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- 3y
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- 3y
Said that if you have the ability to push thoughts away so tou don't think about it is denial. But I've always pushed these away since i had or what i hope is ocd. But it always creeps its way back in or i end up thinking about.
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- 3y
i think what that guy meant (i watched the video too) was like you’re able to not think about it. you can mentally say to those worries and thoughts “go away for a while, we’ll deal with this later or never” and can do that with ease and simplicity. ocd is like you can’t put it down, it’s all you think about and you do things to make the anxiety caused my the thoughts/images/urges/sensations to go away. and these compulsions can include trying your best to not think about things, but it’s usually to no avail because the thoughts still come. what he meant basically was people who seriously have an identity crisis with their sexuality are able to not think about it for large periods of time and can put it off without anxiety. people with ocd usually cannot do that (although you can have periods where this theme doesn’t cause as much panic or anxiety and still have ocd, and chances are you’re not worrying as much about sexual orientation bc you’re obsessing about something else for a change lol).
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- 3y
It's hard to explain. I was doing well for a while but i was still doing compulsions and then i watched and no everything feels more real. Granted i can put it off for a time but I've also done a lot of erp work. Not to mention ass loads of stress on other day to day life. It just finds its way to sneak back in and i compulse and ask my girlfriend constantly for reassurance. I finally beat that part but it triggered me so hard and no i feel back at step one
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- 3y
i totally understand. sometimes ocd content can trigger ocd ironically, even if it is trying to help. because we start checking and comparing and ruminating and it can set us off, unfortunately. i find that when i take in ocd content sparingly, that usually helps. also, if you’ve been doing your ERP, which btw CONGRATS! that makes total sense as to why it’s maybe not as heavy on your mind. i’ve been doing mine too as of late and i feel like i’m better able to resist compulsions and during exposures, i get worried that i’m not getting ENOUGH anxiety. a classic backdoor spike! so it’s okay, you’re not alone. i support you!
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- 3y
Like im not super good at ERP but im doing my best to resist compulsions and sometimes i get discouraged. Like if i expose myself to this, what if i end up liking it or end up finding out i am or could be or whatever? Like its scary. Like some stuff i did had helped and im past some of the things plaguing me and they try to pull me in but i just try to not care and focus on other things. But living in the moment is so difficult some times
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- 3y
Thanks man
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- 23w
I keep having this weird feeling none stop that it’s most likely not HOCD and most my feelings. Like I’ve suffered none stop distress and unwanted thoughts the past few days. But those thoughts after a bit just feel weird not the kind of discomfort but are just their and stale. When I look at a guy I don’t feel anything but my thoughts sometimes compliment his looks or personality which makes me doubt my sexuality. I’ve never felt this weirded out. Because I’ve always been straight and still believe I am but I’ve never even had an emotional connection to someone of the opposite gender in fact. My view of the female body has been ruined with none stop pornography addictions. I don’t believe I’m gay but I feel like it may just be denial instead of HOCD but all my symptoms are literally HOCD. I don’t hate the idea of gay people but I can’t imagine or see my heart going off to like someone of the same sex. I haven’t really had any meaningful real life friends besides online but that also ended a few months ago. My only friend ever online that was my friend for the longest of time was a queer but I never really cared about what he liked. Like yes at some point I did try to challenge him with his own feelings but that didn’t last long I just accepted what he liked and moved on. I’ve never even touched let alone held a long conversation with a female. I’ve always been timid and shy around them but I can just say that towards male as well. The gay feelings feel so real. The thoughts feel a bit natural to me but I don’t want this. But I hate how I can’t just move on and be myself and love women when those thoughts demand attention and an answer. It won’t quit it. If I try to do a compulsion it calms down but it quickly becomes a problem again. I’m lonely I don’t have any friends or past relationships I can even think of helping me with the emotions. I still believe I’m straight and I just can’t see myself with a guy. It just doesn’t feel right for me despite my lack of experiences. I just wanna go back to how I was happy and loving girls and not having to question if it was a real feeling or just my natural timid nature. Everytime I think these distressing thoughts I always just wanna sit down and close my eyes and sleep. Because that’s where I can have peace of self. It sucks but I’m so exhausted of having to deal with emotional distress and I can’t even focus on my job as much. I want to meet new people discover my love for women again but I’m scared in the process I may discover I may be gay. Because deep down I know I wouldn’t ever be happy with myself if my greatest fears where confirmed. My dream of always being a father with a loving women and kids would be torn away by something I never asked for. Yes I’m religious, yes I come from a place that homosexuals are usually seen in a bad light. I just hate feeling this emotion that I may not be what I thought and having my dreams torn apart maybe true. I’ve read MUTIPLE articles about HOCD and seen MUTIPLE videos. I’ve come to the realization that I most likely have it. But it’s still hard when the feelings of maybe being gay maybe true you know? I hope I get better I hope I don’t suffer. I just wanna be happy with myself and loving females and I don’t wanna hate myself for feeling an emotion that never occurred to me more then a few times.
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- 23w
I’ve completely lost myself. I can’t focus on my studies, I can’t go to the gym. Dang it I can’t even be around my male friends normally anymore. I got no idea why or how this happened but the only thing I know for sure is that I never questioned my sexuality neither doubted it. I never cared in general. I just liked girls. I keep testing and keep testing and keep testing my arousal but no matter how many times I see but I don’t feel the same way for guys that I do with girls my mind will always try to make me believe that I am gay. It’s like it’s forcing me into an identity I never asked for. But at the end of the day like my psychologist told me. Sexuality doesn’t change. So since I never felt anything for guys in my life it’s ocd. I’ve been up and down for 5 months now and while the last week I was feeling way better. Monday now and I’m back to zero. I just want to go back when everything was normal. I can’t keep living with this.
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- 22w
Like I can’t think straight. This is making me doubt everything I’ve thought about myself and even makes me feel like I like the thoughts when I know I don’t. Like I would be less anxious at a time while I still have the thoughts and my mind would go “oh so you like it you must be gay” or the other one where I’m not anxious and I think of my attraction for girls that I’ve had my whole life and my mind goes “see now you’re not into them you’re gay” like it’s so stupid but so effective. I clearly remember being into girls my whole life but my mind is making me believe that all these attractions and feelings for women were all fake or “a thing of the past”. But I can still get aroused by women but I have this weird anxiety going on which brings these sensations/feelings and it’s so weird. Today I’ve spent my whole day thinking about it like I’ve been doing for 5 months now. I know that this aint normal but my mind just won’t let me live in peace. I never cared about my sexuality cuz I simply liked women my whole life but now my sexuality is a fundamental philosophy. I hate this.
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