I’m getting married in six days but I have relationship OCD and I am having some MAJOR anxiety! I feel so bad like calling it off. What do I do??! I just need some help ASAP and some techniques please please!
You have relationship- themed OCD so OF COURSE getting married is going to trigger you! It’s probably the biggest exposure you will ever do! I got married 6 months ago and felt exactly the same, but tomorrow I’m going on my honeymoon!
I know its hard but trust me marrying is not a big deal. TBH why are u marrying just because your partner knows everything and will help you in future so be relax even if she doesn't know about still be relax there is always a way when one door is closed for you. Trust me everything is going to be fine and yeah good luck for marriage. You'll be great and such happy family just make sure to ask help from everyone no one in this world can solve problem by its own
Thank you so much, this helps a lot :))
oh hun, i’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. ocd always has to rain on our parade :(. but, you’ve been here before. this ceremony and the idea of marriage is a big big trigger for ROCD, which always pokes at us to make sure we aren’t making the wrong decision or we are 100% no doubt in love with our partner (or vice versa). you can absolutely do this. take the days leading up to the wedding doing things you love, take it easy on yourself. try discussing the anxiety with your partner (NO CONFESSING OR REASSURANCE SEEKING!). maybe try some meditations or some light exercising. your rocd is triggered and it’s trying to get you to avoid uncertainty. don’t let that win!!
THANK YOU!!!! I needed to hear this, I will definitely take it a little easier this week, and I will do some meditation for sure.
So encouraged by these comments. Y’all we really aren’t alone in this! @anonymous1829 - congratulations! Marriage is a good thing, even if we feel scared or triggered by it. I hope you can enjoy your big day :)
Thank you! :))
Hi everyone. I'm feeling kinda scared because I have to wait a whole month to start ERP therapy, but I feel like I need to start doing exposures now because the longer I wait, the more anxiety I get. It just feels like the OCD monster is getting worse. One thing that helps me is asking one person about an obsession I have...asking a person that I trust, and then doing an exposure after I get the "ok" to do it. I feel like I do need 1 reassurance and then I can go ahead and do it. I know i'm not supposed to ask for reassurance at all, but i dont think you're supposed to do ERP on your own right? Does anyone have any suggestions for what to do while waiting for therapy? PS-the reason there is a wait is bc she's on vacation. After she's back we will meet regularly.
I’m having a big OCD relapse and would like to hear anyone’s tips on how to be present and healthily deal with these intrusive thoughts and the “need” to preform compulsions. Thank you!!
I am a 21(female). I have only ever kissed one guy and it was horrible and I cried after. I stress about my sexuality constantly. I only want to be straight and know I want to end up with a man, but picturing it stressed me out and I am so scared to kiss a guy I think about it and get so stressed and cry immediately. I have severe intrusive thoughts about kissing everyone my teachers my best friends and it creeps me out and then I go down a rabbit hole of sexual orientation ocd! If anyone has any tips that might help that would be great. Again I don’t want or think I am gay but being so scared to be intimate with a man starts me down a spiral.
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