Need Help!
I’m getting married in six days but I have relationship OCD and I am having some MAJOR anxiety! I feel so bad like calling it off. What do I do??! I just need some help ASAP and some techniques please please!
You have relationship- themed OCD so OF COURSE getting married is going to trigger you! It’s probably the biggest exposure you will ever do! I got married 6 months ago and felt exactly the same, but tomorrow I’m going on my honeymoon!
I know its hard but trust me marrying is not a big deal. TBH why are u marrying just because your partner knows everything and will help you in future so be relax even if she doesn't know about still be relax there is always a way when one door is closed for you. Trust me everything is going to be fine and yeah good luck for marriage. You'll be great and such happy family just make sure to ask help from everyone no one in this world can solve problem by its own
Thank you so much, this helps a lot :))
oh hun, i’m so sorry you’re feeling this way. ocd always has to rain on our parade :(. but, you’ve been here before. this ceremony and the idea of marriage is a big big trigger for ROCD, which always pokes at us to make sure we aren’t making the wrong decision or we are 100% no doubt in love with our partner (or vice versa). you can absolutely do this. take the days leading up to the wedding doing things you love, take it easy on yourself. try discussing the anxiety with your partner (NO CONFESSING OR REASSURANCE SEEKING!). maybe try some meditations or some light exercising. your rocd is triggered and it’s trying to get you to avoid uncertainty. don’t let that win!!
THANK YOU!!!! I needed to hear this, I will definitely take it a little easier this week, and I will do some meditation for sure.
So encouraged by these comments. Y’all we really aren’t alone in this! @anonymous1829 - congratulations! Marriage is a good thing, even if we feel scared or triggered by it. I hope you can enjoy your big day :)
Thank you! :))
After having a peaceful couple weeks, I'm panicked and on edge. I'm getting married in a few weeks and I feel like I'm going to throw up. I feel like I *NEED* to know my sexuality. My current therapist doesn't think I have OCD, only that I have an attachment wound that needs healing. I don't really have parents anymore and only some of my family are attending the wedding. I suspect I have SO-OCD, because of the desperate need to know if I'm bisexual or secretly a lesbian. Ever since spiraling again, *every* thought goes back to questioning my sexuality, or the sexuality of others. I even get triggered by seeing hugging sisters. Before I thought I had SO-OCD, I was desperately trying to figure out if my partner was "the one". Now that I'm engaged the theme has changed and now I need to figure out my sexuality. I'm not looking for reassurance but I guess posting here gives some kind of relief. What can someone do in my situation? I feel like there's a timer to everything and I need to know ASAP. I don't want to start ERP right now. Can NOCD still help without doing ERP? Thank you, thank you x
Has anyone recently gotten married and was able to cope with their OCD through their engagement and actual wedding weekend? I’ve been doing great and just want to make sure I can handle the stress over the next few months and not ruin the weekend I’ve looked forward to for over a year. I feel some recent intrusive thoughts coming through that are “I am” statements which are new for me. Any tips or tricks would be appreciated.
My fiancé and I are getting married in just 42 days and my ROCD hasn’t spiked this hard in a long time. So many triggers, so much stress around planning makes it difficult not to fall into back on compulsions. I’m trying hard not to confess exact thoughts here nor am I looking for any reassurance. Just needed somewhere to put down that this is damn hard!!
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