- Date posted
- 3y ago
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Please any help ?
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Hello! Testing your thoughts is a compulsion and is leading you further down the rabbit hole. I have never had SOOCD but I know how convincing OCD can be. I have definitely heard of others with SOOCD that do not feel arousal towards women. It is your OCD playing tricks on you. You are so worried and scared of the thought that your mind is tricking you and it keeps bringing up the thought more and more. The best thing you can do is simply ignore the thought. You don’t get arousal towards women? So what OCD, you don’t care anymore. The more you stop testing the thoughts and not do compulsions the less your brain will send you that thought. Simply going about your day and not caring will help you move towards recovery. A great resource for OCD help it to look up Ali Greymond on YouTube. You can do this!
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- Therapist
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Thank you for your question. The arousal you feel when you check or test is called the groinal response and it is quite common in sexual orientation OCD. I would suggest doing exposures instead of engaging in checking behaviors. You can use response prevention messaging when you get these thoughts. Say something like, I may or may not be attracted to women or I may or may not be gay. Practice sitting with the anxiety instead of pushing it away. Eventually it will get lower.
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- 3y ago
But I don’t think I ever have felt arousal to women and the arousal to men is real leads to orgasm so what do I do any help please
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- 3y ago
It feels like real arousal like I’m getting turned on tho
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- Therapist
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I guess my question would be about the fear. Is there a fear of being gay? A fear of not being accepted? Disappointing someone? What is the worst thing that you can think about being attracted to men?
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- 3y ago
Just scared I dot want to be
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- 3y ago
So what I feel isn’t groinal response
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- 3y ago
So it’s not ocd and I am actually gay ?
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- Therapist
- Date posted
- 3y ago
So when someone is in ERP therapy one thing we always talk about is that we aren’t hear to answer questions. OCD wants answers, but it’s more about sitting with the anxiety you feel in the uncertainty. Does that make sense? OCD wants you to have to seek reassurance, often times you want answers to questions that other people can’t answer for you. Are you in treatment at NOCD? This might be a good place to start!
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Yes I have been for a while but I don’t want this arousal towards men I want it to women but it never happens that way it’s like anything to do with men brings on arousal
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- Therapist
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Are you doing exposures with your therapist around the HOCD theme?
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- 3y ago
Yes some have u got any ideas for this arousal?
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Could it be groinal response
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- 3y ago
I just don’t think this arousal is cause of ocd
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Checking is a compulsion that will only make ocd stronger. Our bodies will have responses to stimuli even when we don’t like what we are thinking so when you get these thoughts you can respond by saying maybe I am attracted to this person maybe not. I don’t need to figure it out. Not easy to do but it beats doing compulsions because compulsions make ocd stronger each time we engage in them. It’s hard work, but we are stronger than we think.
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- 15w ago
Sometimes I think " do I like kids?" "Would i get aroused if I saw content with kids?""What if I'm a pedo and cant accept it?" "What if I'm ok with these thoughts?" "What if I'm not distressed enough " "What if I enjoy these thoughts?" , i avoid kids as much as i can, i cant look at them bc I'm scared I'm gonna have some groin like response. I keep testing if I'd get turned on or if I'd have some groinal response to sexual scenarios with kids. Sometimes I think that if I took my life this would be over and i wouldn't have to think about this and i wish i doubted something else instead of things like this. I had similar situations just with different topics such as if i loved or found sexually appealing a guy while in a relationship and i kept asking myself those questions for months and i avoided going to school for weeks and when I went I'd cry and have anxiety attacks. I had it with past actions i obessed over and felt the need to exploit every detail and be honest because otherwise i was being a fraud. I had it for sexual things that happened when i was a child. Im not diagnosed with ocd but should i tell this to my local counselor? Can someone help? Give me advice or tell me anything?
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- 13w ago
I’m 25 and never ever thought this before my soocd relapse. I have a bf of 5 years. Never been a high libido kinda girl. Don’t get me wrong I do get turned on by my bf but not like every day you know? - That had always been in the back of my head, is this normal and ok? But my ocd has latched onto the most scariest what if EVER. My brain is now saying How do you know you won’t prefer to sleep and kiss girls if you haven’t tried it: and it’s that unknown that is scaring the shit out of me. I DONT AND NEVER HAVE wanted to sleep / kiss a girl. But now my intrusive thoughts is all I think about!!! I don’t want I don’t want I don’t want??? So why does my brain think BUT WHAT IF??? I know ocd thrives off uncertainty which is why I think this is happening? But I don’t wanna find out or work it out because all I want is to be with my bf and marry him!! Is this just the epitome of OCD?
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- Date posted
- 11w ago
Sorry long post. Anyone feel like now they’re just in extreme denial. Like when I was little I noticed guys more than girls in movies and was more drawn to them. I remember changing my mindset to switch that. 98%of my life has been straight until recently. I felt drawn to some guys but never thought of it sexually. Always had girl crushes dreams and porn. Now I watch porn and I feel like straight takes longer and then I go and watch gay porn and feel nothing until I tell myself it’s two attractive dudes and love is love and imagine physical sensations and then it hits like suddenly. Like I have to convince myself it’s alright. Then when I try again I can do all that but feel nothing and then straight porn works. Idk if it’s just getting a fix or the first time works with anything or what but it’s confusing. On top of that I’ve felt girl relationships including my wife maybe miss something and a guy maybe matches that feeling that but then I feel like I’d be missing something without a girl or my wife. Idk I’ve had some rough times in life with male figures in my life but idk. I feel like I have to convince myself more and more that I’m straight even more than the first time I dealt with this. Can someone relate? Please
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