AlwaysAnxious26
- Date posted
- 3y ago
StuckinmyheadStuckinmyhead
- Date posted
- 3y ago
You’re not alone. We’ve had lots of breaks and breakups. Just try to focus on taking care of yourself and try not to worry too much about what tomorrow will bring 💕 trust that no matter what happens, you are strong and can get through it
kitteakittea
- Date posted
- 3y ago
This is where I’m at rn and I just want you to know you’re not alone. Like I know it’s the right thing to do but it really hurts and I still love him but I’m kind of in the anger stage of grief right now where I’m hurting a lot and processing the frustration of why and how it happened. You are not alone. I just went back to therapy because of the breakup and that may sound silly but breakups are so hard and you need extra love and care thru this time. ❤️
m00sem00se
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Yes! You can do this. I know it's silly but there's a taco bell commercial where the girl gets a text from her ex, rolls over, and dreams of tacos. I try to remind myself that will be me if we break up. I will focus on things that bring me joy if I can just roll over and get through the night. One night at a time. And if it's meant to be it will be and you'll be stronger either way. I'm here for you.
m00sem00se
- Date posted
- 3y ago
Same as Stuckinmyhead. My so and I have had a ton of breaks and breakups. One that lasted for 1-2 years. That one was really difficult for me. I would get really obsessed with the fact that everything that went wrong was my fault. I would think if we had the "right conversation" everything would be good as new. I would contact him to talk about it and it would only set us both back. It got really bad for me. I became so obsessed with the idea of losing him I chose to do really bad things to my body and threatened to kill myself. After that night we didn't talk for a long time. We got quarantined together after a friend's wedding and it took a lot of work but we had both grown a lot. I recognized the things I was accountable for and focused on being a better person. If we got back together then cool, but if not then I had already done the hard part of losing him for a long period of time.
kitteakittea
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I’m personally at the “right conversation” point. I’m having to force myself to have space because every time I reach out to him to check in, it’s like I start from square one and hurt all over again
m00sem00se
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@kittea Sorry I accidentally replied to your comment on the thread.
kitteakittea
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@m00se no problem!!
StuckinmyheadStuckinmyhead
- Date posted
- 3y ago
I just want to say I resonate and really appreciate your story. My partner and I broke up in June 2021 and this is our longest break up yet. He’s seeing someone and I still keep trying to fix it and make it right. It’s just making everything harder but I am so obsessed with it, and devastated when we have a set back. We were in a good place and actually had a really lovely friendship up until a few weeks ago when things got difficult again. But yes, I really appreciate your view on it. I’m glad you’re in a better place now
m00sem00se
- Date posted
- 3y ago
@Stuckinmyhead I'm really glad you appreciate my story. That makes me feel heard. I hear you. That is gut sinking to hear and I can't imagine what you're going through. I really do feel for you and I'm here if you ever want to talk. I've learned a lot from this and I am still learning but I do want to tell you that every day is a constant battle. I have suicidal ideation and when I fall back in my ways and connect myself to my relationship, I believe that I am not good enough if we fight and that we're only back together bc I'm weak. I also want to say that I don't have to know you to know there will be moments where you think "this is why it happened." It might even be as small as reacting different to something you used to would have compulsed about. To me, you sound like a person who is very understanding, determined, kind. You are lucky to have you in your life. I'm really sorry that you're going through this but you are very important, smart, and deserve to grow.
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