I need some help guys.....hocd I think

I can't feel shit for women sometimes and feel like I'm forcing it. It used to be so natural

In my mind I try and think of women and my minds like eww. Its so depressing. And thinking that I'm not going to feel the same again sucks

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I’m so sorry this has been such a battle for you. Try not to attach meaning to the feelings, just let them be there. Are you practicing ERP with a therapist?

Hang in there buddy, my suggestion is if the thoughts don't align to who you are or what you feel but only create a lot of doubt and questioning - chuck it, you not trying to deal with the junk is the key here. Let it give whatever it can, but you're stronger than that. Sending positive thoughts your way!

That's the problem I don't know if they align with me or not. i don't recognise myself in the mirror anymore it's horrible. Thanks for your support buddy 👍

So play a game with yourself, everyime your brain is demanding an answer- don't give it absolutely. Just start with a 5 mins, then to an hour and keep practicing it. Trust me, you're gonna kill it buddy

Just it be there, ask it for more, tell it what else you got? Give me every thought, imma not give ans answer. Again, not giving the answer is the key!

No worries. You gotta keep practise it. It's so long for me now. But still I lose to few thoughts and that's okay

Hey buddy, sorry couldn't get back to you. Yes it does happen. Your brain is anxious all the time it could be the reason. Just believe in yourself and don't respond to every thought of it

No worries mate. It feels as tho I want to be with a man. With these feelings etc.....its horrible 😞

I know right. It feels and you don't embrace it so you don't have to pursue it, try practicing to figure out who you like.

Try to figure it out ? Or don't?

Don't try to figure it out. Figuring out means you looking for certainty and it the core flaw of ocd

I feel like I just want to shout out ok I'm gay. It's been this way for nearly 2 years. I just hope to god this is hocd?

It may be or may be not. It could be hocd or you could really be it. You're supposed to resist to know the answer. Btw, I feel that too, out of nowhere, I have this voice shouting I'm gay and it feels so scary

Yeah you cannot concentrate because you're not present in the moment. When you're watching a movie, try to get back to watching a movie you don't have to figure out your sexuality during that time

Believe in yourself buddy. Challenge yourself. Be like, imma sit out this movie no matter how distress I'm feeling

It's the negative thinking in your brain is doing and you are mentally checking. Try to resist that, if you're consciously have preference, that is what you are

What do you mean preference buddy

Preference means you know you like a cerrain gender right ? That's your preference? If your brain is giving you other gender thoughts and you don't like it, those are intrusive thoughts

That's the hocd trick my friend. Please explore about it alot. You might get an idea about it.

I have watched so many videos etc....do you have any recommendations?

Watch they call me Jesse videos

I just think how can I have a relationship with a woman again. With this going on ?. It makes my feel so sad