Well, let's say this is a 50% ocd! One thing is if you distress over something that your bf did, but not in the way you wanted. In that case he didn't nothing wrong and it is totally your ocd!! But if he says something and than he doesn't do it, if he can't maintain his own words, well I would be pretty mad too! In that case, he is the one that should work with himself! Personally I would find really difficult to trust someone like that!! But probably that isn't your case!
Yeah its more so not in the way i wanted. I know im being dramatic too but i cant calm down my anxiety and stuff even tho i kno its not a big deal.
This is a big one do me too! I try to use these moments as in vivo exposures. I try to identify my worry and then purposely don’t try to solve it. For example, “what if he’s not the one for me because I would prefer someone who takes care of things right away to keep my anxiety down”, or “what if I will always have anxiety in our relationship and we’ll need to break up eventually”. Or you might be obsessing about obsessing (happens to me a lot)… “what if these thoughts never go away, what if I have anxiety forever.” In these cases I try to accept the possibility by making it a “maybe” statement and feel the anxiety. “Maybe I’ll always have this anxiety around him and we’ll need to break up. Maybe not.” I hope this helps even a little bit! 💕