afaf0073

Date posted: 3y

Pushing away friends

Ever since I developed really bad OCD and depression, I want nothing to do with my friends. I ignore them for weeks on end and they get pissy with me because I won’t go see them EVER and I just feel like they wouldn’t be able to relate to me anyway, so I just run away and hide. I feel like I barely have anybody anymore, but at the same time, I’ve been told that I do it to myself. I’m angry because I know they just don’t understand so I just don’t bother. Anybody else’s disorders cause them to disconnect with friends? I feel lonely at times and alone.

"Pure" OCD

Overcomer

Date posted: 3y

Those feelings are very common with mental health.. it feels like it takes a lot of effort n all these emotions

Overcomer

Date posted: 3y

If you want to maintain those relationships you text them at least a week u don’t have to push too far but check in moments n find do you enjoy with someone you feel comfortable n safe with it takes time I’ve been there

Zoë_84

Date posted: 3y

My friends distanced themselves from me and then cut me out, due to me suffering from OCD. I have always felt better, when being around them, so I never distanced myself from them. But I'm also lonely and I can't imagine making new friends, after my experiences...

afaf0073

Date posted: 3y

Oh my gosh I am so sorry to hear that. They should have taken the time to understand you more, I’m sorry you went through that with them! Awesome to hear that you felt better around them though. I think it’s very difficult to relate to my friends because they all lived very easy lives, were handed everything by their parents and had little to no stress when it came to anything (they’ve admitted to this type of lifestyle before too ) which leaves me not really able to bond with them, considering I came from a very different lifestyle. Because they’ve had it so easy, they never really developed any mental disorders - which they’ve also said themselves as well. I feel like the odd one out and sometimes I just want a clean slate of people in my life, as they are judge mental to others, which leaves me to believe I would be treated no differently. I also sometimes can’t imagine making new friends because of experiences either, so I’m with you on that too.

Zoë_84

Date posted: 3y

@afaf0073 Well, they understood, that I have issues, I even explained some things, but I think they just got tired, as I couldn't supply anything they wanted to them anymore.

Zoë_84

Date posted: 3y

@afaf0073 May I ask how old you are?

afaf0073

Date posted: 3y

@Zoë_84 I am 33, how about you?

Zoë_84

Date posted: 3y

@afaf0073 38

afaf0073

Date posted: 3y

@Zoë_84 Cool. I actually just read your profile and I’m honestly stunned about how much we have in common. I can barely leave my apartment too and I also can’t be around children either. It’s really hard :(

Zoë_84

Date posted: 3y

@afaf0073 It is... Are you also alone? My family is a mess, I feel worse, whenever I engage with them, I only have friends online and no partner... Some openly admitted, that they can't take my OCD anymore, others withdrew, but I'm very sure, they did, because of my issues... May I ask where you are from? Country wise I mean.

afaf0073

Date posted: 3y

@Zoë_84 I live with my boyfriend, but at times I still feel alone because I’ll take my anger out on him and he’ll stay in a seperate room occasionally. And OMG same here! I have no family either and when I do engage with them, I feel so much worse as well, leaving me having to have cut them off. They treated me terribly when my mom passed away. So sorry you are dealing with family issues as well… we need their support and understanding and to not get that can really take a toll on someone. I am from the US and live in CT, yourself?

Zoë_84

Date posted: 3y

@afaf0073 I'm from Germany

💟

Date posted: 21w

lonely

My pocd makes me feel really lonely. I have friends who I love but they also struggle with mental health too, and when I'm there to listen and support them sometimes it's just too much and I feel like a bad friend. I can't help but feel like it's not the same, I know you can't compare your struggles to others but sometimes when my friend is telling me how they feel a lack of motivation and depressed I honestly wish I was just dealing with that instead of that and fearing that I'm a pedophile ontop of it. Like at least the thing you're dealing with isn't something that will make 90% of the population despise you, you know? I know that sounds bad and isn't very mature but I'm always the therapist friend for other people, and I'm the only one actually seeking help and trying to get better and I arguably have the worst thing to deal with. I feel like my friends only want to talk to me when they're depressed or need advice and I'm so tired of it.

POCD

AJ__

Date posted: 21w

OCD & social isolation

I remember reading a comment someone had made to one of my posts on an OCD subreddit and they told me how they believed their OCD symptoms got worse during a time in their life when they were socially isolated. Reading this comment made the brightest lightbulb go off in my head because it basically summarized most of what I’ve been going through. In addition to OCD, I also struggle with depression and social anxiety. I feel like these three things and the profound sense of loneliness I’ve felt throughout my years in college (undergrad) feed off of each other. I know that OCD can manifest in so many different ways regardless of what your social life looks like, but I can’t help but feel like the lack of relationships (specifically friendships)/community in my life has something to do with my mental health and the delay in my recovery. Side note: I’m still relatively new to NOCD, but I’m happy to say that I’ve been making some good progress in my therapy sessions <3

speedymind23

Date posted: 20w

Ocd and anxiety

I’ve been dealing with ocd and anxiety since I was a kid, but these recent years have been the worst it’s ever been. It’s hard to communicate with people about your mental health so I’ve been self isolating by accident lol, my social anxiety is terrible and it’s extremely stressful for me to hangout with people and my friends don’t seem to really understand even when I try my best to explain. They notice I don’t hangout as much but to them it’s “me being weird “ or “ a fake friend” I don’t know what to do and it’s frustrating

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