I want to know more about this so if u wanna answer just put the number infront of your answer 1. Is it hard to connect with your SO but you still love them. Or do you think your not connected but you are? 2. Have you ever had the whole do you really want him? Because he isnt this or that? Like constant doubt. But in reality that person is and that. 3. How can i fall asleep in his arms again without having worry or doubt or anxiety??
1. Yes absolutely. I feel like I have to continuously connect on a deep level or there isn’t a connection! But that’s not true. Maybe the connection isn’t there, but more than likely, it is (esp if you feel it often just not constantly!). The same way you can’t be happy all the time or talk all the time, you can’t be connected all the time. That’s asking a LoT out of your SO; but you are connected! and the uncertainty can be kind of beautiful when you’re not sure (and accept that you’re not sure), go on about your normal life/focus on other things and then your SO sparks that connection again. It’s like a beautiful surprise 3. You can’t 🤷🏻♀️ but accepting that your feelings will pass and they are OCD trying to spoil your relationship because you care deeply about it. OCD is trying to take you out of the moment, but it doesn’t control you! You can say “I accept these feelings but they do not control/define me.” And refocus elsewhere. This is what I try to tell myself when I’m freaking out… I definitely do and did in past relationships a lot… I hope that made sense…!!
Did it ever crossed your mind how you’ll confess that u might not love them anymore
Yes ive had scenarios of it as well
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Sometimes I get really upset with my boyfriend and I can’t tell if I’m not having my needs met or if it’s my ROCD questioning things. I can’t express that I’m upset because he rlly doesn’t understand what is going on in my head and most times I bring it up it’s turned into an argument. It is really frustrating does anyone have any tips on deciphering this stuff or dealing with the upset feeling/ bad thoughts (IE: “He’s cheating on me and that’s why he’s not texting.”) (IE: “He’s talking like this because he just doesn’t love me, and he’s not attracted to me. He clearly wants to leave me but doesn’t have the heart to do it yet”)
For the past 3 months ish I’ve been struggling on and off with this anxiety and fixation over my relationship. To wondering if i still have feelings for an old friend, wondering if i actually love him, wondering if the thoughts are all real and im just trying to cover it up with ocd. It sucks, when im talking to my boyfriend i feel fine. The words i love you and talks about the future come naturally. I can’t imagine myself with anyone but him. But this constant rumination on my relationship is KILLING me and I’m scared it’s going to ruin what i have. It makes me numb and disconnected which therefore makes me believe the thoughts even more. They just feel so real sometimes and it’s so scary like why can i not just enjoy it. We’ve been together for a while so i know there’s periods of like feelings ebb and flowing but this is so much more. It’s just constantly sitting on my chest with anxiety. My compulsions are coming on this app, looking at photos of us and confessing it to him. He’s very understanding and helpful. I love him so much. I just need help / I’m also just starting new meds as well ..
I struggle with rocd, and a big intrusive thought that I have is that I’m no longer in love with my partner. I am going through a depression right now, and I am struggling to feel any kind of passion towards anything at the moment. I am withdrawing from the people I love because I just feel like I want to be alone. When I’m with people I just feel exhausted by it. I guess my question is, has anyone ever felt like this from depression? Does it take feelings of love and attraction away? I can’t tell if this is my ocd or depression or a combination of both. But it’s starting to impact my relationship which makes me panic because losing it is my worst fear.
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