Can anyone help me with this? It doesn't really matter in what kind of relationship I am, friends family, partners, its all the same, except that with partners it's worse. It's over analysing everything that happens. It's when I send my partner a heart and he doesn't send it back. But when we're together I know he's like the most affectionate person I know. I'm just constantly doubting whether he still likes me or not. It's like with everything that happens my OCD tries to find something that makes me doubt his feelings for me. It's terrifying because I don't want to lose him but I know that if I keep doubting like this and if he notices that I'll push him away. I keep a lot of this to myself and I only share it with my family and they say the same thing. That I have to start trusting in him and that I have to let it go. But its so scary, I'm not gonna obsessively text him, or constantly ask for reassurance, because this is a me problem and not his. But I need some help, how do you guys do this? How do you ignore the doubts? How do you find the difference between a gut feeling that something it actually wrong and an OCD feeling that's just there to make you think that something is wrong?

I’ve been in the same dating relationship for over two years and I still do this- often! I’m constantly asking him if something is wrong (when nothing really is) and if he’s okay. I’m also always wishing he’d say something to reassure me that everything is good, that he still likes me, that we are still planning on a future. I totally get this. And the more I ask him, the worse I feel because I think I’m just going to annoy him and make it difficult to deal with me! The first thing is, when you’re ready, be clear with him! I explained to my boyfriend how my brain tries to trick me into thinking things are wrong, so I asked him to be super honest and come straight to me if something really IS wrong. That way I don’t have to ask all the time, because I know we’ve established that he will just let me know! I also just asked him to be patient with me. A simple talk goes a long way. What also helps me is mentally separating what’s real and what’s not real. Maybe sit down and decide now what types of feelings and situations you’re going to choose to ignore even when your brain doesn’t want to. For me, the “gut feeling” is usually actually OCD.

Thank you, this is really helpful! It's really hard because he honestly sucks at being romantic and expressing feelings. And thats okay, we both have to learn, but he told me that he took a couple of months before breaking up with his ex while he was thinking about it for those months. So I've been trying to convince him to don't do that with me and be honest with me. The reaction I got is that he'll try but that he finds it hard. So I made clear to him that he would hurt me more by keeping me on the hook, so he knows that. But it's still so fucking scary

Absolutely. I get that. The guy I’m dating had never had a serious girlfriend before. Like ever. So sharing emotions was super hard for him at first. I’ve also realized that I’m not the only one who’s growing and needs patience, and I decided he was worth it:) so if you decide he’s worth working on that with, that’s great!! communication is key

Thank you a lot! It's hard to realise that you need to work on yourself because I know that if I keep on handling my relationship this anxious I'll push him away. It's nice to know that I'm not alone, thank you so much!