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- Jigjon99
- Date posted
- 2y ago
Why…
Me and my wife both have the day off and all I want is to spend a nice day with her but all I feel is anxiety and frustration… why can’t I just enjoy this.
Me and my wife both have the day off and all I want is to spend a nice day with her but all I feel is anxiety and frustration… why can’t I just enjoy this.
Luckily my wife is in graduate school for psychology so she has a good understanding of ocd and particularly rocd. We talk all the time about it and she checks in on me periodically to make sure I’m not spiraling off the deep end. I’m super lucky to have her. It’s just like, why can’t I feel it? Ya know?
That's rough man. I first felt it when my first kid was born. It took about a year and a half to fully surface after that but it never went away. I went through it for a year with his mom until she left. I got into another relationship afterwards that was normal fun and dating at first and I though that maybe I didn't have ROCD and it really was just intuition. As soon as we started to commit the thoughts and feelings came right back like they never left. It's been almost 3 years with her now. We just had a daughter on Mother's day May 8th this year and it has been very hard for both of us.
To me the hardest part is not being able to invest my head and heart into it being OCD and not the truth.
I feel you. I struggle with this all the time. You are not alone!
Me too
I feel you dude, how long have you too been together? When did your ROCD start to surface?
We have been together for over 10 years, married for 7. Looking back on past relationships, I see similar issues but in this particular relationship, it got really bad when my wife got pregnant with our first daughter and she turned 7 in April.
Does your wife know about the way you feel and the stuff you go through?
Yes, I do know. I will say however, that I have done more personal growing through this pain then I ever have at any other point in my life. Do you feel like it's been a constant misery these last 7 years?
No, I have been in therapy since I was a teenager for depression/anxiety/ocd, I’m 35 now, and have come a long way. I used to have bad days/weeks/months and now I have bad moments. I have intrusive thoughts daily but most of the time, I can cope with them. I have an unrealistic idea of what “love” is, like a Disney movie, compounded by what I grew up with regarding my parents disaster of a relationship.
God. I can't imagine going through this for that long. Has it always been rocd for you or has there been other themes?
My main theme is relationships but I’ve had harm, real even and sexual orientation but those come and go. Rocd is my constant.
Have you gone through this through multiple relationships?
Yep. Sure have.
I feel ya on that one. I struggle with it all the time. It’s just part of the ocd game.
Anxiety has stolen years from my life. Today, I will tell myself that I am off work tomorrow, and I will plan to go somewhere or I will plan to work on a project around the house. When the time comes, it is like I am paralyzed. I just sit here and think about what I planned, but I can't make myself actually do what I said I would do. I get so angry with myself for wasting my life. Has anyone gotten past this kind of problem?
I wish I could just enjoy what we have planned and think about how happy I am about us being together for so long. But instead I am anxious that I am making a mistake by being with him, and that I need to end it now because the longer we are together the more it would hurt to end. I am nervous about posting about it on social media because I feel like I am lying to myself and everyone around me. I want to experience loving without doubting everyone and everything, and mainly myself. I don’t want my partner to deal with me. This is so frustrating. I just needed to vent.
Hi guys, So my wife got mad at me today. She said all we ever talk about is my anxiety, and do not usually get to have regular conversations. Does anyone else have this problem with their wife/husband/partner? Right now my heart rate does feel comfortable, and readings to what I can view aren’t to my liking. My OCD had me doing a step just the right way type of thing, I was expecting a call from one of my bosses, and other than this have no idea what caused the anxiety. I seriously just give up anymore. I don’t feel strong enough anymore to go through my anxiety, OCD PTSD, and depression.
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