Er1ckMk1
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- 3y
SheldoriumSheldorium
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- 3y
I shared absolutely everything with my girlfriend and it became a compulsion and made her probably as emotionally exhausted as I am. It really only gives temporary relive although I know how hard it is to hide these things because it feels so wrong. But you dont need to, its your choice.
Er1ckMk1Er1ckMk1
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- 3y
yeah thats my main worry is that I'll emotionally exhaust her because I don't know how to explain my thoughts without making her feel like I dont really like her when I do and its all just so complicated
ocdisruiningmylife.ocdisruining...
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- 3y
@Er1ckMk1 I did this and my bf feels the same but he is more understanding now when these things come up and it prevents him from holding it against me. Which is my biggest fear
EM77EM77
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- 3y
I told my boyfriend that my current OCD theme was attacking our relationship, I explained how other themes have affected me so that he knows it’s not what I want. I didn’t tell him the specific intrusive thoughts because I felt like it would hurt him and damage our relationship. I told him OCD was attacking the relationship so I could tell him when I was having a bad OCD day and so needed a hug and a quiet day
ocdisruiningmylife.ocdisruining...
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- 3y
It’s also very hard for them to understand cause for most of us we probably didn’t even understand our ocd untill we realized all that goes into it . The stigma around it has really confused everyone .
whatadooowhatadooo
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- 3y
I dont because then it just prompts compulsive sharing
ocdisruiningmylife.ocdisruining...
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- 3y
It does actually that is a problem .
whatadooowhatadooo
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- 3y
I wouldn't give ocd more power over my life than it already does by telling my s.o.
ocdisruiningmylife.ocdisruining...
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- 3y
It’s powerful if you don’t tell them and it’s powerful if you do. The fact we have to work around these feelings is really sad .
eoideoid
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- 3y
For me, is important to tell your partner about ocd tho! Not everyone; but some people can feel when you are in a bad mood, etc! And if your partner can too, he/she would probably take that personally!! If you explain that is ocd they would feel so relieved!! But at the same time, don't talk about your doubts, be general! If you go too specific, it will became a confession or a problem for your partner too!
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