Relationship ocd

Hi ... so im suffering with relationship ocd... my partner is the best and I love her to bits... but I'm constantly checking my attraction towards other women to see how attracted to them I am and constantly imaging that if I were put in a situation (erotically) where I had to say yes or no to cheating would i 100% be able to say no? And then I'm not sure if I could... (this is all Purley based on attractiveness) which scares the crap outa me!! And sometimes I feel.like I'm more attracted to some other women rather than my partner (physically) and question if this is normal? Is it? Is this relationship ocd? :( :(

Relationship OCD

Username: AnonymousAnonymous

Date posted: 2y ago

I could be wrong but this sounds more like OCD in general rather than relationship OCD but since you are experiencing it while being in a relationship, it might feel like ROCD. I had ROCD and it was more focused on me doubting my partner and everything my partner did before we even started dating. It just popped in my head one day and took 6 months of talking it out with my very supportive partner for it to go away. I used to obsess about my parters life before me and repeated do compulsions. I was anxious and made my partner anxious too, which they did not deserve at all. This was before I got diagnosed with OCD. So I didn’t even realise what was happening to me

Username: KolbeKolbe

Date posted: 2y ago

I don’t want to give you reassurance on this but only to say that I’ve been there before and it is a very painful experience. My heart goes out to you!!!

Username: 67566756

Date posted: 2y ago

Anyone else get the same thing?

Username: Jeffrey Jeffrey

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y ago

I am sorry that this is so challenging. OCD will always take what is dear to us and try to turn it around. And doing compulsions will make the ocd stronger, so by “checking” you are making the ocd stronger. When the intrusive thought comes into your mind, you can acknowledge it as an intrusive thought and remind yourself that you don’t need to figure out the answer to the question. This doesn’t mean the anxiety will go down, or the thought will magically disappear, but it means that you will not argue with ocd to try and prove or disprove an intrusive thought because ocd will never allow you to win the argument.

Username: Jeffrey Jeffrey

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y ago

It sounds to me like it could be relationship OCD. Checking attraction to other women is a compulsion that will make the ocd stronger. When you get an intrusive thought about someone else being attractive, instead of comparing sit with the thought and the anxiety instead of testing yourself and instead of trying to prove or disprove the intrusive thoughts acknowledge the thought and let it be there. We must live by our values and not our fear. The truth is we don’t know what we would do in any given scenario, but people do live according to their values and that is all we can know.

Username: daisy1728383

Date posted: 1y ago

Rocd and relationships

Had for ocd for years about loyalty towards my gf would feel awful if I thought bad off my gf and thinking other girls r goood looking missing my ex ect but now I’m almost better and now don’t avoid looking at girls which I did for a year I find my self wanting to look at girls and get an overwhelming attraction feeling that I don’t get towards my gf? I find every girl attractive now and feel awful like I’m better off alone as I feel Numb a lot towards my gf but thY would be because of all the trauma towards her from ocd. Any one else struggling with this ? We have been together almost 24/7 for 2 years is this normal the lack of attraction ?

Username: TT2022

Date posted: 1y ago

ROCD? Cheating OCD?

Is it normal to find someone else attractive. When I get this thought or feeling.. whatever it is.. I feel as though I’m about to act on something. Or I guess my fear is that I WANT to act on something even though I know I don’t want to because I love my partner and family and I don’t want to jeopardize it. But I still get this urge when I find someone attractive and so my best idea is to avoid them. Does this happen to anyone else in a long term relationship/married? It makes me feel horrible and I hate having to confess this.

Username: Anonymous

Date posted: 1y ago

ROCD

I just wanted to ask a quick question. I love my partner and have ocd but whenever I feel pretty or try to dress nice, an instant image pops in my head of another guy at work. This makes me feel like it’s proof I like that guy but I have no interest what so ever, I love and am obsessed with my partner. What is happening, and is this normal?

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