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I've never used TikTok before and I've heard it's a super triggering app for literally ALL types of OCD. Which really sucks because I also heard it's a resourceful app
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Yes it’s a mix :( good w the bad
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I DON'T KNOW! Tik tok i so triggering🥲 Really I hear about this meaning of butterfly tattoo for the first time. Internet: some of the most commonly, butterflies symbolize the idea of rebirth after trauma, transformation, and even freedom.
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I think these meanings are much cooler!
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Yes! I was getting the butterfly because I used to self harm and would draw butterflies to help me stop. So it was a symbol of breaking free from that destruction. Now I’m debating on switching my entire tattoo and have no idea what I would even get. So many people have butterfly tattoos ugh
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@cc97 I think you should still get it despite the connotations other people will assign to it. You seem to have a thorough understanding of why you want the tattoo, and it's a personal one at that. So who cares if others may see it differently. We don't even know if the "lesbian" symbolism of it is understood by other lesbians and not just that one person in TikTok. Goodluck 🧡
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@cc97 You have your own meaning and girls from tiktok can't change it. So if you really want to do this butterfly tattoo, do it. I think it will be beautiful!
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@Rinata My ocd keeps saying if I get it then it means I’m a lesbian :(
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@Rinata Also heard that girls who wear sliver jwerly are lesbians and i wear that too ugh
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@cc97 I know! I struggle with it too :(
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As someone formerly with hocd, i couldn't imagine the stress that would cause. I really really hate seeing stuff like that around. It makes my brain obsess about weird stuff meaning you're a lesbian like cottagecore, liking plants or animals, Subarus, button up shirts, converse shoes, being too feminine, being too masculine, being too funny, ect, ect. The list is endless.
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this is so true. i find it confusing how we are told that perpetuating stereotypes is harmful, and yet they continue to reproduce them. idk, i just try to be supportive but also tune it out for my own recovery.
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Yes exactly!! It’s hard to not obesss over it when ur mind doesn’t stop
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@Anonymous Yeah, unfortunately our thoughts are uncensored and rehash stereotypes and make associations that we don't really believe. I choose to believe there are no "bad thoughts" but I find it interesting that this bias exists in every single creature's brain, whether they apply it or not.
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i cant speak for the lgbtq community but i think they make those tik toks and trends bc they want to connect and bond. just as we bond and joke on here about ocd, they bond and joke about stereotypes, “signs” someone is a part of their community, and bond over common experiences they share. we don’t get it because we aren’t a part of it, so they may view that idea of “all lesbians have butterfly tattoos” as a joke, but since we aren’t within their community and familiar w their jokes, we may take that as fact ESPECIALLY with ocd. its such a difficult compulsion when you try and “figure out” if your experiences or interests align with our lgbtq friends or ppl we see online. but i think it’s important to disengage with that. i know tik tok can be amazing for exposures, but i was like you just a couple days ago, constantly getting triggered and it was harmful for my recovery. at least right now, i know i’m not ready to be back on it until i can have a professional to guide me into that part of my exposure. so i deleted my account!
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Thank you!
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I keep seeing tiktoks of things that are like ‘things I did as a lesbian in denial’ or ‘things my not so straight straight friend said’ and I feel like I might relate to some!! But idk!! It’s kinda triggering me. I’ve had this 5 years on and off now so when it comes back the whole well you’ve had it so long you must be gay comes up. I have been with my boyfriend almost 6 years and i love him so much I don’t want to be gay (nothing weong with it - I’m just not and don’t want to be!)
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I feel like I want to be lesbian. I want to cry. I gave into compulsions and I went on lesbian TikTok. It feels like something I want to try and do and that I’d be happier. Why is it so real. I don’t want to be lesbian but I feel like I’m pushing down the truth. How do I stop giving into these compulsions and feel better, I can’t do this anymore. I don’t even remember being straight or liking men. I hate this.
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hi everyone just wanted to share what i’ve been going through lately. i’m a 24f and im a masc lesbian. i’ve been lesbian for as long as i can remember. i’ve had crushes on girls since i was very young, my first kiss was even with a girl in pre school. growing up i was told it was wrong and didn’t even know what the lgbt community was or anything like that and as an adolescent i wanted to fit in with all the other girls and have a boyfriend or like a boy but it felt forced and unnatural. middle school was when i really discovered my sexuality. i had a crush on a girl and it felt so real and different. from then on i knew i was lesbian. since then ive been very comfortable in my sexuality and i should mention that i can admit when a man is attractive and have always been secure in that there was no other meaning behind it, that’s how secure i was. as of late ive had small triggers that made me question if i secretly liked men but id shut it down quick. i often get gender envy and if i were to find a man attractive it’d be because i wish i could look like them but then the fixation started where my brain started asking if this meant i liked them and it completely derailed me. ive also seen so many tiktoks of lesbians who are suddenly straight which added to my fear. it got really bad this last month where i started going on chat gpt for reassurance. my mind started imaging scenarios with men and asking if i was aroused or if i would enjoy doing things with men. it got so bad i would dread going to the gym. these last couple days have been okay ive been letting the thoughts pass but now that ive been more passive my brain tells me that it must be true that i actually like men because now my brain doesn’t feel anxious. i’m ts a continuous loop does anyone have any advice ?
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