crc_1394
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Agree or not?
Does anyone think or agree that people of the same race/culture have the “ultimate connection/understanding?” Genuinely curious.
NicaNica
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In certain ways but not 100% since everyone is an individual with different experiences.
jgaljgal
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It sounds like you might want to try exposing yourself to the idea that maybe people from the same race/culture have the ultimate connection with each other, and maybe they don’t. I know how scary the uncertainty feels, but OCD loves to latch onto topics that you can’t be totally certain about, and I think that’s what’s happening here. I doubt anyone out there is 100% sure of the answer to this question! When you accept that it might be one way or might be the other, you begin to realize that you don’t need the answer in order to have an awesome relationship with another person.
jgaljgal
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I’m in a relationship where we’re both from different cultures, and I have ROCD, but this question doesn’t bother me at all— that just goes to show you how OCD can latch on to totally random things that to other people seem like not a big deal at all! So maybe one day this will seem like not a big deal to you, too.
crc_1394crc_1394
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@jgal Thank you for this response. It’s been my obsession for so many years🤦🏾♀️ever since I started connecting more with people of my culture the obsession began. I’m African American and my boyfriend is Caucasian. And I love how my people do and say certain things and thus the obsessions and comparisons began. So my ocd makes me worry I can only connect to my bf to a certain point since he’s a different race and then the connection stops. Biggest fear ever that I secretly want and need to be with someone of my own race. Not that that would be bad bc it wouldn’t, but sometimes the idea makes my body feel less anxious and good and it gets more confusing. Bc of course there are certain aspects that people of my own race posses that I love that nobody else can replicate or should replicate. But I really appreciate your response. And thank you for the perspective of how ocd can truly latch onto absolutely anything.
jgaljgal
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@crc_1394 Totally! That sounds really hard. My boyfriend is of mixed heritage from a couple different places and I’m white so it’s not quite the same, but I can definitely see what you mean. For me with ocd, I think I would wonder — even if I had a new partner, who I felt I could share this deeper connection with because of our shared heritage, might I find something about THEM that wasn’t quite right and would bother my ocd? I don’t know about you, but in my case I think I would 😂
SizmixSizmix
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what do you mean do you mean do we think that all asians think alike or all americans think alike or have the same understanding of things
crc_1394crc_1394
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I mean, do all people of the same culture have a better/stronger understanding about each other’s lives than people in an interracial relationship would? It’s my obsession with ROCD
SizmixSizmix
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kind of if people are from the same culture they will have a good idea of what it's like but theres no definitive way to know what their lives are like individually
crc_1394crc_1394
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Does that mean they’ll make better partners? That’s my biggest fear. I’m scared I secretly want that or something. I’m in an interracial relationship and I’m scared somehow being with someone of the same race is “better”
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