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Hi Kandyse, I'm both sorry that this is so hard for you right now, and so proud of you that you're trying to do it anyway. If these things are causing you this much distress, I'd probably suggest you wait and talk to your NOCD therapist about it. OCD therapy is all about sitting with our distress, but you need to learn the skills to do that first. Your therapist will know how to guide you through the process of building that hierarchy (the triggers/obsessions list) and addressing the things that scare you around OCD therapy. A big part of ERP is starting small and working your way up, and it sounds like these tasks just aren't small enough for you to be a good place for you to start. That's okay! That's what your therapist is there to help with. That doesn't mean there's nothing you can do between now and seeing your therapist, though. What I'd encourage you to do is, if intrusive thoughts come up about any of these therapy-related things, to try and gently sit with the anxiety they bring up instead of trying to push them away. If you have compulsions around these thoughts that you know you do, try and resist them as long as you can, even if it's just for a minute or a few seconds. ERP stands for Exposure and Response Prevention, and normally that looks like creating exposures for us to practice response prevention--but it sounds to me right now like this already IS an exposure for you, so the way to go might be to just meet yourself where you're at. Your therapist can help you with the rest. Wishing you the best of luck. It's great that you're seeking therapy and you should be super proud of yourself for taking this step, as well as for seeking support in this way. You got this!
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- 3y ago
I read something the other day that helped me. OCD is hard. ERP is hard. Choose your hard.
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- 3y ago
You are a warrior. What huge steps you are taking! So proud of you!
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- 3y ago
I am so happy for you that you were brave and took this first step. I know it can seem very scary at first- that's normal. Having OCD is hard, doing ERP is hard-either way it's hard! ERP does have rewards- over time you learn how to handle the OCD. At NOCD a specialist trained in ERP will walk you through the steps of ERP- they will take it at the right pace and know when to push you and when not to. ERP can be life changing, it has helped me regain so much. Having the support of a therapist can be a huge help when doing ERP, they can help you to remain motivated, encourage you and support you as well as hold you accountable.
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- 19w ago
Hi everyone. I'm feeling kinda scared because I have to wait a whole month to start ERP therapy, but I feel like I need to start doing exposures now because the longer I wait, the more anxiety I get. It just feels like the OCD monster is getting worse. One thing that helps me is asking one person about an obsession I have...asking a person that I trust, and then doing an exposure after I get the "ok" to do it. I feel like I do need 1 reassurance and then I can go ahead and do it. I know i'm not supposed to ask for reassurance at all, but i dont think you're supposed to do ERP on your own right? Does anyone have any suggestions for what to do while waiting for therapy? PS-the reason there is a wait is bc she's on vacation. After she's back we will meet regularly.
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- 17w ago
Hi I kept seeing this app on repeat on TikTok over and over and I thought I give it a shot. I have never been diagnosed with OCD but I know that I have it. I’m a young adult and I found out the first time I had OCD was watching lelelons truth video? I was 14 at the time She had to resist sitting back down in a chair after her having sat down she started having a mental break down when she was told to resist. That’s when I knew. It started with myself going up and down a staircase twice buckling unbuckling my seat belt everytime I’m in the car ect I have always been super anti social but trying my best I can socialize but my mind wants to make it sexual with family and friends ughhhh I hate it because that’s not me when I graduated thoughts of hurting my loved ones corrupted my mind I broke down outside of church one time asking if this was really me or not i question if I’m a good enough friend or person in this world to begin with thinking everyone is judging me so so close how can I make this situation better did I do something wrong I struggle with depression as well not to bad but it’s there I come from a loving family but broken as well i believe in god and my OCD makes me go often he’s not real that stuff isn’t real no one is there to save you the list goes on. Anyway I struggle a lot and I really hope that this will help me because I feel extremely hopeless. Lucky for me I do have the ability to seek therapy and I am excited. The only person I ever tell my thoughts to is God no other human has heard so I’m really really hoping this helps me out if your reading this thank you it means a lot because this is my first time ever admitting all this it’s a lot to take in I know and I hope you are ok and that you have a great night and know that we got this
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- 16w ago
I feel really scared and worried that the therapist I find on NOCD might not be effective, and instead of getting better, I might end up feeling worse. I’m afraid that if I don’t feel any progress, I’ll want to switch therapists, but my mom might get impatient with me. I worry that she’ll lose faith in therapy, stop paying for it, and think it’s a waste of time and money. I know therapy takes time and it’s not a quick fix, but I’m scared that things won’t go the way I hope. What if I don’t connect with the therapist? What if they don’t understand my OCD as well as I need them to? I’ve already been struggling so much, and the thought of going through another disappointment is exhausting. I’m only 14, and I feel stuck because I can’t manage this on my own. I need help, but I also need my mom to stay patient and supportive through this process. I’m scared that if things don’t improve fast enough, she’ll give up on paying for therapy. I don’t know what to do, and it’s making me feel really anxious. I just want to get better, but what if nothing works out?
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