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Wait again why do I feel like I could’ve wrote this myself.. are we the same person 😂
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really?? that’s too funny ahaha i feel strangely comforted by the fact you relate! and i hope this could bring comfort to you too!
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I really appreciate you writing this. Because I resignate so much with it especially in regards to people talking about sex with people they find attractive or talking about sex in general? I find it extremely off putting when people are super open about their sexual adventures because I am so not comfortable with talking about it, which usually made me feel like there was something wrong with me. So again, I thank you for writing this
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Resonate **
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Agreed!!
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it’s okay and totally normal to feel uncomfortable! i know that i would’ve appreciated someone telling me that in the past :)
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oh and you can be demisexual AND straight, bisexual, homosexual, etc. demisexuality is just how you experience sexual attraction. so that was another misconception that threw me off. being a demisexual straight woman seems fitting for me and i feel really happy identifying as that :)
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Yes! Just like asexual. You can be asexual and straight etc.
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Do you find yourself able to accept this? Meaning does your mind make you doubt that as well. I have a difficult time accepting any sexual orientation because I don’t know with 100% certainty
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@cc97 oh my gosh i just came to this conclusion only today. that label makes me feel so much better about myself and with living - and yet i have already doubted maybe 20 times already ahaha
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@koitoi 100% same irs so frustrating !!
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So I’ve talked to a couple of gay people and they all told me the same thing. They ALWAYS knew they liked guys and they have ever gotten aroused by a woman in their life. In fact they told me that they always found a woman’s body disgusting. Looking back in my life I’ve been attracted to girls for as long as I can remember even before puberty. All my fantasies were about girls and I can’t remember a time where I felt the same for a guy (because it never happened). At the end I can still get aroused by women and you can clearly see how much stupid this obsession about being gay is. Gay people can’t get instinctively aroused by a woman and like it. Groinal responses and sensations don’t mean anything because they simply do not bring joy or a feeling of desire. Instead they bring panic. I once got a groinal when “testing my reactions” and I was sitting there crying like my life is over. That’s not how genuine attraction works and no one has woken up one day feeling different and no one has been secretly gay and never noticed it and spent his whole life into women instead.
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I don’t know if it’s SOOCD. I no longer feel anxious in the moment when I think about women, and it’s like my imagination wants me to think about it and get aroused. I don’t want to be gay, but maybe I am after all. In my life I haven’t been so sexually driven before (when I was living with a man, or when being single) but now all I can think about is having sex with a woman. I don’t want to, but somehow my body does and it feels like my mind have changed to accept it to.. feel so sad This all started around 4 weeks ago..
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Hi everyone, I’m a 30-year-old woman, and I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 5 years. I’ve always felt emotionally close to him — he’s caring, supportive, and we planned a future together, including having a family. I don’t want to leave him. He means so much to me. But for a while now, I’ve been obsessing over the fact that I don’t feel much sexual attraction to him anymore. It’s not like I never felt anything — when we first met, there were butterflies, excitement, emotional connection… something real. He was never “just a friend” to me. But the physical side of the relationship feels like it’s slowly faded, and I’m panicking about what that means. I keep thinking things like: – “Maybe I chose the wrong person.” – “You can’t be in love without sexual desire.” – “If I was truly in love, I would still want him.” – “What if I’ve been lying to myself this whole time?” Sometimes my body reacts — I can feel physical closeness or even arousal — but my mind shuts down and says: “no, this isn’t right.” Other times, I feel tension, resistance, or even disgust during intimacy, and I can’t tell if that’s anxiety or if something is fundamentally wrong. What makes this even more confusing is that I truly believe that real love includes sexual attraction. For me, it’s all part of one feeling — not separate. So if the attraction is gone, does that mean the love is too? Is it possible that this is still OCD — that my mind is obsessing and disconnecting me from my real feelings? Has anyone experienced something similar? Any support would mean so much. I feel so stuck between my mind and my heart.
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