Feeling scared I'll never find men attractive due to HOCD and stereotypes?

Does anyone else get this???

I have HOCD but I feel like I’m not attracted to anyone anymore and it scares me into thinking I’ll never find men attractive again (I’m a heterosexual female). It feels like no man will ever find me attractive again either. I also am terrified that everyone else thinks I’m gay because I don’t fit the typical straight stereotypes. I wear fun earrings and bright colors all the time and it makes me feel like everyone thinks I’m gay. I’ve been teased for being gay, and I know that I’m straight, but it just scares me that I’ll never be able to be myself because of the stereotype. Does anyone else get either of these feelings?

Sexual Orientation OCD

Username: Lorenso408Lorenso408

User type: OCD Conqueror

Date posted: 2y ago

Hello ks233447, This is completely normal in our subset, I have been dealing with this for years, and it wasn’t until just recently that I have learned to embrace those thoughts, without me paying them any attention. I know get those thoughts from time to time and they have no we’re near the effect on me they once did, I can actually laugh it off, I remember I use to immediately look at folks reaction to me and would assume they thought I was gay, for no freaking reason I would walk around and assume everybody would look at me and think I was gay. I too, feared never finding my wife, but thankfully I am happily married with kids, and have a better social life and a career that demand I be around a lot of people, do your erp, and work hard at it and you too could live a plentiful life!!!

Username: JustmesadlyJustmesadly

Date posted: 2y ago

Dressing outside of straight stereotypes can be good erp !

Username: magzmagz

Date posted: 2y ago

Yes this really helped me a lot, also giving into certain compulsions like staring, kindly telling myself that it's okay to look if I felt like it cuz it was completely normal and it didn't have to mean anything specific or about me which eventually led to me feeling less anxious about it and felt more comfortable out in the world

Username: magzmagz

Date posted: 2y ago

Not sure if this would help you, but at one point I completely embraced being alone, because it also scared the crap out of me, the thought that oh I'm not attracted to anyone right now, that must mean I'm gay. But once I actually got comfortable with being alone, and reminded myself that it is completely normal for people to go through periods where they're not thinking of anyone and that's ok, that situation doesn't have to mean anything if you don't want it to and that's okay, even though it doesn't seem like it, you're in control, you have the power to engage your thoughts however you like

Username: crystalwolf1053

Date posted: 5y ago

Does anybody have Sexuality OCD? Because I am pretty sure that I am straight but then suddenly about a week ago I stopped going guys attractive and it really scared me. I was convinced I was gay! I tried to like a girl but my brain was telling me that it was wrong. That was when I thought ‘OMG I DONT HAVE A SEXUALITY’ and I got really scared. Then yesterday I thought a girl was really cute but then saw a guy and thought he was gorgeous! And then I was like no I have to be straight!!!!! What do I do? Does anybody have this problem?

Username: Idk

Date posted: 5y ago

I’m so afraid I might be lesbian. I was very anxious at first but it started to calm down. I’m only 15 and I have a boyfriend I love. At least I think I do, I always chose to question everything and over analyze. I found out about hocd and it described everything I was feeling. I’d take test and read articles like “am I lesbian” but I have never fantasied a girl or wanted to be with a girl sexually or romantically. But what if I’m in denial? I do think girls are physically attractive but I never crushed on a girl. I have always crushed on boys. And liked being with them. I’m just so lost. My anxiety about it had calmed down. But the question is still there sometimes. Earlier today, I found a girl pretty and I got scared thinking that meant something. Then I read about women who have married men, but they know they’re lesbian. I’m scared that that’ll Happen to me. I don’t want to be lesbian. No disrespect. But I just want to be happy. I think I’ve suffered from ocd before. Tell me anyone if I’m wrong. But I used to have thoughts of that my boyfriend would murder me in the future because of theses videos that triggered me. It caused me so much pain and felt so real. That I eventually started to think I’d murder my mom and sister for no reason. I felt so helpless. But I got through it. I hope I get through this. Please any advice? Is this hocd?? Does anyone else feel this way?

Sexual Orientation OCD

Username: mariaxx

Date posted: 5y ago

Does anyone else avoid people of the same sex when their HOCD flares up??? I’ve always unfollowed girls on my instagram that I thought were attractive because I was scared of liking them / and I didn’t want to see them because it made me think I found them attractive and stuff. Is this normal or is it just me being scared of admitting i’m gay? HOCD is so frustrating and confusing sometimes. Am I just scared of my truth☹️?

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