guesswhosback
- Date posted
- 3y
IsaiahIsaiah
- Date posted
- 3y
Don’t give into your OCD here, be strong. Ruminating on what the dream meant and if you would be happy with the other person is a compulsion, talk to your therapist about this. You got this
Kpainter24Kpainter24
- Date posted
- 3y
He’s right get more professional support to guide you with personalized structure & it’ll all be clearing because you’ll learn how to better identify what is & isnt ocd. Knowing what’s going on in your mind helps you heal it immensely! 🧡
guesswhosbackguesswhosback
- Date posted
- 3y
I don't have therapy - I'm not even diagnosed. But I appreciate the advice :)
Kpainter24Kpainter24
- Date posted
- 3y
Gotta take those first steps before you can go anywhere! There’s always a way to get something done.
BlakewithaBBlakewithaB
- Date posted
- 3y
Im in a similar boat as you bro…new to this platform and havent been diagnosed or treated yet…that said, i have dealt with OCD for many years and have enough experience dealing with its affects during a long-term serious relationship to tell you that there is hope…ive had dreams like yours several times before and have woken up feeling worried about what they meant and whether or not a should tell my lady about them…also, more commonly, i tend to worry for weeks or months at a time after meeting a new woman that i find attractive (typically a coworker) that one day i will cheat on my lady with the other woman…honestly, this seems to happen every time i start getting to know another woman, but after four years of these repeated experiences and worries coming from the OCD, i can safely say that i have never cheated on my lady once with any of those women and thus it really was just the OCD messing with my head…can i answer the question of whether or not i actually liked the other women and wanted to be with them instead? No, i cannot, because that part will always be uncertain and i must accept that…what i can say though is that i did probably find some of those women attractive (either physically or because of their personality), but what i can also say is that i did not act on that attraction and instead remained loyal to the woman who matters most in my life…my point is that i believe my actions matter more than the thoughts or dreams or feelings that i might have…i hope that helps bro, you are not alone
67566756
- Date posted
- 3y
Its normal 100% to find other women attractive and to fantasise about them... completely normal and that will never change .... but your giving that thought meaning and taking it as proof you want to cheat.. when you don't... you just think shes hot and that you would if u weren't with your partner... again normal!!!! It does not meen in any way that you want to cheat... but at the same time you still going to find other people attractive and fantasise.. its called window shopping!!! ... relax and realise its normal... and also after the initial excitement of being with a new partner has worn off it does always seem more exciting with someone different.. again totally normal... but doesn't meen u want to cheat or lose everything u have just because you find someone else hot... you completely overthinking it.
Related posts
OCD_girly
- Date posted
- 14w
Hocd dreams
I know people say ocd can manifest in your dreams. I had a semi sexual dream, in that there was a naked woman and I enjoyed the dream so surely that can't be ocd. Idk this shit is annoying.
helpme1234
- Date posted
- 14w
relationship ocd
my relationship ocd theme is back and it hasn’t for a while. i keep having intrusive thoughts about a friend even tho i have a boyfriend of 6 years. i like do not like this person they are good looking but im not like into them. i like feel guilty for no reason and i feel like i need to tell my boyfriend even tho like we’ve been through this before and it only gets better if i tell him but if i don’t i feel like im hiding something. AHH like i don’t even wanna see that person anymore
Marrkk22
- Date posted
- 10w
Real event cheating
So I’m 22 and have had ocd my entire life. I’m about to hit 1 year in my relationship. I’m extremely happy and haven’t really had any rocd problems. Which is great. So here’s the problem. About 4-5 months into my new relationship I was bored one night and couldn’t sleep. I must’ve doom scrolled TikTok and Reddit for hours that night. Until finally I randomly thought about going on an anonymous chat site. I use to do this all the time back during covid when I was stuck in the house So for what ever reason I made a fake girl name and instantly connected to some random dude. I thought it was funny and decided to troll alittle cause why not I guess I just wanted to pass the time. He asked me where i worked and I said a bar (obv I don’t ) and he said “wow u must get hit on a lot u must be hot” and said yeah i do and then I felt really weird about it. So I closed the site down. Fast forward to now I felt like I cheated on my gf by flirting with another guy. Even tho I don’t like guys. It was months ago so I can’t rmeebr exactly how the text went but it was along those words and the convo had to been less then 3 minutes. Now since then all I can think is maybe I wanted the texts to go further. Or what if I said something sexual? What if I liked it sexually? On top of that, it was just a really weird one off thing I did. I mean I have no idea why I pretended to be a hot girl working at a bar lol. I guess I was just trolling or curious idk. Either way it would be really hard to explain to my gf and I don’t really want to tell her. Butttt , since I feel like I cheated I feel awful like I’m horrible person. These last 4 days I keep reading reddit post about ppl cheating on chat rooms and I keep googling to see if I should tell my gf or not. I understand sitting with uncertainty but I need to know desperately if I did something wrong bc my gf deserves to know. But like I said if I told her what happened it such a weird situation that she may think something serious happened. Also I dealt with a porn addiction at the time and I’ve gotten a lot better. So far I’ve been 3 days clean of watching porn and don’t even have the need too. How ever I think the real reason why I feel like I cheated was my intentions altho I went on just joking around I feel like I was on there for something sexual. Which I’m glad I never shared any personal things , pictures or anything graphic and the convo was less then 3 minutes long based off a fake character
Be a part of the largest OCD Community
Share your thoughts so the Community can respond