I have a big problem and I would love you guys if you read me :( I’ve just asked some break to my boyfriend, I’ve been struggling with ROCD thoughts since the beginning of the relationship, even I remember saying yes to him having doubts, and yesterday I felt so overwhelmed that I needed a break... The thing is that I don’t feel connected with him, I don’t even feel really happy around him and feel like I’m faking feelings, no butterflies, etc and lately I’ve been feeling all that I’ve been missing with a friend of mine :( and now I’m SO confused, my bf is such a calm, nice guy, my friend is kinda crazy and chaotic (also I am) and now I don’t know what to do... I feel really depressed and guilty, at the same time I feel that I’m gonna miss something good if I leave him... but I don’t know if I will be lying to myself if I keep this relationship, or is there any chance for us to get along and finally make “click”? We have 8 months dating... Also there are some things that makes me fear... like I haven’t met his family... idk I’ve been crying a lot, and been very sensitive if anyone asks for my boyfriend... does that mean that I really like him? Should I give him a chance? But at the same time I feel like I don’t want to... My head hurts so much right now ?

Hi! I’m not suffering with this type of ocd so I can’t say that I relate to what you may be going through.. it sounds like you may need to talk to him so that it can bring you two closer and so that you can understand each other? If you truly love him I think you should give him a chance

At the same time if you feel that he is not the one, and that you don’t click that maybe that just is the case! But I think communication is key here. Good luck and go with your gut!

In my experience, I married a guy even though I had these feelings, thinking that I wasn’t going to find someone who loved EVERYTHING about me and I was settling bc he was very genuine and sweet. Fast forward 18 months and I just hit a wall and couldn’t overcome that thoughts in my head and the doubts I always had. I talked to him about it and there were times I was feeling a like I was being taken advantage of and I needed more from him. He changed his was fora few months and everything went back to the way it used to be. Sometimes I feel like your heart and mind knows what’s best for you, but it’s hard to listen to those true feelings. I divorced him and I started focusing on myself. I finished my degree and career and I was happy and healthier. Then I found a guy I fell in love with and was with for 5 years. He asked me to move away with him, and I did. I sold my house and most of the stuff in it. Long story short, I started falling out of love with him and I ended up cheating on him which scared me, bc that’s not me at all. I couldn’t help but feel like I was repeating the same patter as I did in my marriage and I knew I didn’t want to live that way. I left him and had to swallow my pride and move into a small apartment. I’m still going through the healing process, but deep down, I truly am happier without him. I miss my house and the stuff I had but those are material things and will be replaced one day, but your heart and feelings can never be replaced. Sorry it’s so long, but I hope in some way this helps you!!