How should I tell my significant other that I've been suffering from ROCD as of late without making them doubt themselves or our relationship? my most common thoughts have been of me just cheating on her or that I dont find her attractive or thoughts along those lines and they hurt to think about it makes me feel guilty to think these things

I shared absolutely everything with my girlfriend and it became a compulsion and made her probably as emotionally exhausted as I am. It really only gives temporary relive although I know how hard it is to hide these things because it feels so wrong. But you dont need to, its your choice.

I told my boyfriend that my current OCD theme was attacking our relationship, I explained how other themes have affected me so that he knows it’s not what I want. I didn’t tell him the specific intrusive thoughts because I felt like it would hurt him and damage our relationship. I told him OCD was attacking the relationship so I could tell him when I was having a bad OCD day and so needed a hug and a quiet day

I dont because then it just prompts compulsive sharing

I wouldn't give ocd more power over my life than it already does by telling my s.o.

For me, is important to tell your partner about ocd tho! Not everyone; but some people can feel when you are in a bad mood, etc! And if your partner can too, he/she would probably take that personally!! If you explain that is ocd they would feel so relieved!! But at the same time, don't talk about your doubts, be general! If you go too specific, it will became a confession or a problem for your partner too!