pluralines
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- 3y
PinkLotusPinkLotus
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- 3y
I think I can relate. For me I’m still relatively new to sex and I have so many anxieties about sex in general and being so vulnerable. This makes sex incredibly difficult sometimes and so it made me kind of question. Additionally I don’t focus so much on the visual aspect of sex and if I don’t get instantly aroused seeing my partner naked I start spiraling
S.verv20S.verv20
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- 3y
Same, I didn’t know what it really was until it happened and you imagine it because of tv and everything but when you stress a lot it’s différent for real
eoideoid
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- 3y
I think sex is like the centre of soocd! For example, for me sex was always super painful (I have a chronical illness, but I found out later). I always imagined sex as something that is magic, that will make you feel on the moon! But I always felt so much pain! And my mind couldn't explain that, so I started to search what could be the motivation! (and that is how inconciously my soocd started) I'm saying that the perception that you have of sex & intimacy; is strictly related to ocd! (Not that you all have my chronic pain)!
Mimi123Mimi123
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- 3y
I understand what ur saying! But I think there is a difference between being uninformed or suffering with ocD! We all ain’t 100% sure of anything! But a person with OCD will always look to what it doesn’t know!
Mimi123Mimi123
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- 3y
My ocd starts everytime someone tells me they have a fantastic sex life! But I believe most of it isn’t! They just remember the good times and try to be happy! We remember about everything that went wrong and try to explain it
eoideoid
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- 3y
@Mimi123 Now that you are saying that, I just noticed I exactly work like that too! I tend to remember negative things over the positive ones! Do you think that this Is a bad thing that feeds our ocd?? (Plus, I really get super triggered too when someone say they loved sex and they want more! I envy them sooo much!)
eoideoid
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- 3y
@Mimi123 I know!! TW Even now that I have my diagnosis, I am constantly wondering things like "what If it's because you don't love him enough; what if he isn't the right one, what if in the reality you don't like sex because you are lesbian!"... I don't know If this is exactly ocd, but I know that I follow ocd therapy, and I improved a lot!!
Mimi123Mimi123
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- 3y
@eoid I totally get u! And since my ocd went really bad, my sex life is hard! And it kind of always was because I was always justifying every little detail of it! I think that is our feeding mechanism sometimes! We prefer to believe we have control than not knowing that we like it or not! But ocd is the first thing that stops u from enjoying sex! And seeing the movies faking a sex life makes u feel down! People hate to admit they’re problems in bed! So they only talk about the good things! I had a friend who said she didn’t like sex! And it was the first time I felt like I was “normal” because she had the same constant overthinking in and after and before bed! And that’s something that destroys our sex life! My ocd started with a problem that didn’t allow me to have sex! So that was the time I started to put so much pressure on me!
ocdsucks_ocdsucks_
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- 3y
I’ve wondered this; I haven’t lost my virginity yet so I have so many questions. Like I me wonder, if I did lose my virginity then would it “clear up” more of my SOOCD? 😭
eoideoid
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- 3y
Maybe; Maybe not! 😉
Mimi123Mimi123
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- 3y
No! I’m not a virgin and I still have the same questions
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