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I relate
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This is a big one do me too! I try to use these moments as in vivo exposures. I try to identify my worry and then purposely donāt try to solve it. For example, āwhat if heās not the one for me because I would prefer someone who takes care of things right away to keep my anxiety downā, or āwhat if I will always have anxiety in our relationship and weāll need to break up eventuallyā. Or you might be obsessing about obsessing (happens to me a lot)⦠āwhat if these thoughts never go away, what if I have anxiety forever.ā In these cases I try to accept the possibility by making it a āmaybeā statement and feel the anxiety. āMaybe Iāll always have this anxiety around him and weāll need to break up. Maybe not.ā I hope this helps even a little bit! š
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Well, let's say this is a 50% ocd! One thing is if you distress over something that your bf did, but not in the way you wanted. In that case he didn't nothing wrong and it is totally your ocd!! But if he says something and than he doesn't do it, if he can't maintain his own words, well I would be pretty mad too! In that case, he is the one that should work with himself! Personally I would find really difficult to trust someone like that!! But probably that isn't your case!
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Yeah its more so not in the way i wanted. I know im being dramatic too but i cant calm down my anxiety and stuff even tho i kno its not a big deal.
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I donāt know why but today I feel so incredibly angry right now and I was so frustrated with everything including my two dogs. I didnāt hurt them or hit them or anything but I was particularly annoyed and angry when they were trying to get presumably a bunny or a raccoon from underneath the shed, so I had to pull my small dog away when he wouldnāt budge away from the shed and i couldnāt pick him up because I was not close enough. I feel bad because I know I love my dogs but oh my god I just get so annoyed with them and on top of them everything else I have to just shut down all day and the things I donāt understand. I feel like Iām going insane. I donāt want my dogs to think I donāt love them because i was angry and annoyed at them. I know theyāre just animals and they love me and I love them. I want them to know Iām sorry for even getting mad. I wish I didnāt feel so angry and yet so disconnected at the same time. Iām terrified Iām an evil person or that I donāt love my pets or something. I started to hit myself and punch myself because I do that when I get over the edge angry. I donāt know why I feel angry. Itās a mix of anger and emptiness and I donāt want either of them especially towards my dogs.
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Does anyone else struggle with object permanence in relationships? Like whenever my partner is out of the house I immediately think negatively or I find things wrong with the relationship or him⦠For background my partner and I always fight over chores (I know itās common but itās annoying) I definitely pull more weight than him and I think he has ADHD, which makes him struggle to help and be aware of helping. Lately weāve been somewhat good with splitting meals and dishes whatever, I know it can change with work stress, fatigue whatever. But last week my partner was out of the house watching his uncleās dog so he was barely home. He was sleeping over at his uncles house and would come home for meals sometimes and stuff like that. I started becoming super fixated on him not helping with the dishes before he left and would constantly feel urges to yell about it. Even though the week prior everything was good when it came to that (sometimes with my ROCD Iāll even question myself and be like was it?) so I have started 4 separate fights arguing about dishes and chores and mentioning that he doesnāt help enough and if this continues Iāll have to leave⦠itās so hard for me to snap out of it and just realize that he was going back and forth and didnāt think to help because he was busy with helping his uncle. And then I get such a negative view of him in my head that I nitpick his appearance, I make comments, etc, because my underlying fear is he doesnāt care to help, he will never change, and we will fail. So itās almost like Iām looking to have a reason to run before I actually need to? Itās a constant cycle for me and Iām truly so exhausted by myself. But also relationships are so hard for me because I struggled SO much with trying to depend on others that I almost donāt let myself depend on othersā¦. Any advice is appreciated but also just like do you also experience this? Thank you & pls be kind š„ŗš„ŗš„ŗ
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