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I need help
Can someone please give me advice on how to make my showers shorter, I really need help with it because my mom is getting upset with me and I don't know what to do
Can someone please give me advice on how to make my showers shorter, I really need help with it because my mom is getting upset with me and I don't know what to do
I used to take up to an hour and a half showers now i can take 10 min ones. My ocd is worse then its ever been but ive still managed to cut down on my shower time. For me i have to have a really good body wash that lathers. I recently tried the dove ultra moisture and omg its the best thing ever. It lathers, has the perfect anount of moisture where i dont feel sticky afterbut also not dried out and you dont have to use a lot because it has such a good lather and for me to say not use a lot of soap is mind blowing lol. Also you have to remember that whatever your washing off your body is literally on the surface. I used to scrub so much and so many times because i felt like if i didnt i wouldnt get the contamination off but ive realized that a regular washing does just fine as long as i dont miss a spot lol. Thats what works for me anyways. Not everyday. But most of the time! Hope this helps!
Please leave a message if you want to talk about this as I want to help
Put on a timer and try to make them shorter by reducing the time!
Timing things would definitely stress me out personally
Unfortunately this can be all too common behavior when you have OCD. Do your parents know why you are doing this? Do you know why or it just a feeling? Either way I think the important thing is that you may never "feel" like taking a shorter shower and the good news is that you can "chose" to take a shorter shower. You will initially feel anxious, you may have an increase in intrusive thoughts- and eventually the feelings pass and you don't have to do any compulsions. Remember fi you have OCD there is a faulty alarm in your brain screaming that you are in danger when you really aren't- the more you do a compulsion (such as showering), the more your brain believes that you really are in danger, thus strengthening the thoughts and feelings. Have you discussed with your parents getting treatment for this? ERP can help to address this and can work with your parents to understand what you are facing. You don't have to experience this all on your own. The NOCD community is here for support.
Guys I need help. I feel so alone . Basically I have this compulsion where I feel the need to write everything but this stems from me being anxious about EVERYTHING. Like my mom came in my room and I was irritated and snapped, immediately regretted now I keep writing “don’t be mean to mom next time” but I keep thinking about it. Then I think about how I finally left my house today and all the surfaces I touched that could’ve been contaminated and now I’m writing “next time don’t touch this and this”. Then I think about all the things I need to be doing for this week and I’m writing “don’t forget to do this and this” even though I’ve written it 5 times already. This is what happens everyday btw. My brain always thinks about something I need to be doing and making me anxious that I’ll forget it which is why I write it down on my notes app. I’m sooo mentally exhausted I need help pls!! Anyone have any advice ? I used to think I need to stop the writing but really I need to stop the anxious thoughts coming into my head . People say I need to accept the thoughts and let it go but that’s too hard for me
So I’m 16 years old, currently going through my sophomore year of highschool. I’ve recently quit nicotine and weed after chronic use for about 4 years (has affected my development extremely). I quit because I wanted a better life for myself because I knew that I was using nicotine and weed for short term happiness and long term made me very depressed about this life. I was also experiencing trouble concentrating on simple tasks and what I wanted to do currently in my life. Which was learning about life and having more knowledge about life in general so i could feel more comfortable and happy in the future. So I quit nicotine I thought I was going to be able to overcome it and be more comfortable with myself knowing that I’m not in a constant loop of short term happiness, long term making me less happy overall. Although I have quit nicotine and haven’t touched it in about 3 weeks I expected to have some major withdrawals because I’m still in adolescence and used nicotine about everyday for 4 years. Sorry I’m rambling about this but through those years of always suppressing my anxiety with nicotine when anything came up that triggered it. I started noticing that on vacation in very stressful moments like at the airport and there were people around me when using the bathroom I felt as though it was nearly impossible to go but after sometime I eventually went and shrugged it off. Now that I’ve quit though I’m my 4th week it’s almost like my brain really latched onto that fear of not being able to go around people publicly (paruresis shy bladder syndrome) and that’s also what addiction does to you I’ve acknowledged. But when I started coming home from school I started thinking about not being able to pee more and more to the point i haven’t been able to stop thinking about it since which now every time i feel a slight trigger of having to use the bathroom i start obsessing over it like everything I would try and do that i usually do my brain would draw me away from it and go back to the fear of not being able to go which created a lot of anxiety and thoughts like “would if im not able to stop going” which made me think about it more and more I would just wake up with that thought in my head each day to the point where i was really thinking about killing my self because I thought i would have such a better life without nicotine and weed but ultimately made me feel like i was going crazy and I really wanted to go back to vaping and weed but i knew that this was the cycle of addiction and that i may have a more underlying problem here i need to overcome somatic ocd. I haven’t been diagnosed with it yet and I know a lot of people go through a cycle of self diagnosing. But as I’ve slowly started to mentally figure out ways to get through this obsession over peeing and fight it, it’s like my brain is now trying to look for a new bodily sensation to obsess over. My breathing. I noticed this as well while using that sometimes I would think about my breathing a little bit to much for example saying to myself am I breathing right should I breath this certain way would if I can’t stop thinking about it. But as I was thinking about that I just hit my vape talked to my brother about it and just slept it off. Now that I don’t have a vape I’ve had to go through these expierences but with it feeling more real and not really having something to run to, to suppress like my vape. I’m writing this today as I feel better to myself talking about it and opening up about it as I’m trying to not respond to this fear with anxiety and go throughout my days ignoring these obsessive thoughts leading to extreme anxiety that I don’t have anything to suppress it with anymore besides my own mental. Maybe someone here will have some more knowledge about it than I do and can give me some advice to try to keep me more motivated to deal with this ocd I feel as though I’m having so I don’t end up in a dark place. Thank you.
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