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The ocd is expressing it's fears. You are not your thoughts and your thoughts are not you. A response by the body in the groin area is normal. The feeling is NOT a turn on it is sexual anxiety. Your ocd is only a way for your mind to tell you there's something wrong about a situation because it triggers something that may be in the subconscious. Memories of abuse usually. Most sexual ocd sufferers were sexually abused and it is a fear of becoming an abuser or like an abuser. Know that abusers don't get upset over these things. They enjoy sexual turn ons and want to explore them. Theres no anxiety. Ocd sufferers experience so much anxiety just over the obsession in the mind or the sexual anxiety that they are totally overwhelmed or depressed or worse. Big difference. You are not your thoughts. Separate yourself from your mind. Your mind needs to heal from some kind of traumas but you are not your mind. You can know that these thoughts are normal for sexual ocd.
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Thanks. I needed this
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Jadedrops you aren’t alone! I’ve been feeling convinced all week. It’s scary when it becomes that way. How’re you feeling now? And also, I have also had the same thing with incest. Well, not in terms of thoughts, but I have had some incest themed dreams when all of this started occurring.
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It’s okay to think someone is attractive who is 16. They can physically look like adults. It’s just your ocd telling you something is wrong. Noticing attractiveness is totally normal and fine.
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@figuringitallout not any better to be honest. I keep thinking about things I’ve done in the past that I regret, and it’s convincing me my fears were true and that I’ve always been this type of person.
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@jadedrops @figuringitallout i've also been down that road, a couple of days ago i realized my first type of ocd was incest ocd, worrying is be attracted to my brother or sister.... fortunately that only lasted a couple weeks. pocd has not been as kind :/ also @jadedrops i know how you feel with the regretting things in your past, this is going to sound SO ridiculous, but i used to read one direction fanfic when i was younger (pls don't judge me lol) and there were some questionable age differences in some of them. i was underage myself and didn't really pay attention to that but now i worry that that was a "sign" i'm truly bad. i'm also worried that i'll see pictures of the one direction guys when they were younger (like 16/17) and since i had such huge crushes on them i'm worried i'll still think their younger selves are super attractive. stupid i know but it's the truth
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@T. Idk sometimes I see a really attractive video game character but then I find out they’re like 16 and I feel weird for even being attracted to them even though I’m 18 so now I get thoughts that tell me I’m a weirdo who likes minors. People on tumblr (I know tumblr is the last place for people like me to be on) tell you that you’re a pedo or pedo sympathizer for not caring if someone has a crush on a fictional 16 year old.
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@jadedrops i'm also on tumblr which i know is terrible but it's like the only social media i have and i know exactly how black and white peoples ideas are on there
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- 24w
I am 15 years old and my POCD feels like its not POCD, i feel like i like my intrusive thoughts, but i have more intrusive thoughts about having intrusive thoughts, and i feel like i cant enjoy the things i normally enjoy anymore, like calling with my girlfriend and joking with her because this is still in the back of my mind, its making me question morals and if i ever even viewed P as completely wrong and i hate this so much, i love my nieces and nephews and when they're over i know id never do anything with my intrusive thoughts but when they arent present i feel like i like my thoughts. Before this i was dealing with HOCD and ROCD and i wish i could go back to that
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- 19w
So I just read a Reddit post about how this guy found out that he was a pedo because of how he started feeling that he was still attracted to middle schoolers as a 14 year old in high school and it never changed even when he got into adulthood. I’m currently under the age of 16 and I’m worried of my attraction feelings I felt towards some kids I’ve seen on social media and real life, I’m not sure if they are false or not. I have gotten a diagnosis, I remember lying on 2 questions, saying I didn’t feel aroused and that i don’t enjoy the thoughts n feelings. I’m not sure if i enjoy the thoughts and feelings, and now im worried i about it, i dont feel worry dread panic or shame and disgust when I get those thoughts and feelings anymore. I also remember that when i was 14 I felt attracted to a 12 or 11 year old, i kept going back to look at her idk why, but i think that i was worried because I didn’t want to be attracted to younger aged ppl. Im worried that all of these feelings of attraction aren’t false and that they are a reflection of who i am. I do not wish to be a pedo, nor do I wish to like kids. I know that I won’t hurt kids, but I’m scared that I am a pedo because of the feelings I get. I don’t understand myself anymore, I hope it’s pocd not actual pedophilia, I don’t trust that diagnosis I got because of those 2 questions I lied on, I said that i don’t like those thoughts n feelings even though I don’t know if I really do or not, can someone please help me? Idk what I have anymore, I don’t want it to be pedophilia
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- 19w
So I was never diagnosed with pocd but many ppl said that I have it and my therapist also said that I have ocd, I’ve recently been getting these thoughts and feelings of attraction towards kids, idk if it’s real attraction or not, but I worry that it’s true attraction because I don’t feel panic and anxiety towards those thoughts and feelings anymore, I used to feel that, but I also never felt shame or guilt for those thoughts and feelings. I also can’t tell if I want those thoughts and feelings or not. When I get those thoughts and feelings, I tell myself “I can’t be attracted to kids” and “being attracted to kids is bad” and “I wouldn’t like kids”. The main thing is I can tell if I am attracted to the kids or not, I feel like I want to know, but I also don’t know if I want to be attracted to kids or not, yet the attraction feeling feels so genuine, I can’t tell if it’s false or not, I try to compare my attraction towards a girl my age to the feelings I get when I see the kids. I’m also under the age of 16, and I’ve heard that people under the age of 16 are at risk of developing p#dophilia, I’m pretty sure I don’t want to become a pedo. But I can’t tell what I want anymore, I can’t tell if my feelings intrusive or not. Even though some people said that I have “textbook ocd” I still don’t believe it. These feelings and thoughts, I just don’t understand if I want and like them or not, idk if I WANT to like or want them. I also lied on 2 questions for the ocd diagnosis about liking the thoughts which I don’t know if I do or not, I said that I think I don’t when in reality I don’t know if I do or not. And the second question where I said I don’t feel aroused even though sometimes I do, idk why I get aroused for that stuff, idk if I want to be aroused or if I don’t want to be aroused. Can someone give me advice pls? ANT to like or want them. I also lied on 2 questions for the ocd diagnosis about liking the thoughts which I don’t know if I do or not, I said that I think I don’t when in reality I don’t know if I do or not. And the second question where I said I don’t feel aroused even though sometimes I do, idk why I get aroused for that stuff, idk if I want to be aroused or if I don’t want to be aroused. I also used to watch p#rn a lot, I was exposed to it at a young age cause I was a stupid ass kid once, I got addicted to it and watched it every day, when all of these feelings and thoughts started, I completely stopped watching p#rn which fixed that, but now I’m worried it was a sign of something bad because I heard that early porn exposure creates mental issues and stuff, so I don’t know if I have pocd or actual pedophilia anymore. I’m also currently tryin to get a relationship with a girl my age. Can someone give me advice on all of this pls? Idk what all of this means anymore :( (edited) I also keep getting thoughts of kids and I’m worried I’m attracted to a specific part of them, because most of the thoughts include that specific part of the kid. Im also attracted to that specific part on adults, but I’m worried that it’s a sign I’m a pedo because it manifests on the thoughts of kids
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