Can it take years to fall in love? Is it ok if I know I like my partner but it's harder to feel deeply connected? I hear people say " I wanted to love you but I couldn't" and I don't get that. I'm at a point where I feel so emotionless I feel that I don't care if we break up but I do. I constantly feel intrusive thoughts but my emotional exhaustion results in me having no reaction anymore and that scares me. I always question my partners feeling for me and mine for him, his morality, compare his looks. I feel sh*tty for doing so :/ I'm really panicking and feel discomforted that I don't react anymore.

It's okay to not feel connected, or the sparkle or special with your bf all the time. Especially after some times, some days you can be just bored, or even annoyed by him. It doesn't means that you don't love him! It's normal!! Trust me. I have been in your situation; and I did get out! I gained my feelings back too!! It is important that you stop question and test yourself. You say "I feel that I don't care if we break up but I do"! That's exactly an example of what you should stop doing! You know, the "do I love him??" To see if you get sad anxious, in love... etc!. Try to sit with your feelings; without being scared by what they could possibly mean.

Remember, love is a choice! If you want to stay, you can! No matter how you feel, no matter what you keep doubting!

@eoid I love your answer !