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I have faith that things can be okay. I do not know you but I believe things can work out. Maybe try seeking help like speaking to a counselor if you can and maybe talk to him about you guys getting your own counselors to talk about you’re feelings. I feel like I’ve heard of this kind of thing before. You can be in a relationship and still have anxiety. High functioning anxiety. You can also be in a relationship and be depressed which sounds like him. Seeking help may help and learning ways to calm yourself down. It’ll take time and understanding from both ends and also can get very tiring having to be there for one another during a difficult time.
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I’m not counselor I just kind of paid attention to a lot of these topics and I also deal with anxiety and depression myself.
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Can it cause a false realization?
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@7710 ❤️ That I have no idea I’m sorry.
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I have been having more good moments but… after that date I had a huge amount of anxiety…. 😞 When we hung out with our friends I just kept thinking I wanted to break up… I keep saying I need help I need help over and over again.. I am gonna lose him… my attraction seems like it’s just gone… whenever I see him play a game or talk to him it’s like I am talking to a child… he’s not even doing anything… sometimes there are parts of his personality that I don’t find attractive sometimes 😞 but I know I’m not gonna find him attractive 24/7z
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It could swing either way unfortunately. You could be realizing this isn’t what you want or maybe you’re just freaking out about thoughts that aren’t true. I have heard there is a period of relationship that everyone goes through were the relationship gets “boring”. Idk if that’s what it going on here but I know that we aren’t always gonna like the people we’re around all the time. Relationships are weird. I’ve struggled with mine and then last night I had a dream that I left him but then immediately got upset because I wanted him back. So idk what that was about. I personally feel that you should reach out to someone who is more professional in mental health and just talk about what’s going on with you. Your thoughts and how you feel.
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😢😢😞😞😞
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The thing is I don’t wanna break up! I start crying when I think of it… we are going thru a rough patch…. I wanna save it! Ever since yesterday I am stuck believing I don’t love him when I know I do deep down. I know it bc I had moments of no anxiety and no obsessive behaviors.. I don’t wanna believe this is me… I don’t wanna end something I have fought for for so long. The idea of replacing him… I hate it… I don’t want the feelings I have… I just wanna know I love him.. it’s not far… 😢
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@7710 ❤️ I’m sorry hun
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my thoughts are screaming at me telling me that i dont want my relationship anymore and that i realized i lost feelings. i have a beautiful relationship of two years with a beautiful boy that loves me dearly and i deal with this thoughs for a year and a half. Im so scared it feels so real im scared i have changed and my last therapy session made it worse she basically told me i have to realise the thoughts are true and stop lying to myself. And made me think i am so scared and heartbroken bc i put high expectations on myslef to be with my boyfriend for all my life. Maybe i dont want to hurt him??? im always questioning my feelings for him 24/7 for over a year. I wm tierd
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I know it’s long but plz read :( have been having really bad ocd about my relationship and my partner and it has gotten worse and worse over the span of like about nine months I’d say. I do acknowledge there are flaws and legit issues about him and the relationship like there are with anyone but I also know ocd has clouded my judgement and perception by analyzing everything and compulsions. For a while I kept feeling this need to get out which I know was ocd. I was really scared to spend the weekend with him because I thought I would just be annoyed and irritated cause it’s been that way for a while but he also was going through a period of high stress so maybe I was resenting him for that and I also wasn’t communicating how I should have been when I was upset because I’ve done that too much in the past. This weekend I was told in therapy to just be in the moment and not have to worry about trying to answer the question of do I love him or should I break up. It did help but It’s weird cause this weekend ended up better but I also was kind of numb? Like I was enjoying myself but didn’t feel what I always have felt in the past? Anyway, I am really anxious because i feel like if I loved him I would be supportive of when his parents compliment him or when he does well at something when instead all I think of are that I’m not happy or annoyed because of things he does that upset me or make me mad and it’s like that’s the only way my brain wants to see him as a person. Or when he is upset it feels like I don’t care like I used to because I think of how he doesn’t deserve this when he does this or he shouldn’t have this when he is like this etc. Why does my brain automatically go there? That’s horrible! I feel like I should be excited for him, rooting for him. But it also feels like I do care for him? But my thoughts keep changing. I am afraid I only am with him because I love that he loves me and how he treats me. This makes me feel selfish cause I can’t do that. I notice I still like when he cuddles me and is sweet to me and does fun things watching movies etc. And that’s not how it used to feeel which scares me because I don’t want to be without him. I also love his parents am I only with him cause of how his parents treat me? I feel so selfish and like I have to tell him and break up with him cause it’s the right thing to do. I never used to feel like this. I’m scared. Is it possible I’m just I’ve been mad and resenting how it’s been cause he’s been stressed mix with my ocd? My therapist said relationships can go through phases. Can I fall back in love with him again? I feel like I have to try to start with someone else like this is too far gone. I don’t want to stay in something where I don’t feel toward him the way I want to but I really don’t want to leave him. I feel like such an awful person cause he doesn’t deserve this and is so caring and loving despite everything the major thing that bugs me is how he gets irritable a lot which is an imperfection that makes me get anxious and question him😭 trying not to read into this and just follow what the therapist said but this is scaring me because I feel like if I loved him I wouldn’t think like this or feel like this.
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Everyday I wake up and start searching for reason to breakup with my partner. I feel utterly confused by relationships and dating. Not to mention, I’m autistic and this has always been a huge struggle for me. In fact, it led me to both diagnoses of ASD and OCD. I can see there are some things I am not happy with in my current relationship and I understand that, but when does it become too much? I started having limerence over a random person because my brain just wants an out so fast. I told myself that I wouldn’t until I get proper help (medication, constant erp therapy etc). Every time I think about breaking up I start sobbing and my body vehemently rejects it. Its really confusing and disorienting for me and cant trust a damn thought in me. I’m scared that I’m just taking him along for the ride and potentially will severely fuck him up emotionally because of this. I guess thats where I can feel the OCD. My fear of being a bad person and the people around me being bad people. I dont know if I need advice because I think this may be me searching for a compulsion to do. But I just want to get this out of my system. I have severe Disney-like unrealistic expectations sometimes. I had to maladaptive daydream all the time growing up to get out of my traumatic upbringing and brain (tbh). I still do. I am aware of that and try to put myself into check. I just cant stop comparing my friends own beautiful relationships to my own. Most of them are in the “engagement” stage of their relationships. Even though it’s ridiculous, all of them have worked on it for many years at this point.
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