- Date posted
- 3y
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- Date posted
- 3y
Hi Rinata, As hard as it may seem, the best way to not let the possible false memories consume your mind and your day is to try not focus on them and whether or not they are real. I find the more I revisit memories trying to figure out what really happened or IF it happened, the more distorted they become (like a copy of a copy) and the harder it is to sort out what really happened. That in turn make me spend more trying to focus on them and taking up more of my day and causing more anxiety. Also, if they did happen it seems like the more I think about the more twisted they can become, making them seem much worse than they really were as confirmed by others who were there. One way to think about it is, whether it did or did not actually occur, no amount of replaying it or regret can ever change it, we can only move fwd and try to be the best person we can one day at a time. Not to seek reassurance, but if you have a false memory about something or someone, you can always ask them if it actually occurred, just don’t ask repeatedly. Try to stay strong against your OCD Bully, it wants you to question yourself and your memories.
- Date posted
- 3y
Thank you❤
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- 23w
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- Date posted
- 9w
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