POCD, real events OCD

Omg same girl!!!!!! Same exact theme!!!!! Same fear!!!! I’m with you!! We’re worrying about things that are never going to happen.. and if they do, so what?? 😅

@KindHeartedTaurus Really????? Omg!!! I thought I was the only one with this one!!!

@Luli Nope nope I struggle with your exact situation right now. U are not alone!!! 😊

@KindHeartedTaurus I even deactivated my FB account 😅😅

@Luli :( girl no that’s a compulsion. I cant tell u what to do but your ocd thoughts are LYING. I’ve honestly just been accepting and disregarding (by shrugging my shoulders physically) and responding, “ya, my reputation is gonna get ruined, cool” and feel yourself detaching from the thoughts. It should feel as effortless as sitting on a couch. Just let go !! Close your eyes, take a deep breath, and feel yourself deciding to not respond to anything. Ya there may be feelings of anxiety but accept that too and it will soon go away. Srry if this was unsolicited advice but I hope this helps

@KindHeartedTaurus Thank you soooo much! And you are absolutely right it is a compulsion 😰😰 I will try my best to do what you said! Thank you for being with me on this one 🌸

@Luli The reputation thing gets me too! Lol

@Luli Of course!! ♥️ You can do this. I believe in you. Our pasts dont define who we are! Just keep redirecting yourself to the present as much as you can!! It feeling real is only a symptom, remember that! Best of luck ♥️💐

@KindHeartedTaurus Awwww Thank youuu! Are you in the US if you dont mind me asking 😊🌸

@Luli i am!! I’m in cali :) how about u?

@KindHeartedTaurus Iam in Texas 😊😊

@Luli yo I would love to visit texas some day. i heard food portions are bigger there and that the food is good in general!!

@KindHeartedTaurus Yesss!!! Super big!!! You should come to Texas, its fun 😊😊 Cali must be beautiful too! Never been there.

@KindHeartedTaurus I am so glad (not to offend because I don’t wish this on anyone) but that someone has the same theme as mine. I don’t feel as alone. I wish we could message each other here but I believe this app doesn’t let us private message right?

@KindHeartedTaurus What if you did something really awful when you were 13 that your POCD targets, and calls you a P and a Chomo for it, but your mom tells you that you didn’t hurt anyone, and that it’s nothing serious, and that I’m not a chomo, but other people would see it as such? Would this be POCD and real event OCD, or denial? Because I don’t ever want to be attracted to any kids in any way shape or form… I don’t even want to look at kids… I had a massive anxiety attack at my work because of this and I threw up in the restroom because of this… I don’t ever want to ever be a P or a chomo in any way shape or form… past, present, or future…

@Luli What if you did something really awful when you were 13 that your POCD targets, and calls you a P and a Chomo for it, but your mom tells you that you didn’t hurt anyone, and that it’s nothing serious, and that I’m not a chomo, but other people would see it as such? Would this be POCD and real event OCD, or denial? Because I don’t ever want to be attracted to any kids in any way shape or form… I don’t even want to look at kids… I had a massive anxiety attack at my work because of this and I threw up in the restroom because of this… I don’t ever want to ever be a P or a chomo in any way shape or form… past, present, or future…

@745 You’ve got to face these thoughts. You have to respond, maybe, maybe not!!! Lol those are definitely OCD thoughts, trust me. Been there, done that. You got this! Cmon!

@KindHeartedTaurus I had a massive anxiety attack at work today and still feel so anxious about it right now… I don’t ever want to ever be a P or a chomo… I don’t ever want to hurt or be attracted to any kid in any way shape or form… I want to only be with an adult girl who I can love and respect… beautiful adult girls relax me and make me feel better and make me feel happy… I don’t ever want to ever be with a kid or be attracted to one or even look at one in any way shape or form…

@745 Of course you don’t!!! But if that’s what you’re OCD is telling you, you just say “maybe I am, maybe not ✌🏻😋” and physically shrug your shoulders. It wont make ur anxiety go away right away but I promise if you keep doing that, it’s gonna work. Trust me!! Plz plz give it a try you’ve got nothing to lose. I dont wanna see you struggle on the forum anymore!

