- Username
- Er1ckMk1
- Date posted
- 2y ago
I shared absolutely everything with my girlfriend and it became a compulsion and made her probably as emotionally exhausted as I am. It really only gives temporary relive although I know how hard it is to hide these things because it feels so wrong. But you dont need to, its your choice.
yeah thats my main worry is that I'll emotionally exhaust her because I don't know how to explain my thoughts without making her feel like I dont really like her when I do and its all just so complicated
@Er1ckMk1 I did this and my bf feels the same but he is more understanding now when these things come up and it prevents him from holding it against me. Which is my biggest fear
I told my boyfriend that my current OCD theme was attacking our relationship, I explained how other themes have affected me so that he knows it’s not what I want. I didn’t tell him the specific intrusive thoughts because I felt like it would hurt him and damage our relationship. I told him OCD was attacking the relationship so I could tell him when I was having a bad OCD day and so needed a hug and a quiet day
It’s also very hard for them to understand cause for most of us we probably didn’t even understand our ocd untill we realized all that goes into it . The stigma around it has really confused everyone .
I dont because then it just prompts compulsive sharing
It does actually that is a problem .
I wouldn't give ocd more power over my life than it already does by telling my s.o.
It’s powerful if you don’t tell them and it’s powerful if you do. The fact we have to work around these feelings is really sad .
For me, is important to tell your partner about ocd tho! Not everyone; but some people can feel when you are in a bad mood, etc! And if your partner can too, he/she would probably take that personally!! If you explain that is ocd they would feel so relieved!! But at the same time, don't talk about your doubts, be general! If you go too specific, it will became a confession or a problem for your partner too!
Can relationship ocd not just be doubts about my partner of my feelings for them? Cause my ROCD started as that like “what if i didnt love them as much” or something then it translated to more things like “she’s a slut” or “she’s ugly” even though she’s NONE of those things. things like “i will cheat on her” and such. Plus feeling like i like somebody else, imagining myself with other people. Fear i might fall for someone else and overthinking that and feeling guilty. Just my thoughts, my ex was always involved and it made me feel guilt and doubt and anxiety and i HAD to confess it to them. Cause someone asked here whats ROCD and someone simply said doubting feelings and it makes me nervous cause i’d like to think i had rocd but seeing that makes me nervous that what if the thoughts were true?
how do i convey my ocd thoughts to my partner without scaring them off? my obsessions are about how i feel scared that “what if i don’t love her”. what do i do?
I've suffered ROCD in the past around my relationship but knew deep down I'm happy and I love my partner so much. However lately my family have been putting doubts in my head and planting seeds about who I should be with, what type of person I should be with. Which has caused a spiral of thoughts and doubts.Is it normal when suffering with OCD to then take these thoughts on board, I felt sick with worry all week and don't know how much longer I can go on feeling this guilty for the thoughts. A few days ago I trusted a friend and opened up to him and he made a pass at me which I said no, I now feel full of guilt and doubting why I put myself in that situation even though it was all innocent from my half. I feel sick with worry and would never hurt my partner. Just want to be happy with him.
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