Zoë_84

Date posted: 3y

My sister told others about me suffering of POCD

My sister told several of her friends about me suffering from POCD. I told her off for it, I felt so betrayed. She said it also has in impact on her, so she thought and still thinks it is okay. She then told me, that she thinks about telling her kids. I told her not to. She said that it might be better, they know. I said no. She asked her therapist and he told her not to tell them. Only then she decided to not tell them for the time being. I feel violated. I met people who don't understand POCD and who thought I was a pedophile, me telling them it is POCD and offering links to official websites, didn't help. I want to tell her, that if she ever tells the kids, or anyone else without my permission, that I don't want to speak to her again. @POCD sufferers: What are your experiences with family and friends? How did they react? Did anyone cut you out? Did anyone tell it to other people without your permission?

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BigGyro09

Date posted: 3y

I can't see myself telling my family and friends about that at all tbh. It's something I would only keep to OCD therapists and others suffering through OCD because only they truly understand. I'm really sorry that happened to you

Zoë_84

Date posted: 3y

Thanks... It really is hard, as it is such a horrible and taboo topic...

BigGyro09

Date posted: 3y

@Zoë_84 Don't lose hope because you have a community that does understand you and won't judge you. I know I certainly won't. :)

Zoë_84

Date posted: 3y

@BigGip09 I'm alone offline... To have found nocd had been good, but only having people to talk to online is just not enough.

BigGyro09

Date posted: 3y

@Zoë_84 Yeah, I totally get you. I have friends IRL but I don't see them often and I don't make plans to meet up because I'm not used to such, comfort zone wise. It would be really nice to have my online friends to be seen IRL but as you said, it isn't enough sometimes.

Zoë_84

Date posted: 3y

@BigGip09 Me suffering from OCD chronically is inconvenient to people, especially when your limitations affect them, like having a panic attack in their presence, their expressions almost looked like - How dare she do that to me? That's not a nice experience, duh... In our fast fashion society, where new everything is constantly available no one wants someone who is broken, just hop on tinder and find someone new...

BigGyro09

Date posted: 3y

@Zoë_84 I personally despise dating apps like Tinder to be honest. They enforce toxic beliefs about relationships and hookup culture makes things worst. I don't think that helps people regardless of gender. What do you mean by limitations affecting those people though?

Zoë_84

Date posted: 3y

@BigGip09 I meant, that my suffering from OCD impacted and impacts people in my life. I got cut out by friends and partners, as I don't go to places, where I expect children, or animals. So my live is limited and that impacts friends, family and partners. I don't use tinder either, never did, but for most people other people are easily replaceable. Imo, it is the tinder mentality, it is like online shopping...

BigGyro09

Date posted: 3y

@Zoë_84 Yeah I find that whole "online shopping" for people is just wrong. It doesn't replace face to face contact and it never will, unless people plan to meet up for those long term intentions. Someday, you'll have to stop running away from your fears, Zoe. Exposure and response prevention is the only true way to get better. I know that's difficult but from what you've told me, in your own words, this avoidance has impacted you and others.

Zoë_84

Date posted: 3y

@BigGip09 Well, I had been through many ERP therapies with OCD specialists, one session made me flip my lid and resulted in a break down that made me lose my job and my apartment. I had not been in the right state of mind to do ERP at that point in time. So thanks for your concern, but I'll be read, when I'll be read.

Anonymous

Date posted: 3y

I haven’t told anybody for this exact reason. Many mental health providers don’t understand so how will the general public.

Zoë_84

Date posted: 3y

I can understand that very good, I regretted having told some of the people who know.

Anonymous

Date posted: 3y

@Zoë_84 Did these people judge you and did they spread the rumor?

Zoë_84

Date posted: 3y

@Anonymous My one ex made clear he thought I was a pedophile, he cut me out after I told him. And some others, I wouldn't put it past them to tell others... And my sister did tell a bunch of people without my approval.

Nica

Date posted: 3y

I’ve only told my fiancé, therapist, and mother about my specific OCD themes because I don’t trust bitches. And a lot of people are bitches nowadays.

Zoë_84

Date posted: 3y

Exactly! Some are idiots and don't even read info on official websites.

Anonymous

Date posted: 3y

Damn im so sorry maybe its wise just to tell your therapist or people with ocd

Lulu~

Date posted: 25w

PLEASE PLEASE HELP ME TT (lowkey begging)

I told a few people on social media about my OCD, including POCD and how distressing it is. But everyone went quiet, then a few hours later I posted that I don’t support pedophilia at all neither do I justify it or am a pedo. Then someone replied with: “I think someone might take it bc u have such an obsessive fear of it u might have actual p3 do philic tendencies” I can’t do this anymore, I’m terrified to spiral again like a few months ago but I’m on the brink of doing it again. I’m shaking and stressing tf out I hate this so so so so so much

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Anonymous

Date posted: 25w

Telling a partner about POCD

Hello everyone! Is there anyone who told their partners that you experienced POCD in the past or that you are experiencing right now? How did they handle it? Did they understand it? Were they supportive? I'm creating future scenarios in my mind that I need to confess this to a future partner.

Jenna34

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 10w

How do you tell friends and family

How do you tell friends and family about ocd? Like it makes me so anxious and I feel like such a terrible person. A lot of my intrusive thoughts are on my kids. And I hate every single thing that comes into my head.

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