he gets mad and tells me i did something wrong
Winnie Winnie
- Date posted
- 3y
I’m going through the exact same thing! It makes me feel better hearing that someone else is going through something similar. I keep confessing to him when I remember more details or a story
Winnie Winnie
- Date posted
- 3y
He’s told me I’ve done nothing wrong. But then I think “did I leave something out of the story” then rethink it and tell him more
1ihateocd-1ihateocd-
- Date posted
- 3y
you have to stop confessing to him because it only makes it worse this is the second time i’ve gone through something like this and the first time i went through it i had to be put on meds because i was freaking out so bad about it thinking i’m a terrible person
1ihateocd-1ihateocd-
- Date posted
- 3y
@krusso not worse for your relationship but worse for your ocd because it makes you think that confessing will make you feel less guilty and it won’t
the kgthe kg
- Date posted
- 3y
I've been struggling with something very similar recently. I felt like a had done something to betray my partner but nothing actually happened. They have told me I've done nothing wrong. But I still feel that nagging feeling to confess bro them. I know for me if I'm able to not give into the urge it settles down. But if I give in. That's all I can think about. I've been trying alit lately with other impulsives I've had to just tell myself I don't need to do this. And over time some of it's really helped. I know I give into it other times but it still gets better.
1ihateocd-1ihateocd-
- Date posted
- 3y
so if you don’t give in to the feeling or need to confess to your partner several times it eventually makes you feel less discomfort? because i told him how i was feeling and then again last night i told him how i’m having anxiety and ocd over the situation and it’s making me feel like i flirted with people but i know that i didn’t. and obviously he knows i didn’t too but then i woke up this morning with a nightmare that i cheated on him in my dream with a random man
the kgthe kg
- Date posted
- 3y
For me personally. If I'm able to fight the need or want to confess it to them I notice the urge goes away a bit. The more I tell them the more I feel like I need to. For me it just fuels the need. It's hard and I still mess up but if I really try not to bring it up I notice it sort of settles down in my head. I try and break habits these feelings give me. Because the more you act on them the more it gives your anxiety a feeling validation. I know it's hard and I still slip up but it helps me. I know it's not easy.
1ihateocd-1ihateocd-
- Date posted
- 3y
that’s good advice thank you
the kgthe kg
- Date posted
- 3y
I know its hard. I struggle with this too. I just try and keep reassuring myself that you had no intention of it coming across that way. And I know it's hard to not think about how it looks to others but if there was a problem I'm sure it would have been communicated. And I know all of this is easier said than done. I've had restless nights thinking about how someone thought about what I did. I just have to keep reassuring myself I know my intentions were not that. I hope it gets better.
1ihateocd-1ihateocd-
- Date posted
- 3y
i feel the same way but i end up having to repetitively tell my boyfriend in detail everything that happened and he really doesn’t care because he knows i wouldn’t do anything to cheat on him but then after those moments like if my friend got too close to talk to me or they hugged me or touched my shoulders or something i would freak out the next morning thinking that i was flirting and second geussing myself and switching up my story from the night before convincing myself i did something bad
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- 23w
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- Date posted
- 22w
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