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- 3y
ROCD & self worth & accountability
Hello! I just got dumped due to ROCD negatively affecting the relationship. Wondering if anyone who's been through this, also this isn't my first rodeo lol.. but basically, I am finally committing to therapy for REAL after years of talk therapy and not doing ERP. My main compulsion is reassurance seeking and it ruined my relationship with my ex. Hoping to revisit the relationship after significant improvement in therapy, but he's given me no guarantees - which is honest and also a good thing. I'm wondering if anyone here has any insight on.. like.. so you stay in a relationship because you want it to work, but if you're not actually committing to recovery.. is that not just being personally unaccountable? I really hurt my exs feelings, even though he understands it's the ocd. He felt like it was an excuse for my behavior, and honestly if I wasn't managing it then yeah ... I can't really disagree. I guess I'm just kinda wondering how self worth and personal accountability are thought about by others who have been through this?