Having a really hard time because I cheated on my boyfriend (i ate something after a friend and thought about our lips both touching that and thinking as if I kissed them and I did it on purpose and liked it) I hate myself and don't want my boyfriend to leave me. I don't want to cheat. I
Hello 👋🏼 I have ROCD and have the same thoughts sometimes, for example i was out in a bar and a friend grabbed my hand in order to take a picture of my ring that he found beautiful. The next day I woke up with the thoughts of cheating on my boyfriend. I knew it was OCD trying to hang on to my 0.01% chance of doubt, so i did an exercise i call a reality check. I give myself 1min to find 3 facts that are the reality. 1 - he just grabbed my hand to take a picture 2 - There was no cheating involved 3 - These are intrusive thoughts i am having due to a mental disorder i have. What i usually do later on is, never seek reassurance on wether i did or did not do it, once my reality check is done i move to something else, or at least try. If i have an anxiety attack, i breathe deeply and for as much as i need to calm down. I don’t try to understand the thoughts, i don’t let them win, i try as much as i can to sit with the uncertainty, the doubts and the anxiety and eventually it will face away, the voice will lower down and the anxiety will calm down i promise 🌈🤗 I hope this helps !! Let it go, don’t let it win 💪🏻💪🏻
What Supertramp said is spot on I suffer the exact same thoughts. I always feel like I’m cheating on my partner. I hugged a friends girlfriend to say hello and my brain thought “you purposely pushed yourself into her breasts to feel them” Confessing to your partner will make the anxiety go away temporarily but another thought will come up soon after. Not confessing to your partner is extremely hard but the feelings will fade away. I get at least a few thoughts a day that I’ve cheated on my partner and I’ve stopped confessing. Most of the time I feel better after a few hours. Sometimes the thoughts take a while longer to go away. I know I’m giving you reassurance right now but sharing food isn’t cheating. And the feeling of you did it on purpose is your OCD
Exactly, i even get the opposite, when my partner hugs a friend to say hi or talks to a friend on the phone (all infront of me as normal as a situation can be) i think he is cheating and vice versa for me 😮💨🤦🏻♀️ these thoughts are completely irrational there is no need to look into them, it’s the OCD. So is the guilt and anxiety that comes with it, it mimics the real feelings this little minx, don’t believe it 😬😅 Reality check, not giving into the confession ans guilt because as tester123 says it fades away and is much better than temporary relief 😮💨 Hang in there, i know it’s hard, but you can do it and you will do it 💪🏻 believe in yourself
this isn’t cheating
It will fade away**
I feel like the part that makes me feel like it is is the intent and doing it on purpose
it’s normal, this has happened too me before, it might have just been your anxiety thinking you feel a certain way but don’t
I get what ur saying and i appreciate u replying i dont think that is the case with me
Guys. I feel overwhelmingly terrible. I made a mistake and flirted with another guy at work while I’m still in a relationship. Me and my bf have been dating for 10 days. It wasn’t a sexual flirt but a lowkey one. I feel as though I cheated on him and I keep replaying what happened in my head. I can’t stop thinking about it. I confessed to my boyfriend and he was a bit upset but not too upset. I then, told him it was a joke and he laughed. But it’s really not. I feel like a terrible person. I will never make this mistake again but still
So I made a mistake and I need to confess to someone. Me and my girlfriend have been on a break because of relationship shit. An exclusive break. I think you can see where this is going. Then whilst I'm travelling abroad I might this lovely girl and I'm attracted to her but I don't think twice about it (don't want to obsess). Fast forward and me and our group of friends, including her go drinking. We get drunk. Then there's three of us and we go clubbing and I feel the tension between us and I address it and tell her I have a girlfriend and I don't want to cheat. She's completely fine with it. Cool right? But still I feel so guilty because we were too close when we danced, and I held her hand because I was just happy to be around someone that got me and I would never see her again because the next morning she's flying back to her own country. I kiss her cheek goodbye and I leave pretty happy. I also remember telling her I wanted to kiss her (but I didn't want to because relationship) and I feel so so so so so so so bad and guilty I feel so shit. Okay I didn't cheat but why did I say those things??? Why did I do that??? My intentions weren't to flirt, I was just happy in that moment. But still I can't believe it was me who did that. I'm in denial I don't know. I feel so bad. I don't know how much I should tell my girlfriend and we're complicated enough as it is. I'd appreciate it if someone listened without too much judgement I know I did a bad thing
I can’t stop thinking about a time the thoight of cheating crossed my mind at a party and I was like “no it’s against my morals” and then started ruminating about it for hours thinking that maybe I should break up with my partner if I’m attracted to someone else I was cold and didn’t talk to the person the whole time ofc (I don’t really know them I just saw them that one time and they were hitting on me - which I rudely rejected and said I had a bf) I feel terrible. I feel like a cheater. I’ve been told I’m not but why do I still feel like I am? I feel like I betrayed my partner and I feel terrible and disgusting to the point I’ve been cutting myself.
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