i had a therapist who was a not good fit for me. anytime i told her my thoughts or compulsions she yelled at me for not resisting them even if they really scared me and i was really trying. this lead me to not want to tell her my thoughts. i then got yelled at for not being open enough. i really wanted to switch but she is trained in erp, so my parents wouldn’t let me. last session she told me i wasn’t getting better and have been doing therapy for too long. my therapist said she had no hope and found no way to fix me. this left me crushed. she also didn’t schedule another session at the end like she usually has always done. i’m so worried. am i uncurable? i’m trying so hard, i just want to get better? what do i do? has anyone else had a similar experience?

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I am so sorry that this has been your experience. This actually breaks my heart. ERP is challenging and I believe a therapist can challenge you and be supportive at the same time. Have you tried NOCD? I know we accept many insurances and offer payment plans. We do see people in the UK and in many other countries- not just the US. Either way please let your parents know how are you feeling and that you would like to change therapists- you need to feel heard and valued. It is important to recognize that no case is ever hopeless! You can get better from OCD and live the life that you envision. You may always have the OCD but you can find it way more manageable. Some people take longer than others to get to a place where they are ready and committed to treatment for whatever reasons. That's okay. You are not a lost cause!!!

Rude as hell for no reason. Absolutely continue with ERP therapy with another therapist. Though please note that there’s no cure for any mental illness, but you can recover. Recovery time takes a while; I was in intense therapy for 3 years before recovering from my mental illnesses. There’s definitely benchmarks that you should hit but they’re flexible because everyone is an individual.

My therapist is horrendous also. I have asked to change her 3 times now and had to put in a complaint about her, which I hate as it's the NHS

You did nothing wrong. You were just trapped in an unfortunate situation with a psycho therapist who should not be allowed near anyone with OCD. Reading this was shocking because I cannot believe someone like that could still be in practice without having had a lawsuit on their hands for malpractice. That’s just insane to me.

No, you aren’t incurable. I understand how you might feel this way because unfortunately, we all do. Just because a therapist tells you these things doesn’t mean it’s true. At the end of the day, we have to realize that liscensed therapists and professionals are humans too. They aren’t perfect and will sometimes make mistakes much like in your case. It wasn’t right of her to make you feel so low about yourself. I highly suggest finding another therapist that is more patient with your thoughts and compulsions