- Date posted
- 6y
- Date posted
- 6y
Read on erectile disfunction and porn. Its an addiction. I dont think women should just accept that men are different, thats old world thinking its 2019. This is happening because his expectations are distorted because porn is fiction. Itll only get worse if he doesn’t cut it off.
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- 6y
I'm also bothered by my fiance masturbating. Try not to let it get to you. Masturbation and sex mean different things to men especially. They masturbate for the quick release and not having to focus on anyone but themselves. My fiance does it to relieve stress. I'd say only worry if it completely interferes with your sex life. Though, from personal experience, my fiance wants to have sex with me less when my anxiety is through the roof...so that could be a factor.
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- 6y
See I don’t know if it really does interfere with our sex life, because there will be times when he can’t finish and he says it’s because he masturbated the night before, or times when he won’t be in the mood or able to perform because he already masturbated and it takes him so long to build back up libido.
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- 6y
It's the same with my fiance. He can't finish if he already came recently (that day) and it makes him not in the mood to have sex. I understand. It's frustrating and it feels personal. But for me, I'm not necessarily in the mood when he's masturbating anyway... I just wish he'd still go after me. Lol
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- 6y
I should also clarify, I am also male, he is gay I am bi, though the concern still stands and definitely applies to women in regards to their boyfriends, but with a bit of a different perspective. And to Aela’s point, I agree, he told me he likes masturbating because he can just pick up his phone and look at what ever he wants to masturbate to. Sure I’ve watched porn before, but I know that it’s fake and I make the best out of what my boyfriend and I have, not let myself think it should be perfect and exactly like porn.
- Date posted
- 6y
I feel the same way. I felt weird when I found out my boyfriend had masturbated recently after telling me he had stopped, and he told me he wouldn’t do it anymore if it caused me anxiety. Also watching porn and masturbating can literally cause a man’s brain (and penis) to become numb to the idea of sex, it’s strange but this is what happened to my boyfriend right before we began dating. He had issues with his sex drive and staying hard but then he stopped watching porn and masturbating and now has a completely normal sex drive. He still has issues with getting off though which sometimes feels frustrating and like it’s my fault but it’s definitely something that goes on men’s heads. Maybe if you talk to your partner about how it makes you feel and if you look into how porn and masturbating can effect men’s sensitivity and sex drive to present to him, your partner will take that into consideration, especially if you let your partner know this effects your anxiety.
- Date posted
- 6y
@jesspb 100% facts.
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- 25w
TMI!! Hey everyone, I was coming on here to ask if anyone has experienced this before! Im in an amazing relationship with my boyfriend so in this post I wanted to ask this question because this is how it felt to me! I remembered earlier today I was watching this movie, etc. and there was this spicy scene in it (iykyk) and it got me feeling some sort of way. This has happened before especially if I’ve played a game or watched a show with some content like this. I felt really in the mood and started to imagine my boyfriend and I doing those things together and I sort of decided to (yanno, the m word) hopefully everyone understands because I just don’t like saying the word😭, but I found that every time I do that, that’s when my ocd is at its worst/peak. Every time my mind has tried to convince me I’ve cheated, when I self pleasure. I get in the mood if I think of my boyfriend and I doing those things I see in movies, shows etc, and that’s when I’ll do it, But literally I realized after I’ve done that at times my ocd is at its worst because my mind will attack me constantly asking “Is this cheating? Does this make me a horrible girlfriend?” If I self pleasure, I also want to add that I mentioned it to my boyfriend at one time and he told me it wasn’t at all and that everything is okay, but constantly I feel guilty for it and extremely horrible. Just wanted to see if anyone else has experienced this?
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- Date posted
- 16w
When I was single, I watched a lot of porn, specifically lesbian porn even though I’m straight. When I got into my current relationship I dwindled down and eventually stopped watching porn of any kind, around six or so months ago. I had a flare up recently that has caused me to question every part of myself including my sexuality and my identity, my relationship, and other things that are important and valued to me, and porn keeps popping up in all of these things. I feel like my porn usage was me cheating on my boyfriend, especially in the early parts of our relationship. I broke down to him last month about it and he said it was okay, that he forgives me, but I’m still hung up on it because I can’t shake the feeling that I’ve wronged him and that I’m a terrible person and that I need to leave him because of this. This is so excruciatingly painful. I don’t want to keep confessing over and over and over again, but I don’t want to be a dirty lying cheater, which I feel like I am.
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- 16w
i was with my lover we didn't have that much time together and at some point she fell asleep because she was overwhelmed. at first, I was okay with it but as time passed I started to feel stressed andd annoyed, because i wanted to spend time together which is no excuse i feel bad about this. also, i hoped we might have been intimate ( i didn't tell her or ask her to be intimate tho) and the fact that she was sleeping meant that we couldn't cus we wouldn't have had enough time so idk i felt annoyed about that. i have this thing that i deeply hate where every time we have alone time together i get the hopes that we might be intimidate but when j realise we probably can't i start having this obsession where i have to reassure myself to the point of nausea because the idea of being disappointed ( or actually feeling disappointed) about not having sex terrifies me ,it makes me feel like im dangerous or that i want to force myself on her so i just start repeating to myself that it's fine. so like this obsession started happening, but im afraid that for a moment ( idk how brief it was, im deeply ashamed of this ) i felt justified about being annoyed about not having sex because she was sleeping and it's not fair cus she was struggling and overwhelmed and i should have cared about that not about fickle things. but still I was annoyed and stressed out ( because I also started feeling really guilty ) and when she told me she was sorry about her mood i don't think i reassured her properly, i told her it was okay but i wasn't that sweet, I was a bit quiet idk if i actually seemed annoyed. after a little while i tried to stop feeling this weird wnd i tried to focus on her and how she felt, so I cuddled her and tried to make her feel better. I reassured her that she had nothing to be sorry for, that it's okay if she had a bad day. in the end she did feel better, she thanked me a thousand times for being patient and kind but that made me feel even worse because internally i felt annoyed which is horrible. i feel terrible also, i tried to wake her up a few times. it's not unusual because she usually tells me to let her nap 10 minutes. so at first i let her nap for like 30 mins cus she had very little sleep that day, i wanted her to rest. and then j started to try and wake her up, when she wouldn't wake up i would let her nap a little while longer ( at least 10 mins ) but i feel bad because i probably was a little pushy because i felt annoyed about not having that much time together and so not having time to be intimate. idk. i feel horrible. i shouldn't be that annoying and annoyed about not having sex, It feels so scary that i insisted on waking her up, i hate being pushy. idk
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