Sp1999
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- 3y
hellopeoplehellopeople
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- NOCD Alumni
- Date posted
- 3y
That’s all just gender stereotyping. I always got stuck on being a woman with large feet as if that said something about my sexual preferences. Sexual preference isn’t as superficial as how you look/dress/act, it’s how you feel inside and then act on that. Sorry if that is too reassuring for this chat😂 you could be bi, who cares if you are.
Sp1999Sp1999
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- 3y
Im not bi , lol im a 22 year old male whos only ever been with women and never had thoughts like this until 6 1/2 months ago from something . My sexuality changing not possible
MillerbmMillerbm
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- 3y
I’ve been dealing with that too where out of the blue after being intimate with my husband, something didn’t feel right and I started questioning my sexuality out of the blue and every time I convinced myself “im straight” my mind keeps making me have doubts and I have never questioned myself all my life and im in my 30s. Im talking to someone about it now, but like you it has been making me uncomfortable and I get very scared and it makes me physically ill having these intrusive thoughts since August
Sp1999Sp1999
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- 3y
I really hope you recover from this ! :( . This all happened to me bc of porn, i literally over thought what i finished to and next thing i know im freaking out for 3 months straight then it started to calm down and it got scary bc i felt like it was true. (Im sorry im embarrassed bc im talking about somethings) i could go all day with how i felt and feel now and my mind will never accept logic
MillerbmMillerbm
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- OCD Conqueror
- Date posted
- 3y
That’s how it started with me and unfortunately I was pregnant and cause I’m still in recovery from delivering my son 10 months ago
Sp1999Sp1999
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- OCD Conqueror
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- 3y
Its really hard right now, i keep talking to my girlfriend about this and she cant help me , :( sometimes i say to myself can it be true so i can stop with the ocd stuff but in reality that wont happen. Ill either end up in a different theme or just be stuck on this forever. Happy late congrats on the new born ! But keep fighting through it :). You got this, that baby can be your motivation
MillerbmMillerbm
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- 3y
Yes and thankfully I’ve got a supporting husband that has done his own research on ocd and postpartum stuff
Sp1999Sp1999
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- OCD Conqueror
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- 3y
Any advice i should give to my girlfriend with helping me with soocd ?
MillerbmMillerbm
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- 3y
Just make sure she’s there to listen and hold your hand. If you’ve been using soothing techniques, tell her what they are, show her what to do so that way if the intrusive thoughts come back, she can work with you through it and she can be your reassurance
Sp1999Sp1999
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- 3y
Thankyou !
MillerbmMillerbm
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- 3y
It also helps knowing if she knows you well enough to know who you truly are. I’ve known my husband for 10 years and have been married for 5.5 years so he knows me very well to know who I am and that I am attracted to him and not women
Sp1999Sp1999
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- OCD Conqueror
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- 3y
We went to high-school together but never talked but she had a crush on me. But weve been around each other for almost 4 years now, i think she knows me well enough
MillerbmMillerbm
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I’m glad to hear that
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