Jamie1095
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- 3y
Guilt
Do you guys ever experience guilt for not liking someone? My mind tends to obsess over the fact I can’t like a particular person, then my intrusive thoughts surround that person.
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- 3y
Agreed. Guilt is one of the most common emotions people with OCD tend to experience, second only to anxiety. OCD always wants you to think/feel/believe that something is wrong, and when we think something is wrong, we usually feel anxious or guilty. Feelings are not facts. I'd encourage you to resist the urge to analyze it, figure it out, or "do" anything about it, as that can quickly become compulsive. When we accept feelings for what they are, they tend to lessen in intensity more quickly.
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- 3y
The exact opposite for me happens actually. I tend to feel guilty for liking a particular person TOO much, and then my intrusive thoughts start to surround that person
Jamie1095Jamie1095
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- 3y
Oh wow that’s interesting how you are the opposite
vswizzvswizz
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- 3y
with both of these, i think that our OCD brain, will pick literally which ever emotion we’re battling with, whether it be guilt for not liking someone or guilt for liking someone too much, and our OCD and intrusive thoughts will just run with that… and dramaticize whichever one we’re battling with at the time, i’ve learned to be mindful of this cause my OCD has made me feel one thing, and then later, will make me feel negative for doing the opposite it’s like a tricky minx trying to get you where they know it’s gonna get you! in my personal thoughts, being mindful of this, and trying not to let my brain take anything to the extreme has helped in these situations… and asking questions like… did i do something mean to that person to make me feel guilty? or am i JUST feeling guilty? and then i can start to decipher if it’s just my ocd/anxiety or if it’s something i actually should look into, if that makes sense sending you all positivity and strength! ♥️♥️♥️
Jamie1095Jamie1095
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Thank you for this feedback
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