@KindHeartedTaurus I’ve been trying so hard… but this real event was so bad… I was 13… now I’m 20… I don’t ever want to ever be attracted to any kid in any way shape or form in any way… my mom constantly reassures me that I didn’t do anything to hurt anyone, and that it’s not serious, and that I’m not a chomo, but other people (who don’t have OCD) would see it as such and I don’t ever want to be called that or be associated with that kind of thing because I don’t ever want to ever be attracted to any kid in any way shape or form… I just want a beautiful adult girl to love and cherish… like I was so anxious about this it was like I wasn’t getting anxious by other triggers… I was working (while highly anxious and sleepy) and I heard a kid scream “daddy” which really triggered me and I got an intrusive thought of the word “cute”…

@745 By responding maybe I am, maybe I’m not to those thoughts doesn’t automatically mean you’re atrracted. The whole goal of doing that is to be okay with uncertainty cause it’s part of your life. And I’m sorry for that trigger btw. I know it’s hard, and just know that this is a judge free zone. You have to face those thoughts and tell them, “‘maybe I am attracted to kids, maybe I’m not 💁🏻‍♀️,” “Maybe I am a chomo, maybe not.” Like you’re obviously not?? but this is just so your brain can stop bringing them up. Give them uncertainty man. And I know what you’re thinking, but saying those phrases above is ONLY for your OCD & anyone else who judges you for that can kick rocks. We know how OCD is. Stay strong

@KindHeartedTaurus I just wish I had a beautiful adult girlfriend to love and cherish… a beautiful adult girl like Helena Bonham Carter, or Scarlett Johansson, or Julie Estelle, or Lisa from Blackpink… just a beautiful adult girl who would be attracted to me for me… a beautiful adult girl who I can see and love and hug and cuddle and kiss and do my best for… not a kid…

@745 Ya of course!! But remember to face your thoughts, okay? I hope my advice makes sense to you but you just gotta rip the bandage off and just face them like how I told you. If you keep denying them and ruminating its only going to feed it and make it worse

@KindHeartedTaurus How old are you btw? I ask this because I usually ask people for advice who are over the age of 18… it triggers my POCD if they are under…

@745 I’m 24 😊

@KindHeartedTaurus I’m 20… I’ve been dealing with this for 2 long years… I’m turning 21 in July… I just wish I could meet a beautiful adult girl who likes me for me… because I’m honestly too ugly and annoying

@745 Cmonnn man !!! You dont need to bring yourself down like that. Yo honestly if you feel that way about yourself, start lifting weights at the gym or sum. rlly helps w my ocd as well 😊 focus on YOU. Lol you dont need a woman you need yourself

@KindHeartedTaurus I’m doing that currently… are you a girl or a guy or trans or go by a different pronoun? Because I don’t want to be transphobic and I only want to be kind to others when comes to this type of thing. Also trust me. Too many girls think I’m ugly and annoying.

@745 I’m she/her. I’m a cis-woman or whatever. Ok well you dont need validation from anyone else but yourself. All OCD talk aside, you’re never gonna find a woman who loves you for you until you finally choose yourself. That’s just how it works. When you put yourself first, when you love yourself first, you attract people that will do the same to you

@KindHeartedTaurus I’ve tried loving myself you know? But how can I with this OCD and real event OCD based on my POCD about real events that happened when I was 13…? Plus when I see my friend brag about how much sex he gets with girls, not only do I feel triggered because he’s describing it in detail which triggers my HOCD, but it also makes me jealous of my friend because he gets a lot of girls and I’m just an ugly Korean who doesn’t really have anything special about him…

@745 omg brooo stop :( I feel it tho, the journey to this self-love journey is hard but you’ve got to love yourself even through your past mistakes. Love all of you😊 because we’re changing everyday. Lol ima let you in on something. It’s not cute when a guy brags about sex with all these girls and sex. Like ok bro cool but i dont wanna hear it 🤣✌🏻 lmaooo thats just me but as a woman I hate that. Dont be jealous bro keep doing you 👍🏼 you’re currently just rebuilding yourself !

@KindHeartedTaurus Do you have any social media that I can follow? You seem really chill and honestly sweet to talk to. And I was wondering if I could at least get to know you? 😅😅

@KindHeartedTaurus Right! 🥺🥺🥺

@KindHeartedTaurus I hope I didn’t offend you by asking that question 😞😞😞

@745 You are not alone with this theme! Seriously, you are young and full of life. So many good things will happen for you. With all this experiences about OCD you will learn and be able to help someone else. Do you do ERP? I highly recommend it if you can! And remember, you come first, your health comes first! You matter, you are loved by your family and friends. OCD plays tricks on us.

