Anonymous
- Date posted
- 3y
rocd
can someone please give me some tips on how to not overthink going out with all this anxiety
April307April307
- Date posted
- 3y
Hi! Sorry to hear you're feeling anxious. If you're dealing with ROCD, it's totally understandable that dating may feel triggering or make you feel anxious. What helped me as met new people was to really try and focus just being in the moment. When my mind would wander, I would direct my thoughts back to the person in front of me. And lead with your values. What do you like in relationships? How do you want to be treated? How do you want to treat your partner? Act in ways that are important to you. The thoughts will still make you anxious and your OCD may make you questions everything, but it doesn't have to ruin your relationships. We are in control of our OCD! If you're not working with a NOCD therapist, I definitely suggest doing so. Also, this is an article my NOCD therapist sent me when I first started treatment and it's super helpful: https://www.sheppardpratt.org/news-views/story/how-to-respond-to-unwanted-obsessive-thoughts/#:~:text=There%20is%20no%20one%20right,if%20you%20wish%20to%20entertain. Good luck, you got this :)
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