Do you guys think that breaking up with your boyfriend will be easier then to go through all this things ( thoughts feelings etc…) I’m lost Also I wanted to create a support group on Instagram for ROCD so if you want give me your Instagram x
I feel that way too. I'm married with kids, so it's a bit harder, but I've definitely wanted to end things and resign myself to a single life. However, I know that working to overcome OCD is ultimately what will make me stronger and more confident in my decisions, whatever they might be.
In My experience the OCD will either just attach to a new theme or relationship. So running from it would not be suggested.
Yes I know that I just have to work on myself but I’m scared I’m not strong enough to deal with this.. and ended up leaving my bf bc of my thoughts and all…
@melissaaa Those are definitely really scary thoughts. It exploits what we love and want the most. Remember also you get to choose to stay or leave. The OCD doesn’t get to decide that.
@fische74 Thank you yes that’s exactly what I’m scared of what if I choose to leave but again this though is probably an ocd though here. I tried to tell myself when a thought saying maybe you don’t love him comes in I’ll say maybe yes maybe no but I choose to stay but then it turns to become but what if I choose to leave.. that’s so exhausting idk what to do
@melissaaa I think the trick is to sit in the uncertainty— maybe I will leave maybe I won’t. Don’t even tell yourself you will choose to stay because that can be considered a compulsion.
@fische74 Let the wave of fear/anxiety wash over you in that moment. And sit in it. It really really sucks. I am sorry you have to go through that.
@fische74 Does anxiety can show up in the form of sadness ?
@fische74 That’s life I guess there’s nothing I can do bout it but thanks ! Did you deal with Rocd ?
@melissaaa I think OCD can cause us to feel grief and sadness. And yes I do struggle with ROCD.
@fische74 It has been the hardest battle of my life.
@fische74 R u better now ?
@melissaaa I am in a relapse right now. But I was doing so much better! I recently got engaged so I think the transition triggered the OCD which I guess is common.
@fische74 I wish I had ROCD or relationship anxiety when I was dating my husband. I think it would have helped me understand my experience so much better. Congratulations on your engagement and I hope you find your way back to peace soon.
@Maeday I wish I KNEW that I had ROCD, Geez.
@fische74 Thats good to hear :) to be honest I’m terrible about it it’s been two months and everyday is a battle I’m gonna see a psychiatrist soon tho and I’m seeing a therapist but it’s more talk therapy we are doing for the moment so it’s good for finding the trauma but not to treat the thing himself
@Maeday But Rocd is horrible
@melissaaa I know, I have it. I just wish I knew I had it earlier, so I could have addressed it earlier. I wish I didn't have it at all, of course, but knowing what it is, is half the battle.
@Maeday I think it is hard to not reflect back and wish we knew earlier. Like I now know I struggled with OCD since middle school and I am 29. So I am with you in those feelings.
@Maeday Oh sorry i didn’t understand here haha… ofc i understand well for me it’s still hard
Yes definitely! Honestly in my experience it just will morph to something new. You can’t run from it
So me and my boyfriend have been dating for a few months but seriously talking for around 8. I have never met anyone so perfect and amazing. I love him so much. Into our talking stage i kissed my ex situation-ship and ever since have been dealing with the consequences. He forgave me and gave me another chance and i have shown him how much i care every day since. He is over it now since it was only in our talking stage. I have had thoughts with my ex name, thoughts i hate my boyfriend, always constantly thinking if im bored, if i love him. It switches day by day and impacts my life constantly. I don’t feel like myself at all. Some days i can’t do it. I just want to be happy and secure with him. my thought from the past few days is that i want to be single and hook up with other people. I don’t actually want to hook up with others but i feel so terrible and guilty. Does anyone else deal with this? Sometimes i can’t tell the difference between my real thoughts and the fake ones. I have been debating breaking up with my boyfriend because i feel like it’s best but i would be so sad. He is perfect and i see myself marrying him.
I’m having what I think is my first ROCD full episode. I’ve had doubting thoughts the entirety of my relationship. But in the last couple of days have been overwhelmed with and debilitated by anxiety and the feeling that I need to break up with my boyfriend. I don’t know if I have OCD officially but talking to therapists it seems that it is likely and I’m going to an OCD specialist next week to talk through my feelings but I feel completely helpless and hopeless at the moment and riddled with anxiety. I’m in a long distance relationship. I seem to have a waves throughout the day when I want to communicate with my boyfriend and tell him I love him etc. but the other 80% of my day is filled with anxiety and dread that I’m going to have to break up with him. I just want the anxiety to go away and to know if my thoughts are real thoughts or OCD thoughts. My biggest fear is that this isn’t an OCD episode and I do need to break up with him. I’m seeing him this weekend and I’m filled with dread about feeling disconnected and anxious and not in love.
Please help. Been with my boyfriend for 15 months. 6 months into our official relationship I found out he kissed someone 1 week before he asked out officially. He told me he loved me at that time and I felt we were exclusive. He apparently did not . He also agreed he would not watch porn and lied once about it. I also have been spinning about the types of women he thinks are attractive and I find disgusting so I sent him pictures for months hoping he would say it looks gross but he didn’t and it killed me. Throughout the relationship I have been spinning about these issues really hard and it damaged my trust for him but I know he’s an amazing great guy I just feel very uneasy. It has been 1 year of me spinning about these issues and other little ones constantly texting him everyday and my friends about them to try to figure things out but I am unhappy . 4 months ago I had a severe breakdown and since I am severely depressed and anxious every day all day with thoughts of is this a wrong relationship , comparing him to other men, wondering if I would be happier with someone else. I have been seeing a therapist seeing a therapist one thinks I have rocd and a psychologist doesn’t . Nothing is helping me and I’m on Zoloft . I broke up with him a month ago and I’m still spinning in circles if I made the right decision or if I left over rocd and overblowing the issues that bothered me . Someone please tell me if you think this is rocd (edited)
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