Today my HOCD feel so real… I can’t reassure myself. It’s like a evidence that im gay but i feel so bad. My brain make some scenario with women and i believe that i like it. And when i want to imagine with boy i feel nothing. I can’t think about my boyfriend… When im thinking about him i don’t feel anything and my brain tell me that im living in a lie. Do you have some days like that? How can i stop thinking that ??
I had days like that, but don't believe your brain. Sometimes I freak out when I don't feel fear with the intrusive thoughts, but it's just in your head even if it feels real. What I try to believe is this: 1. Sexuality never changes (if you liked boys, nothing will change that even if it looks like that) 2. You decide what and whom you want. I read on multiple sites that Love is a choice! So if you love your boyfriend and want to be with him, you need to make him your choice every day. And on days when you feel like you don't, you need to try your best to love him even more. :) 3. I try to get to believe an affirmation 'I am straight, I love my boyfriend and I am happy with him.'... It's hard and I am still at the beginning, but when it's though I will remember a saying "Fake it till you make it" Good luck, we will get over it and be happy again. ☺️
This helped me out a lot thank you.
yes thank you !!
Hello ! The only thing you should do is to accept uncertainty, as difficult as it sounds. When the intrusive thoughts come to you, tell them "maybe yes, maybe not". I was feeling like you do some months ago, thinking that it couldnt work for me... but actually I have everyday less intrusive thoughts and I feel way better with myself and with my bf. Also, try to stop reassurance, as difficult as it is. Or try to wait before doing it. You're stronger than you OCD. You can do it !! Believe in yourself !
Yeah that's basically how I feel today
Same
Can hocd really feel this real? I can never shake it off that I’m not really straight. It just seems that one day out of the blue I realized I was gay. I don’t even know anymore. Every time I see I pretty girl it feels so real, I try to accept the thought but it just doesn’t work. I just want to like guys and that’s all.
Does hocd make you think of men in general and make you think of scenarios in your head like i keep picturing myself with a man. I cant even think of women anymore. But when i see them out and about i go shes nice. But then my mind is like your forceing it 😞
My hocd feels so real like every time i see a girl my eyes automatically goes to their tits or ass and it stresses me out and I sometimes get these intrusive thoughts out of nowhere saying “if you u really like girls then you’ll have to leave you bf” orr I get these images of being with a girl and all sorts of things there are many more but I can’t seem ti remember at the moment I’m sure they will come back to me but it feels so real sometimes I think is this true do I like girls as well?
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