Zoë_84

Date posted: 3y

Dating / Relationship while suffering from P/ZOCD

NOT FOR MINORS!!! My partner with whom I had been for 6 years withdrew from me, as he couldn't deal with me suffering from OCD any longer. But 4 years before we ended our relationship we started to barely have sex anymore (1 - 4 times a year). One time, when we snuggled, I touched his stomach below his navel, his whole body tensed and it felt as, if he also held his breath. I felt so horrible, it seemed he was disgusted by and scared of me... It real got at me. At some point, I asked him, if he doesn't want to have sex with me anymore, because of my POCD, he said no, but I didn't quite believe him. He had often not been honest with me and it would make total sense. He is an MD, I thought, if someone understands it's him, but well... @POCD sufferers: What is your experience? Do you have a partner and, if yes, do they know, that you are suffering from POCD? If yes, how did they take it? Did anything change after you told them? How long in to the relationship did you tell them? If you are single, are you scared of dating due to POCD?

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marbo

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 3y

I’m single and TERRIFIED of dating with POCD. I know my partner will have to know above it, but the thought of telling anyone that makes me sick to my stomach.

marbo

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 3y

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Anonymous

Date posted: 3y

It is definitely a fear I have that my husband will no longer want to be with me. But he was the first one I told before I even knew what it was. The thoughts came on so suddenly I was terrified I was going crazy. But he has been so supportive and encouraging. And doesn’t ask questions and let’s me share as I need/want to. If they truly know who you are they’ll know it’s not you, it’s your OCD!

Hope

Date posted: 3y

Also you don’t have to tell anyone your exact ocd thoughts- only if you want to! My partner knows I have ocd but I haven’t told him all my themes Bc honestly they are all the same- remember content doesn’t matter at all it’s all the same thing- OCD, 🙏

lifeisworthit

Date posted: 3y

In my experience I’ve had a great partner who was extremely patient with it knowing that it’s just a form of OCD. of course it wasn’t easy and it took understanding and time on their part but overall it was great and they knew it wasn’t a reflection of who I was at all

AncientCatMf

Date posted: 3y

My Partner does know I suffer from POCD, we have been together for about 6 months. My SO was very understanding bc I tried to explain it best I can and they also suffer from less severe OCD, I actually gained the POCD theme while I was with them and it made mw feel guilty like they wouldn’t want to be with someone like me. But they did understand and still do, if your partner doesn’t allow you to feel safe with your own mental problems they might now be for you

Zoë_84

Date posted: 3y

He withdrew and I ended it... He withdrew, because he couldn't cope with my anxiety... No idea, if it was due to the theme, too...

AncientCatMf

Date posted: 3y

@Zoë_84 I think it was for the best, as much as it’s going to hurt. He made you feel like something you weren’t, you got this Zoë

Zoë_84

Date posted: 3y

@OcdSomethin117 He never said, that he thought I was a paedophile... He just had been very unsupportive and rude after our great 2 years together... He'd get angry, when I cried and I barely cried in front of him...

Zoë_84

Date posted: 3y

@OcdSomethin117 He broke me, I think I can't trust a man again... Not when it comes to relationship, I don't ever want to be told - You are one of the best people I have ever met, I'm sorry OCD has such a huge impact on you, but I just can't take it any longer... It feels like I get punished for being ill...

AncientCatMf

Date posted: 3y

@Zoë_84 It’s not your fault for being ill, he was clearly not the one for you, you never deserved to be treated like that and it’s not your fault or even ocd’s fault, it’s his for not wanting to be there for you like he should have been

Zoë_84

Date posted: 3y

@OcdSomethin117 I should stay alone, it is hard for me and everyone close to me... it's not fear to impact other people's lives in the way I did...

AncientCatMf

Date posted: 3y

@Zoë_84 Zoe that’s not true, you never did anything wrong, it’s OCD not you, you shouldn’t isolate yourself, you need to make sure not to avoid bc it’s basically a compulsion, not everyone is gonna be able to understand you like others

Zoë_84

Date posted: 3y

@OcdSomethin117 It's not a compulsion, I don't suffer from ROCD. I just got cut out by too many people and my family doesn't have the energy for coping with it anymore either... I need to learn to become happy by myself, as the constant loss of friends cuts too deep for me to go through it again and again... but thanks for your encouragement

Bertnernie112

Date posted: 3y

Sorry to ask but what's pocd?

Princessandt...

Date posted: 21w

Finding love with POCD. Help!

So I’m really struggling to believe that anyone will want to be in a relationship with me and still love me when they find out about my pocd and intrusive thoughts. I am holding a belief no one can love me with this condition and they will be repulsed by me when they find out. I just don’t know how to shake that feeling and be brave enough to try and share with anyone I’m dating.

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Shhhhh

Date posted: 19w

Relationship OCD

For those of you in relationships with ROCD, do your partners know of your diagnosis. I am new to treatment and new to this avenue of mental health. I am generally pretty open and honest with my partner about things but the dark side of my mind I keep hidden. I’m scared to tell him about this if I’m diagnosed. And I’m scared that if I’m diagnosed and something real does go south in the relationship then my diagnosis will be used against me.

Anonymous

Date posted: 19w

Telling a partner about POCD

Hello everyone! Is there anyone who told their partners that you experienced POCD in the past or that you are experiencing right now? How did they handle it? Did they understand it? Were they supportive? I'm creating future scenarios in my mind that I need to confess this to a future partner.

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