- Date posted
- 6y
- Date posted
- 6y
Read on erectile disfunction and porn. Its an addiction. I dont think women should just accept that men are different, thats old world thinking its 2019. This is happening because his expectations are distorted because porn is fiction. Itll only get worse if he doesn’t cut it off.
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- 6y
I'm also bothered by my fiance masturbating. Try not to let it get to you. Masturbation and sex mean different things to men especially. They masturbate for the quick release and not having to focus on anyone but themselves. My fiance does it to relieve stress. I'd say only worry if it completely interferes with your sex life. Though, from personal experience, my fiance wants to have sex with me less when my anxiety is through the roof...so that could be a factor.
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- 6y
See I don’t know if it really does interfere with our sex life, because there will be times when he can’t finish and he says it’s because he masturbated the night before, or times when he won’t be in the mood or able to perform because he already masturbated and it takes him so long to build back up libido.
- Date posted
- 6y
It's the same with my fiance. He can't finish if he already came recently (that day) and it makes him not in the mood to have sex. I understand. It's frustrating and it feels personal. But for me, I'm not necessarily in the mood when he's masturbating anyway... I just wish he'd still go after me. Lol
- Date posted
- 6y
I should also clarify, I am also male, he is gay I am bi, though the concern still stands and definitely applies to women in regards to their boyfriends, but with a bit of a different perspective. And to Aela’s point, I agree, he told me he likes masturbating because he can just pick up his phone and look at what ever he wants to masturbate to. Sure I’ve watched porn before, but I know that it’s fake and I make the best out of what my boyfriend and I have, not let myself think it should be perfect and exactly like porn.
- Date posted
- 6y
I feel the same way. I felt weird when I found out my boyfriend had masturbated recently after telling me he had stopped, and he told me he wouldn’t do it anymore if it caused me anxiety. Also watching porn and masturbating can literally cause a man’s brain (and penis) to become numb to the idea of sex, it’s strange but this is what happened to my boyfriend right before we began dating. He had issues with his sex drive and staying hard but then he stopped watching porn and masturbating and now has a completely normal sex drive. He still has issues with getting off though which sometimes feels frustrating and like it’s my fault but it’s definitely something that goes on men’s heads. Maybe if you talk to your partner about how it makes you feel and if you look into how porn and masturbating can effect men’s sensitivity and sex drive to present to him, your partner will take that into consideration, especially if you let your partner know this effects your anxiety.
- Date posted
- 6y
@jesspb 100% facts.
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- 23w
+18 only!! TW for sexual content!! (This might be TMI, but I need advice) So, this is kinda embarrassing, but I haven't been able to self-pleasure without feeling shame or guilt. It's so bad that I've just stopped altogether, but I don't want to avoid it. It was something I enjoyed and was comfortable with, and now, because of OCD, it just makes me feel... gross. It's a perfectly normal and healthy thing to do, but my mind just tries to convince me that it's wrong. Had anyone else dealt with this? It's not a huge issue, but I'm tired of unnecessary shame. :(
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- 21w
I’ve been struggling with something that’s been really overwhelming, and I’m hoping to get some perspective from others here. I feel a lot of guilt about it, and I’m not sure if I’m alone in this experience. Lately, I’ve found myself daydreaming about romantic situations or getting caught up in ‘what if’ scenarios—where I wonder if I could develop feelings for someone else, or if someone develops feelings for me. The thing is, I’m in a relationship that I love, and I don’t want to act on these thoughts at all. What makes it even harder is that these thoughts often hyperfixate on one specific friend, and sometimes they feel entertaining or give me a dopamine rush. But then, of course, I feel even more guilty because it makes me feel like I’m betraying my boyfriend. These thoughts usually happen when I’m upset and looking for comfort, but then they morph into romantic scenarios, which makes me feel so disloyal. I’m constantly going back and forth between feeling curious or entertained by the thoughts and then feeling horrible for even allowing them to happen in the first place. I keep confessing these thoughts to my boyfriend, and he tries to be understanding. He’s just never been the type to daydream, so he doesn’t know if this is something other people experience or if it’s just me. I feel like such an awful girlfriend. Has anyone else dealt with something like this?
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- Date posted
- 14w
I know that anxiety and OCD can affect you in a lot of ways and I know it can affect your sex life. I was having sex with this chick about 4 days ago and everything about was amazing. it was a random hookup. But I got tired quick and got so worried about meeting certain expectations during intercourse I lost my erection part way through and couldn't match her pace and that felt honestly embarrassing and debilitating. Like there is no way I should be not keep it up with this chick. But I am aware anxiety can destroy performance in intercourse and I look at porn and notice other guys maintain erections forever without constant stimulation. A few seconds with stimulation and I lose mine. But I am been like that pretty much forever. Do I have misconception about how that works or is something wrong with me cause the doubt sucks. The girl even said that it was weird how I got soft after not that long. But she tried to be supportive for the most part but it felt terrible. If i am not flexing by pelvic muscles it feels like I can't maintain it.
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