howww

How do you know? Basically if you have ROCD then it’s almost always related to ROCD. Like the comment above. ROCD is manipulative and lies to you to confuse. You will never have certainty and will neeed to accept and believe that it isn’t you but the ROCD beast

My bad. I didn’t proof read. I don’t mean to suggest breaking up. It was supposed to be symbolically, by imagining how you would feel. And if you don’t miss them I mistakenly put it could be ROCD. That was wrong. Its the opposite. With ROCD you will always have those feelings towards them regardless unless enough time passes without contact you would eventually move on

so if i don’t miss them or think about that em often it’s probably ROCD? how if i don’t think about them?

@FunkyFred I think that's a typo.. or just a confusing sentence. I wouldn't recommend dumping someone to test it out though!

@kiki_ yeah i wouldn’t recommend that either tbh

@FunkyFred I think the question you're asking is *the* ROCD question.. and it's impossible to ever answer. You can keep collecting data, but any little thing someone says can change it all. I have struggled so hard with this question. Ultimately it can't be solved and needs to just exist there.. like, in hindsight I can tell which relationships I have been in that weren't right for me.. but back when I was in them I believe I still had some knowledge of what was what. But then I know that can be super triggering because if someone told me that while I was in a relationship, then I'd worry that deep down I know the relationship is wrong. So yeah, I think maybe there's cues to tell the difference, but ultimately this is an ocd question that can't be solved.

@kiki_ right because back then, i knew when relationships weren’t right for me, because the people treated me poorly.. but it’s sad when i have someone so good & i question everything.. ugh i hate it here

@FunkyFred I know :( I was just in a relationship with someone I honestly would like to spend my life with. I can say that clearly now, but I had such bad rocd in the relationship. Fortunately, there may be a second chance in store for me. But yes, it's so tough. Trying to solve questions that have no answers is awful.

@kiki_ aww i’m sorry to hear you guys broke up.. i’m rooting for that 2nd chance for you.. i know you’ll know how to go about it the second time around.. thank you for taking the time out to comment to me. I appreciate it. (: xoxo

@FunkyFred No problem, it helps me sort my ideas and remind myself to be more compassionate to MYSELF. I'm scared to go back in and have ROCD kick my butt though, but hopefully I can manage n not have it end again because of it. :,(

@FunkyFred Don't end things with them. I did and I regretted an hour later. It made it so much worse for me.

@kiki_ Just always remind yourself it’s ROCD.. and ROCD is a liar.. and remind yourself how sad you felt once you ended it due to fear, you’ll be fine. I believe you can do this. Don’t let OCD take a relationship you treasure from you. It’s crazy how I can give advice but can barely take my own lol. xoxo

@SkyeV thank you (:

@FunkyFred My bad. I mistakenly put ROCD. If you don’t miss them or have the obsessive feelings for them when they are gone. It’s probably not OCD related