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I agree with this, hocd started for me about ten months ago, I had almost every symptom under the sun, ten months on, my anxiety is a lot weaker, and I hardly have the symptoms? But I still have the self doubt! I believe it's because we get used to the anxiety so it weakens and the symptoms do also! It definitely feels real ?
Are you scared to tell someone close to you because it will make it feel like your giving in? Like it will make it more real? It's so hard, I've been there, im still there, just in a different way! Just try and learn about it, and if you can try and speak to a professional. There's plenty of online courses, mood smith is meant to be good, also search Chrissie Hodges on YouTube, she explains a lot about hocd.
That's exactly how I felt at your stage, I was scared of what people would think, which would make me believe I was in denial! And then I lost my attraction to the opposite sex, and questioned every time I would see someone of the same sex that was attractive! I never used to pay so much attention to the same sex, then suddenly you notice them all the time! Have you ever been walking down the street and you see a car and you go 'that's a nice car, I've never seen one of them before' and then after that moment, you keep on seeing that car? It's the same with hocd, because your giving it attention, your mind is only focused on seeing what your thinking about!
Which is so common, you was comparing yourself with other members of the same sex, and then that horrible question pops in to your head and then from that point your constantly analysing whether your attracted to the same sex or not. For me I had a gay bloke hit on my while on holiday, I was with my girlfriend and friends, we was all drinking, I shrugged it off, but the next morning I was in constant panic, checking every male out, asking my self that same question, am I attracted to him?
I’ve had this since this past January. Although my anxiety is gone, the thoughts still linger, and then I feel this weird odd sense and i don’t like it. My OCD always tells me “I’m gonna get you back” all the time. Like at times it’s not me talking. Or in first person. Before I used to wake up and think about how beautiful my girlfriend is, or what im going to do that day. NOW, OH HELL NO. Now I just feel like I’m lying every fucking minute
Yes! I get exactly what you said! It’s like whenever I read an hocd article I would relate to the symptoms if they were 100x more extreme. It’s like the thoughst have evolved?
I agree! I've had a few therapy sessions and it did help, but over time it's got easier, the anxiety and everything, some days I feel normal, the only thing is, I'm not fully back to my self, my naturally attraction to women hasn't come back fully, my sex drive is no where near where it used to be! That's what worry's me, and it all gets a little confusing! I keep relying on the thought that one day I'll wake up, and it will all be gone and I'll be able to move on with my life! Still waiting...
It feels like I actually am a lesbian and just lying to myself. I have no therapist tho. There are no ocd specialists in my country but I’m pretty sure I have hocd (I believe). It’s just hard. I even got intrussive thoughts when my mom was hugging me! It was like “do you want a girl to do that to you?” And it’s so frustrating. It’s like I’m attracted to every girl I see!
How long have you had hocd for? Hocd does this to you, I used to constantly check! I've had similar intrusive thoughts like that as well, 8 months ago them thoughts would scare the hell out of me, now they don't, I've gotten used to the thoughts! When I first got hocd, I would be at work and notice every attractive male, constantly asking if I thought they was attractive, I was checking every second! My anxiety was ridiculous. You need to although the thoughts to be there, just say to yourself ' ahh here's that ridiculous thought again, I'm going to let it sit there, but not give it any meaning', and then try and move on from it! If your on any social media e.g Facebook, instagram, twitter, I recommend deleting it. Social media can be so negative. I deleted all of them almost three weeks ago, and I feel better with out them.
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If you can't get therapy, I recommend trying to learn about your condition, try and understand what it is your going through, try and stop looking on forums for answers. Once you stop giving in to your compulsions it will get a little easier. Also try talking to someone about it, someone you trust and can rely on, having someone in your corner can make the world of difference.
I am scared to tell my family. I’ve only spoken about it here or with some people I’ve met here over email. It’s hard. It’s like if people would know they’d never accept me, I feel like that. But the thing is I don’t even know what I am yet. It just my head keeps telling me that to *i think* resemble gay in denial thoughts. Ugh I hate this
I’ve seen Chrissy Hodges. I found this app through her. It’s just my head keep telling me “you are a lesbian, no one will accept you” all the timeee. It’s getting old. And it’s telling me I’m attracted to every. Single. Girl. I. See.
That’s exactly me! You’ve described my life! I started noticing members of the same sex good looking because I was sooo insecure about myself. I thought I was the ugliest being on this planet. I had body dismorphia *i think* but now I’m realizing it was more ocd like than body dismorphia like. So I started comparing myself to every single girl I saw. And I started questioning “why is she pretty and not me” and that’s how I started noticing them. That theme was then quickly then replaced by This one
It’s like when I’m not attracted to a guy my head tells me that’s why I’m attracted to the girlfriend of the guy. It’s horrible! Everytime I see a relationship my head is like “which position would you rather be with, guy or girl” and it’s horrible. Everytime i see a pretty girl my head tells me “you likeee her” “you like heeeerrr”. My hocd got even worse when I had a gay dream about my best friend. I was only kissing her and I clearly remember I *didnt* enjoy it but it keeps using that against me
Me too. It’s awful. It’s like I can’t get the image or a lesbian wedding out of my head, like do I want that? Do I?
I know people that have had hocd on this app that turned out to be their fear or bisexual. And I am deeply scared. Or am I? It feels as if I am pansexual, with a preference for girls now. And it feels fucking real.
i think i might be developing sexual orientation ocd because i identify as a lesbian but when i was a kid i only ever crushed on guys. im starting to wonder if i just had hocd the entire time and believed the thoughts so hard that i tricked myself into thinking im gay. but i really don't wanna be straight ?
So my hocd started over 2 years ago (I’m 20 yrs old now), when I was having a conversation with one of my friends and the thought popped into the back of my head what if the reason I don’t have a crush on any guys at my high school is because I’m a lesbian. Since then my sexuality has been on my mind 24/7 I didn’t know this was ocd until about a year ago but i’m only seeking treatment now. The hocd ramped up when I felt super aroused watching a movie with topless women, something that had never happened when watching men. Thing is I genuinely think I’m gay now, I’ve had this for so long that at first the thoughts disgusted me and caused me anxiety but now they don’t anymore. I saw so many tiktok videos about “pipelines” of certain interests gay people have that triggered me and read the comphet masterdoc which made me cry when I read it because I related to so much of it. When I was a child I was never boy crazy, I never really crushed on boys in my class (to be fair there were only 7) however I do remember writing a love note to a boy in first grade and having an immense celebrity crush on a disney channel star. I remember to certain things I did as a child that lead me to think I am gay and they keep replaying over and over in my head. Thing is over the past year I’ve had crushes on 3 guys I’ve met through dating apps. The last one I actually hung out with and I had my first kiss/makeout session 2 months ago. After that my hocd calmed down I enjoyed kissing him it felt euphoric the whole drive home just replaying our dates in my head. But now I can’t get the thought out of my head what if I didn’t like it enough? I didn’t get butterflies when we kissed (i do when I think back about it though) and didnt feel super aroused like that time I watched that movie. I feel nothing when I look at pictures and videos of men but with women I started getting this warm feeling in my chest which stressed me out even more. Idk what I am anymore and it is driving me insane. Does anyone relate?
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