All my life I had labeled myself as bisexual. And I was OK with that! It never really made me uncomfortable or doubt. Even know, when I think about the possibility of me being bisexual, or just straight I feel alright and normal!! I don’t have a SOCD crap attack over it! BUT when me being a lesbian is involved, that’s when my OCD explodes!! Anyone else get like that?
i tried the whole labeling myself as bi thing when i first started experiencing this obsession. it didn’t feel right, but i was like i guess if the opportunity presents itself and i wanna try being w a girl, that’s okay! that day never came but the obsession grew lol! i think what we can all agree on is that ocd attacks us in areas of our lives that matter. being a lesbian in our minds would mean we could no longer be with our male partners, which we would never want. my rocd only worsens that fear!
Huh!! I never thought about it that way! I do agree that ROCD def tries to just tear us away from our partners. It sucks :(
This has sincerely been my exact issue since I was a teenager. Thank you for sharing.
Same!! All my life I thought I was straight, but now think I could be bi. I’m totally cool with either of those labels but when it comes to lesbian or gay my OCD just freaks out
IM SO GLAD IM NOT ALONE, but I’m so sorry we all have to deal with this :(
I can relate.. I thought of myself as straight and maybe a little bi my whole life. And I was cool with that! Didn't think anything of it until I got older and the thought of being a lesbian hit me like a bus. I also told my boyfriend that if I'm a lesbian, I have to leave him. To which he said "no you don't, if it turns out you are then we will deal with it when it comes" and I was like wait, I can do that? 🤨. Even though that gave me relief for the moment, it's obviously not enough for my brain 😭 it's so difficult
I agree with you 😭😭
Yes
I think bc if I’m straight or bi I could still be with men but if I’m lesbian I can’t
@cc97 EXACTLY! I told my bf my tonight that if I was a lesbian I’d have to leave him, and he said, “no you wouldn’t?” And although it felt silly trying to explain to him about it, I then felt silly even doubting my sexuality!
Question, I started to just call myself bi even tho I’m sure I’m not because literally never thought of a girl in that way. But it does make me feel better at the time, but then I still worry “but what if you’re still actually lesbian” idk why I’d think I could be lesbian and no bi. This makes no sense. But I guess it’s true right? When they say ocd will never let you rest with any decision you make.
I don’t want to offend or trigger anyone! I just feel like I need talk about this. if anyone relates to this let me know!! At this point I don’t have a lot of anxiety about my sexuality anymore and it’s kinda scaring me. i really doubt i am a lesbian because i absolutely love my boyfriend, and i don’t find any relativity in the label lesbian. like it’s hard to explain, but i just get a feeling around each label. i feel like i am straight, but like some kind of fluidity. but i feel like bisexuality is so open and fluid that i like could possibly be? i have no idea. i also don’t know if my OCD is making it so i believe that i’m bisexual even though i’ve never questioned it before?? I don’t think i would mind being bisexual, but it’s still a little weird to me. but even then i could not see myself dating women lol. i love men. so maybe i’m bisexual but with a big preference to men? I really find comfort in the fact and idea that i love men and are drawn to men. i am however VERY uncomfortable with the idea of being with a woman. i mean even if my friends who are girls try to hold my hands i get uncomfy and grossed out lol. I DON’T KNOWWWW
I feel so many discussions of SO-OCD revolve around (mostly) straight identifying people fearing they are gay, or the reverse. But has anyone who identifies as bisexual or queer experienced SO-OCD? I am a woman married to a man, and while my sexual orientation has been reasonably fluid since I was in my teens, I have consistently felt a preference for men, and never felt the need to put a label on my identity (including straight) - and I’ve never hidden the fact that I’ve had flings with women. About three years ago I had the “brain broke” moment where I suddenly out of nowhere thought: “I am bisexual, I have been masquerading as straight since I’m married to a man, and I have to come out to everyone I know.” It was all I could think about. The fact that I felt shame accompanying it made me fear that I might be using the term bisexual to cover up the fact that I was actually gay. It particularly messes with my head because OCD is characterised as “unwanted” thoughts, but actually I am occasionally attracted to people of other genders, so these thoughts are not always unwanted. Which makes me wonder whether I am just in denial, and I don’t have OCD at all? And thus the cycle continues… Would just love to hear from anyone else if they relate to this!
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