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- 3y
HOCD
I hate how my ocd attaches itself to someone. Any advice on how to deal with this
I hate how my ocd attaches itself to someone. Any advice on how to deal with this
me too! does your brain also put images of the person in the scenarios in your head to see if you like it or not? me my brain really I have the impression that he is obsessed with this person
I hate this for you so much. It's so distressing to not be able to trust your thoughts, especially when it comes to something complicated like attraction/sexuality. I want you to know that your thoughts/feelings/urges/sensations are all things that everyone experiences. It's your reaction to them that is what's causing you distress. What helped for me and my sexual orientation OCD was to allow myself to have the intrusive thought but not analyze what it meant. It takes some getting used to and feels fake at first, but once you've figured out how to not analyze every intrusive thought, you're going to feel so much better.
Have you managed to overcome SOOCD liz? Xx
@HJOx Yep! X
@Liz Lake - Advocate That’s amazing! How long did you suffer from this theme for? Do you have instagram? X
@HJOx Suffering off and on for years—finally got the right treatment for it here. I don’t have an ocd-centered Instagram yet, but I’ll make one soon!
@Liz Lake - Advocate Amazing 🙌🏽 how long did you stay in treatment if you don’t mind me asking? X
@HJOx It’s different for everyone, but it was about 15 weeks for me before it all “clicked”. It’s something that you have to practice until you develop muscle memory. I’m not a therapist, so I don’t know the mechanics about what’s happening in my brain, but I know that I’m not anxious about my intrusive thoughts anymore unless I ruminate and try to analyze them.
@Liz Lake - Advocate That’s so good. Did you find not ruminating the hardest? X
@HJOx At first yes, but what’s hardest overall is the feeling of loss of control. It felt good once I realized I could stop ruminating and had a bit more control over what I did with weird thoughts.
@Liz Lake - Advocate That’s amazing! Thankyou for your responses! Do you have a husband and children too? Xx
@HJOx Yep!
Yes. I cant stand it. I have a girlfriend and all i want to do is fantasize about her but i can't seem to
This isn't the first time this has happened to me. I've been through 3 different jobs and it fixates on at least one person every job
yes mee too but when im in school its focus on her
This has been happening to me too!! And everytime I stop ruminating about it my head goes “ooo you stopped thinking about it so I guess you’re accepting you like them” I try to do erp but it freaks me out so much the ocd feels so real and it gives me great anxiety.
someone here says that to mo : « and about fixation on a girl, it happens if you think you are feeling something for that girl even with hocd, you might fallen for her » im afraid what does it mean?
@syl47 For me my head fixates more on if I’m attracted to her but the way it started was I just saw a photo of her and said “oh she looks like a boy” then my head took that and turned it into a whole ordeal and now it’s getting into creating scenarios and stuff but I try to remain calm and kind of think how this all started and how my brain created this into a bigger issue.
@Anonymous🧸 yes me too it started because I thought she looked like a man and it scared me I never had any "pleasant" thoughts. But I don't understand what the person meant in his message?
@syl47 I don’t either and we don’t need to know! Everyone’s experience is different!! Don’t worry too much on what others have to say!
I work with this guy
i thik we have to do erp whit her pictures
or scenarios
Idk how that works. Fear is if i do then im scared I'll want it
yes me too.. and i do compulsion to rassure me after …
Same. Only my anxiety is almost non existent. It tells me every guy is cute but it feels like im the one saying it and it feels like it doesn't bother me and it sucks
I wanted to voice that homosexuals can get HOCD too. I remember when i was younger and knew i was gay i still got HOCD one time when watching The Office. I thought Pam was so pretty and then started doubting my whole identity because what if i am straight? Oh god, what a terror if i was heterosexual. But anyway, thought that maybe this would help heteros with HOCD by knowing that this is a universal symptom across OCD sufferers of all sexual orientations. A big problem is calling this subtype “Homosexual OCD,” because its not. It has nothing to do with being homo or hetero or bi or anything. Its just OCD being a bully. I think labelling subtypes is an issue altogether, as it can unconsciously make people feel like its not just OCD. But it is. Does this make any sense? What are yall’s thoughts on this? Or is this just my OCD talking? (Im not seeking reassurance just genuinely find this interesting) TLDR; each time we “qualify” OCD with a subtype, we reinforce that the subtype is part of the issue. In reality, OCD is just a broken loop in our brains, and thoughts are just thoughts. And Pam Beesly is a hottie.
Hi all, I deal with HOCD and been seeing a therapist for about 3.5 months. It has definitely got better but still affects me very much. Was wondering there is anyone out there who has dealt with HOCD as well and has recovered. I would love to message or even chat just see how your experience was and hear what was beneficial to you.
I’ve recovered from HOCD before and got my attraction and my usual actual identity back. I was recovered from end 2022- start 2025 until I got triggered UGHHH😭 My HOCD is REALLY trying to convince me and it’s SO annoying cause I genuinely don’t want these thoughts. I know I naturally like men and always have done so. I can’t wait for my first therapy session in two days Omg! I need your advice, not necessarily reassurance, but more advice? My HOCD is throwing random “proof” I did/ saw as a child in my face, which back then had no meaning in my life and I continued to live a perfectly heterosexual life. I’ve educated myself about arousal non concordance / child’s play, but it still doesn’t remove the HOCD. I’ve read therapists great explanations on how it’s not a sexuality issue, BUT ITS AN OCD BRAIN ISSUE. So basically I’ve been straight and i will die as straight. But my ocd is still continuing with the intrusive thoughts/flashbacks. I’ve had some moments where I haven’t done as many compulsions and had less anxiety but still had those damn thoughts and I DO NOT want those damn thoughts. I have so much proof and factual/logical explanations but HOCD is still continuing to thrive. I absolutely hate this and I feel so alone. I wish there was a reset button cause I don’t want these thoughts to happen. I want a man and I stand by that. How do y’all deal with these situations? Cause sitting with the thoughts is clearly not helping.
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