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I relate
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This is a big one do me too! I try to use these moments as in vivo exposures. I try to identify my worry and then purposely donāt try to solve it. For example, āwhat if heās not the one for me because I would prefer someone who takes care of things right away to keep my anxiety downā, or āwhat if I will always have anxiety in our relationship and weāll need to break up eventuallyā. Or you might be obsessing about obsessing (happens to me a lot)⦠āwhat if these thoughts never go away, what if I have anxiety forever.ā In these cases I try to accept the possibility by making it a āmaybeā statement and feel the anxiety. āMaybe Iāll always have this anxiety around him and weāll need to break up. Maybe not.ā I hope this helps even a little bit! š
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Well, let's say this is a 50% ocd! One thing is if you distress over something that your bf did, but not in the way you wanted. In that case he didn't nothing wrong and it is totally your ocd!! But if he says something and than he doesn't do it, if he can't maintain his own words, well I would be pretty mad too! In that case, he is the one that should work with himself! Personally I would find really difficult to trust someone like that!! But probably that isn't your case!
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Yeah its more so not in the way i wanted. I know im being dramatic too but i cant calm down my anxiety and stuff even tho i kno its not a big deal.
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Last night I was staying at my boyfriendās house and couldnāt sleep. I felt like i desperately needed to go back to my parents and clean and organize my room. This has happened a few times before when I was staying at his place. Since then heās been very upset with me. Does anyone elseās partner do this? Any advice? Itās been hard. Heās made me feel so shameful for having OCD. As if itās not tough enough /:
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Does anyone else struggle with object permanence in relationships? Like whenever my partner is out of the house I immediately think negatively or I find things wrong with the relationship or him⦠For background my partner and I always fight over chores (I know itās common but itās annoying) I definitely pull more weight than him and I think he has ADHD, which makes him struggle to help and be aware of helping. Lately weāve been somewhat good with splitting meals and dishes whatever, I know it can change with work stress, fatigue whatever. But last week my partner was out of the house watching his uncleās dog so he was barely home. He was sleeping over at his uncles house and would come home for meals sometimes and stuff like that. I started becoming super fixated on him not helping with the dishes before he left and would constantly feel urges to yell about it. Even though the week prior everything was good when it came to that (sometimes with my ROCD Iāll even question myself and be like was it?) so I have started 4 separate fights arguing about dishes and chores and mentioning that he doesnāt help enough and if this continues Iāll have to leave⦠itās so hard for me to snap out of it and just realize that he was going back and forth and didnāt think to help because he was busy with helping his uncle. And then I get such a negative view of him in my head that I nitpick his appearance, I make comments, etc, because my underlying fear is he doesnāt care to help, he will never change, and we will fail. So itās almost like Iām looking to have a reason to run before I actually need to? Itās a constant cycle for me and Iām truly so exhausted by myself. But also relationships are so hard for me because I struggled SO much with trying to depend on others that I almost donāt let myself depend on othersā¦. Any advice is appreciated but also just like do you also experience this? Thank you & pls be kind š„ŗš„ŗš„ŗ
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Hi I donāt know but Iāve being having so much stress in my relationship with my boyfriend and I feel like Iām upset at him with small things and taking it out on him like when he looks at other girls or when he repost things with girls it upsets me and changes my mood and people tell me to talk about it with him but I donāt know how to talk to him about it because I donāt necessarily know how I feel I feel mad and upset and I feel like crying but I also just canāt express how I feel and I donāt know what to even say to him to communicate how I feel I found this app by googlingāhow to feel more stable in my relationshipā I feel like Iām not in a relationship sometimes and I just want everything to work out with him but I donāt know what to do I wanna feel like all those relationships you see and feel loved and want to have a future but I donāt know how to get there
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