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I shared absolutely everything with my girlfriend and it became a compulsion and made her probably as emotionally exhausted as I am. It really only gives temporary relive although I know how hard it is to hide these things because it feels so wrong. But you dont need to, its your choice.
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yeah thats my main worry is that I'll emotionally exhaust her because I don't know how to explain my thoughts without making her feel like I dont really like her when I do and its all just so complicated
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@Er1ckMk1 I did this and my bf feels the same but he is more understanding now when these things come up and it prevents him from holding it against me. Which is my biggest fear
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I told my boyfriend that my current OCD theme was attacking our relationship, I explained how other themes have affected me so that he knows it’s not what I want. I didn’t tell him the specific intrusive thoughts because I felt like it would hurt him and damage our relationship. I told him OCD was attacking the relationship so I could tell him when I was having a bad OCD day and so needed a hug and a quiet day
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It’s also very hard for them to understand cause for most of us we probably didn’t even understand our ocd untill we realized all that goes into it . The stigma around it has really confused everyone .
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I dont because then it just prompts compulsive sharing
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It does actually that is a problem .
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I wouldn't give ocd more power over my life than it already does by telling my s.o.
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It’s powerful if you don’t tell them and it’s powerful if you do. The fact we have to work around these feelings is really sad .
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For me, is important to tell your partner about ocd tho! Not everyone; but some people can feel when you are in a bad mood, etc! And if your partner can too, he/she would probably take that personally!! If you explain that is ocd they would feel so relieved!! But at the same time, don't talk about your doubts, be general! If you go too specific, it will became a confession or a problem for your partner too!
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Good morning. Anyone struggle with ROCD? When I think about what I have done in the past, I feel immense guilty (I feel the tightness in my chest) and have the urge to tell my partner about it, even if my partner says she doesn’t need to know if it is going to hurt her and that I need to talk to my therapist about it first. Any suggestions on how to manage the urge/urgency? Thanks!
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for a few days now I’ve been super anxious about my relationship. I’ve been anxious about it before but lately it’s been worse than normal. I’m in a very healthy and loving relationship, I love my boyfriend so much and he treats me so so well. The only thing is that I’ve been having scary thoughts that what if I’m lying to him and don’t actually love him? What if I don’t find him attractive? And like what if the only way to stop being anxious is to break up with him? I don’t want to leave him and I am so scared. I feel like I’m lying to him by not telling him what’s going on because he might think I’m actually going to leave him, which I’m really not going to. I have had anxiety since before we started dating and incestual and sexual ocd, then I got into a point where I started having religious ocd, and now I have ROCD on top of that I think. I’ve never been diagnosed but I’m going to therapy and figuring things out but I’m so scared. Idk what to do and I feel like if I talk to anyone they’re going to say I have to leave him.
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I wanted to talk about my experiences with rOCD since I currently do still suffer from it but I know if I talked about them. My thoughts are just gonna get stronger, but I’ll do it for the sake of talking about my experiences to others who feel like they’re alone. I have a very loving relationship actually my first healthy relationship we are currently still dating one year and six months. I would say these intrusive thoughts started to happen once I hit the one year mark with him. Nothing in the relationship has made me think these thoughts, but it just came. Like when my mind tried to make me think I liked another guy other than my boyfriend and that I was losing feelings for him. I started to panic because I knew that my heart belonged to my boyfriend and having thoughts that were against that belief it made me really anxious cause I never had those thoughts before. I was in and out of the care center at my school constantly having anxiety attacks, and it was affecting me day by day. I talk to my boyfriend about it because my mind can never keep secrets from him because then I would feel like that I’m lying to him… my mind just kinda works that way and I believe it’s due to the situation I have with rOCD. Luckily, he was really supportive.. in thoughts I’ve had was what if I don’t like him anymore or if he doesn’t do this does that mean he likes me or if he’s even the one just a lot of doubts about me and him in the relationship. And for anyone who’s experiencing stuff familiar to this you are not alone invalid only what you believe is what is true. And I know it’s gonna be hard to know what’s true or not because these thoughts that you have versus what’s in your heart you get confused but if you know that you love that person then that’s what true. Also, the only reason why it affected me a lot was because I kept trying to solve it and the only solution is to let those thoughts in and accept that you have those thoughts. I don’t mean as an accept that these thoughts are true, but accepts that those are the thoughts that you’re thinking because if you keep on trying to find a solution to remove them, it only just get worse.
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