I’m getting married in six days but I have relationship OCD and I am having some MAJOR anxiety! I feel so bad like calling it off. What do I do??! I just need some help ASAP and some techniques please please!
You have relationship- themed OCD so OF COURSE getting married is going to trigger you! It’s probably the biggest exposure you will ever do! I got married 6 months ago and felt exactly the same, but tomorrow I’m going on my honeymoon!
I know its hard but trust me marrying is not a big deal. TBH why are u marrying just because your partner knows everything and will help you in future so be relax even if she doesn't know about still be relax there is always a way when one door is closed for you. Trust me everything is going to be fine and yeah good luck for marriage. You'll be great and such happy family just make sure to ask help from everyone no one in this world can solve problem by its own
Thank you so much, this helps a lot :))
oh hun, i’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. ocd always has to rain on our parade :(. but, you’ve been here before. this ceremony and the idea of marriage is a big big trigger for ROCD, which always pokes at us to make sure we aren’t making the wrong decision or we are 100% no doubt in love with our partner (or vice versa). you can absolutely do this. take the days leading up to the wedding doing things you love, take it easy on yourself. try discussing the anxiety with your partner (NO CONFESSING OR REASSURANCE SEEKING!). maybe try some meditations or some light exercising. your rocd is triggered and it’s trying to get you to avoid uncertainty. don’t let that win!!
THANK YOU!!!! I needed to hear this, I will definitely take it a little easier this week, and I will do some meditation for sure.
So encouraged by these comments. Y’all we really aren’t alone in this! @anonymous1829 - congratulations! Marriage is a good thing, even if we feel scared or triggered by it. I hope you can enjoy your big day :)
Thank you! :))
I honestly just need to vent. I am feeling so defeated. My wedding is coming up in about a month and I am not even excited about it. Which automatically makes me feel like a horrible person. But I’m just in this state of depression and anxiety probably because the wedding is getting closer and closer and my ROCD is flaring up so bad during this time and it’s just not making what’s supposed to be the happiest time of my life very enjoyable. My fiance is amazing this has absolutely nothing to do with him. He also is working A TON of hours so I barely see him throughout the week. I feel just very alone and sad during a time I should be extremely happy and I just guess I want someone who understands to tell me I’ll be okay and make it through this.
I get married in 5 days. And what’s suppose to be the happiest week of my life, is the most numb, dreadful and ocd-filled. I’ve suffered from what I’d call existential ocd for 2.5 years. It’s been so long with it that I THINK my theme has changed to.. “what if I never feel the same again?” “What if I never recover?” “What if I’m always left feeling numb and disconnected?” The existential ocd started with “life is meaningless thoughts”. They are still there. They’re relentless too. My brain just one day grasped that we die and immediately it led me to belief that because of death and because no one has answers.. life is meaningless. I developed very bad depression. And I think my ocd has latched on to this numb feeling. Let me say, I feel no positive or negative emotions. I can’t cry, I can’t feel, I don’t see a point, I don’t feel connected to anything or anyone. I get married in 5 days and I feel nothing. And let be clear, I love my fiance so so much. He is amazing. Everything I want and more. Everyday I wake up, my ocd is nonstop all day. I really don’t see a point in anything. I would say I have little to no insight OCD. I truly believe this is my life. Any advice appreciated.
Hey everyone! Not trying to seek reassurance, but more so would just love to know if others can relate so I feel less alone. I am engaged and planning my wedding for next summer, which has been very exciting and fun, EXCEPT that I sometimes get triggered by seeing TikToks or hearing people say that wedding planning should be like 100% equally shared between partners. I would say I am handling a bit more of the planning, mostly because I am the one who wanted the wedding more (as opposed to like a courthouse wedding) and will have many more guests, and my fiance is also just very easygoing and doesn’t have a ton of strong opinions about wedding stuff. But I’ve been hearing people say things like “planning your wedding together foreshadows how your marriage will be” and it’s causing me to overanalyze things, like how much we’re each contributing and whether it’s “enough” or whether it bodes well for our marriage. Even though we have a very healthy relationship and I’m super excited to marry him, and I really do consider us partners in every way. I just hate the black and white idea that everything should always be exactly 50/50 because my OCD brain latches onto that and starts looking for ways that we are “doomed.” Anyone out there experiencing something similar?
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