@745 Don’t bring yourself down. Ocd is hard but you are stronger than this. Everyone do stuff during their childhood and teenage years. Ocd is telling you people will look at you differently… that’s a lie! Try to sit with the thoughts and agree with it.

@Luli I’ve bought Nathan Peterson’s coursebook on OCD… I’ve been using it for my real event ocd… I was watching the videos and changing my reaction to the thoughts… it was working for a little bit then I stopped doing it… it was making me feel like I wasn’t anxious, then I get extremely anxious, which both triggered me in equal measures

@Luli I just try and try and try… even my mom gets angry for me calling her all the time in the early hours of the morning and all day too… she keeps telling me that I didn’t harm anyone and that I’m not a chomo for what happened and that it’s not serious… I just hope this is all POCD and Real events OCD…

@745 Where do you live if you don’t mind me asking? Nathan Peterson lives here in Allen Tx…

@KindHeartedTaurus Also I’m sorry if I did offend you with the question… you just seem really nice and sweet to talk to… that’s why I was asking if I could get to know you better… 😞😞😞

@Luli I’m in Peoria AZ… he can’t really give me actual sessions but his coursebook has tought me a lot about what I’m supposed to do…

@745 Ok, lets do this… can you not ask her for reassurance? Or try to call her less? Iam going through the same theme and yes its hard but is not as bad as our OCD makes it sound!

@745 Ok perfect! So please keep doing the course. You have to do it ok?

@Luli I’ll try… 😞😞😞 do you think I offended Taurus by asking for her social media? I wasn’t trying to offend her… I just wanted to get to know her more…

@Luli Do you exercise? Going to school?

@Luli I work out at the gym with my friends and I’m a psychology major in my sophmore year of college… I’m 20 with no gf 😅😅

@745 No, I don’t think so. She is probably busy. But promise you will do the course!!

@745 Wowwww!!!! What am I telling you????? You might become one of the best OCD therapist in the future!!! Let go the girlfriend thing! The right one will come to you when the time is right. For now you need to focus on your recovery and in your school. That’s your priority!

@Luli I will… I’m sorry for wasting your time 😅😅 You have ocd just like I do and I’m practically just rambling and making you help me 😅😅😅

@745 Hey, its ok! We are here to help each other right? 😅😅

@Luli It’s just when I see my friends brag about having sex with girls all the time, I get jealous of the friend because he gets to be with so many girls, meanwhile the only girl I’ve ever been in a relationship with broke it off with me to try and be with my friend…

@745 Don’t be jealous! Guys that brag too much do nothing.

@Luli Im sad because no adult girl has really ever been attracted to me you know? Like I can cook and stuff and I try to be as kind as I can… I just feel like im not worth it to some girls because I can be emotionally sensitive and stuff…

@745 Like I said…focus on healing. The right one will come!

@Luli I want to, but at the same time I don’t want this mental illness holding me back from what I desire you know? Like if I could be with an attractive adult girl, an adult girl who likes me and is attracted to me for me, then I would feel at genuine peace

@KindHeartedTaurus Just sent the request! My name is j00_kang

@745 okay yaaassss !!! im gonna delete my comment now so that no one else sees. u never know !!!! but ya dw i was just getting ready!! hahaha

@Luli I'm getting anxious from my POCD and real event OCD based on real events from when I was 13…… I don't ever want to ever be a P at all… I don't ever want to ever be a Chomo at all... I was 13 when these real events happened and now I'm 20... I've asked my mom about this so many times and every time she tells me that it's not serious anymore, that the person is okay, and that I'm not a chomo... I don't ever want to ever harm a child in any way shape or form... I seriously don't ever want to do that to any child in any way shape or form and I seriously don't ever want to do anything like that to any kid now or in the future… I never have had any fantasies about kids and I don't ever want to... I don't ever want to ever be a P or a chomo in any way shape or form... Like I was 13….. and after the real events I never did anything like that ever again, and I never once ever thought (before, and after) about doing stuff with kids in any way shape or form... I never once fantasized about kids or wanted to do anything with kids

@Luli - Hey there! I wanted to invite you to the OKC for OCD Walk at Lake Hefner this September (2024)! There will be games and prizes after the walk, so stick around if you can! :) It's a great opportunity to meet others in the area in person. With how isolating OCD can be, I think a lot of us could use some community! https://support.iocdf.org/OKCforOCD