I feel like I’ve flirted with someone else/ been inappropriate and the guilt won’t leave me. I was talking to my boyfriends best friend in the club and had my arms around his neck whilst we were talking. I’ve been so inappropriate

i seriously feel the same way about any boy i talk to or if they give me a hug or anything, and the feeling of guilt is extremely stressful because then you start to second guess youself and convince yourself you actually were flirting. you know deep down you didn’t do anything wrong just let yourself sit through the feeling of uncomfort and don’t try to stop thinking about it because it will only make it worse. let yourself feel uncomfortable to feel comfortable again. idk if that helps but

I struggle with something very similar. Most interactions I have with the opposite sex I worry about coming of wrong. And it's easy to sit and let your mind spiral. It helps me to try and think about the fact that I was just friendly or talking. And it helps me to try and think of it from an outside perspective. I know it's not easy to do that. But for me that's what I try and do.

i know my therapist and my mom both told me not to tell him because it’s just feeding into my ocd pattern but i feel like even if i already told him once there’s some sort of information that i need to tell him to see if he gets mad and tells me i did something wrong

I've been struggling with something very similar recently. I felt like a had done something to betray my partner but nothing actually happened. They have told me I've done nothing wrong. But I still feel that nagging feeling to confess bro them. I know for me if I'm able to not give into the urge it settles down. But if I give in. That's all I can think about. I've been trying alit lately with other impulsives I've had to just tell myself I don't need to do this. And over time some of it's really helped. I know I give into it other times but it still gets better.

For me personally. If I'm able to fight the need or want to confess it to them I notice the urge goes away a bit. The more I tell them the more I feel like I need to. For me it just fuels the need. It's hard and I still mess up but if I really try not to bring it up I notice it sort of settles down in my head. I try and break habits these feelings give me. Because the more you act on them the more it gives your anxiety a feeling validation. I know it's hard and I still slip up but it helps me. I know it's not easy.

I know its hard. I struggle with this too. I just try and keep reassuring myself that you had no intention of it coming across that way. And I know it's hard to not think about how it looks to others but if there was a problem I'm sure it would have been communicated. And I know all of this is easier said than done. I've had restless nights thinking about how someone thought about what I did. I just have to keep reassuring myself I know my intentions were not that. I hope it gets better.