Dre83
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- 3y
faithfulfaithful
- Date posted
- 3y
Yes I do too then wonder if they really want to be with them and not me
Dre83Dre83
- Date posted
- 3y
I might add that we’ve been married for almost 11 yrs. I found out two years ago that she cheated on me while we were engaged. We’ve had a good marriage for the most part so I tend to think am I good enough for her sexually because what took place even though we’ve been married almost 11 yrs
AnonymousAnonymous
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- 3y
Yea I became obsessed with ex ‘es past relationships. It was to a point where I went through all her old emails and photos. Not healthy but I could not let it go.
Dre83Dre83
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- 3y
I got ocd 3 months after finding out. Had some other trauma happen that year as well. 36 yrs old when I got ocd
faithfulfaithful
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- 3y
My spouse wasn't faithful as well. Emotional cheating in his case. I have had ocd symptoms and intrusive thoughts since I was about 7 years old. Diagnosed ocd mdd gad and PTSD at age 20. I'm now 30 and have had many other diagnosis as well since then. I question if my ocd thoughts are really internal voices. I will get voices or thoughts that he is cheating or lying and I HAVE to look for evidence. Like it will all add up. Sometimes I find things, sometimes I don't. However I was this way before he cheated... And since he cheated I feel like it has just added fuel to the fire of my mental illness or made it seem like it was my "intuition" like I knew he had cheated? Idk it's weird. Anyway lol That would tear me apart if I found out they cheated early on in our relationship especially that they didn't tell you. Man that's tough. I think that you are going thru more of a trauma response than an ocd response. But that's just my opinion. I was married to a man for 8 years. Every day he told me I was the problem, I was fucked up in the head, I was the reason he did what he did to me... I already had PTSD from an incident when I was 12, then raped at 15, and sexual abused ages 17-21 by my fiance at the time. It can mess with your head. Have you talked to her about this? I would suggest a counselor, because you can communicate all day but if it's not in a way they communicate it will not go thru to them. My experience. I question if I am sexually enough for my partner as well. It's a constant feeling of I'm not enough, ya know? In all aspects of our relationship... I like to write out my thoughts and experiences and feelings in a journal. Sometimes i find it helps so much to make the bad feelings go away that i don't even have to bother my partner with it. It doesn't always work though, I constantly reassurance seek bad. I hope you u feel better. You are enough and know that YOU can never make someone cheat. If they cheat it's because they CHOSE to do it.
Dre83Dre83
- Date posted
- 3y
Gosh you have been through a lot. My wife was molested by her step dad and raped by someone we knew. I know she had low self esteem and respect for herself because of what she went through. She suffers from clinical depression because of the molesting so I try to consider all that she’s been through in her life. I’m so sorry that you’ve had to go through such terrible things as well. I’m in counseling for ocd and for this for the last 1.5 yrs. I’m healing but I just wish it was faster ya know. Trying to see why God has planned for me though all of this. I love her dearly. I hope you feel better as well!
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