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The ocd is expressing it's fears. You are not your thoughts and your thoughts are not you. A response by the body in the groin area is normal. The feeling is NOT a turn on it is sexual anxiety. Your ocd is only a way for your mind to tell you there's something wrong about a situation because it triggers something that may be in the subconscious. Memories of abuse usually. Most sexual ocd sufferers were sexually abused and it is a fear of becoming an abuser or like an abuser. Know that abusers don't get upset over these things. They enjoy sexual turn ons and want to explore them. Theres no anxiety. Ocd sufferers experience so much anxiety just over the obsession in the mind or the sexual anxiety that they are totally overwhelmed or depressed or worse. Big difference. You are not your thoughts. Separate yourself from your mind. Your mind needs to heal from some kind of traumas but you are not your mind. You can know that these thoughts are normal for sexual ocd.
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Thanks. I needed this
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Jadedrops you aren’t alone! I’ve been feeling convinced all week. It’s scary when it becomes that way. How’re you feeling now? And also, I have also had the same thing with incest. Well, not in terms of thoughts, but I have had some incest themed dreams when all of this started occurring.
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It’s okay to think someone is attractive who is 16. They can physically look like adults. It’s just your ocd telling you something is wrong. Noticing attractiveness is totally normal and fine.
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@figuringitallout not any better to be honest. I keep thinking about things I’ve done in the past that I regret, and it’s convincing me my fears were true and that I’ve always been this type of person.
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@jadedrops @figuringitallout i've also been down that road, a couple of days ago i realized my first type of ocd was incest ocd, worrying is be attracted to my brother or sister.... fortunately that only lasted a couple weeks. pocd has not been as kind :/ also @jadedrops i know how you feel with the regretting things in your past, this is going to sound SO ridiculous, but i used to read one direction fanfic when i was younger (pls don't judge me lol) and there were some questionable age differences in some of them. i was underage myself and didn't really pay attention to that but now i worry that that was a "sign" i'm truly bad. i'm also worried that i'll see pictures of the one direction guys when they were younger (like 16/17) and since i had such huge crushes on them i'm worried i'll still think their younger selves are super attractive. stupid i know but it's the truth
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@T. Idk sometimes I see a really attractive video game character but then I find out they’re like 16 and I feel weird for even being attracted to them even though I’m 18 so now I get thoughts that tell me I’m a weirdo who likes minors. People on tumblr (I know tumblr is the last place for people like me to be on) tell you that you’re a pedo or pedo sympathizer for not caring if someone has a crush on a fictional 16 year old.
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@jadedrops i'm also on tumblr which i know is terrible but it's like the only social media i have and i know exactly how black and white peoples ideas are on there
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(20f) I have been dealing with severe OCD symptoms for as long as I can remember. I recently got diagnosed about a year ago, and even though I know that these thoughts are probably my ocd, I still cant shake them. Growing up I was always very sexually curious. I was sheltered from a lot of things, as I went to a private school and things like sexuality and sex were never talked about. I remember doing some weird sexual things growing up (never affecting another person), looking up taboo sexual things, etc. I always seemed to become aroused no matter what the situation was, even if I just saw someone getting changed. I have no recollection of being SA'd, so i'm wondering where this all came from? Was I just curious and wanted to experiment and try different things? Or am I really a pervert, pedophile, etc. I have all these thoughts racing through my head and it's killing me. Everything I did as a kid I look back on and am disgusted, as those don't align with my views at all today. I never thought growing up thinking these things were wrong, or actually realize what they were until I got older. I'd like to think it was just my curiosity, but i'm not sure. What if i'm in denial and actually do like these things? I just need to know if theres something wrong w me, I cant keep going on like this. Could really use some advice.
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Hi I just have a few questions! (Im 14 btw) Okay so basically I’m really worried I’ll become a pedo/I already am and I don’t know it yet. I’m also really scared if I SA someone, even tho I don’t want to and I’d never do something like that but I feel like this part of me is saying that I will and it’s really scaring me. I feel so alone and I’m so scared I’m a bad person on the inside and this isn’t ocd and I’m gonna unleash hell on this earth I’m so scared. I’ll get a thought like if I’m walking past someone random it will be like “What if you sa them?” And it scares me so bad I feel horrible for thinking that. Is this apart of it? I feel like I’m always fixated on the topic of sa to check if I would do something like that, I don’t know anymore I just feel like a bad person (btw I have not done anything like that to anyone!)
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I don’t know if my hormones are extra wild this month or what, but I have been having so many POCD thoughts lately. It feels like I enjoy them in the moment, and then a few seconds later, I get this tiny flicker of *wait I don’t think I actually want to enjoy that.* It’s scaring me a lot. I was watching adult videos for the first time in about a year, since I had been avoiding them because of my OCD. I know they are not good for anyone, but I felt like i could (ironically it felt like a tiny win that my OCD had calmed down enough). But while watching, I had like 3 separate POCD thoughts. And it felt like I liked them. Like genuinely *liked* them. I don’t know if maybe my body was mixing up physical pleasure and mental pleasure, and then my brain inserted those not okay thoughts into the situation, which got tangled up with the pleasure responses I felt mentally and physically. It is all really confusing. I just feel so scared. I know OCD thoughts are supposed to feel real, and that once you get desensitized to the anxiety, they lose their power. But this feels like I am *actually enjoying* the thoughts, and that makes me want to cry. I’m scared that I actually like these thoughts when I’m really aroused :( Please help.
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