- Username
- Anonymous
- Date posted
- 2y ago
Can ROCD mix with real events affecting feelings about a partner?
ROCD
Does anyone else’s ROCD blend with real event ocd and center around something their partner did in real life? My partner slept with someone else before he considered us to be exclusive. He told me about it months later, once we were mutually committed to each other in totally in love just so that we would have no secrets from each other. I struggled with it for a while but ultimately decided to forgive him. This happened 10 years ago and we have had the happiest, most supportive, healthy, loving, and fun relationship ever since (and have been married now for 3.5 years). But recently I haven’t been able to stop thinking about what he did. It makes me angry and disgusted and disappointed with him and I get so mad at him, to the extent that it may as well have happened yesterday rather than in the much distant path before he was even committed to me. It’s tainting our otherwise wonderful relationship.