Hey beautiful people 🌈 Anyone else have cheating ROCD ? Constant fear of being cheated on and cheating ? How do you cope with it, and with your partner if you have one ? I need some coping advice please 🥺🫠🫠
It’s very difficult, it’s hard in intimacy, hard to even look at them sometimes because you feel this guilt and shame
However i just moved in with my partner so I’m hoping the more I’m triggered the more I can do erp the faster I can get better
I’m always scared that potential partners are lying to me or doing things behind my back. It’s really triggering because I’ll look into everything. I’m not really sure how to work on it either! Would love some advice as well
Yeah defined falls into the same category i have that too, i kinda stopped looking into everything because i then feel stupid that i find nothing everytime 🫠 let’s see if someone who has figured out how to deal with this gives us some tips 🥺
This is my fear when getting into a serious relationship 💔
Yeah definetly for me, but now i am mor aware so it’s more like the thoughts are annoying me, like since I’ve started therapy and ERP i know it’s my OCD and it’s intrusive thoughts and it’s not real so it just bothers me and i sometimes i just can’t stop ruminating endlessly of the cheating subject then i get pissed at my partner even if he has nothing to do with it 🤦🏻♀️🤦🏻♀️ It’s my biggest trigger honestly so the hardest to cope and calm down… so yeah looking for tips maybe from others who experience the same 🥺🫠🥲
It sucks thoufh
I’m in a new relationship and it’s takes the joy and lust out of everything I hate it
Oh !! That’s awesome, you are doing great then 😊 we are not yet at the stage of moving in, but i do agree it removes the joy and lust when i start thinking of this because how can i enjoy the moments if my brain keeps telling me he cheated on me or i cheated on him with no proof of anything concrete. I just want it to stop, thing is i don’t even give into the thoughts i call them out but they stay and make me anxious for hours on and it just sucks 🤯🫠😞
Yeah i try to expose myself to as much triggers as possible, but honestly the cheating one is like hell for me
Despite the fact that I have never once acted flirtatiously with someone else over the course of my 3-year relationship, never talked to anyone inappropriately, never touched or interacted with anyone inappropriately, I have been battling constant ROCD obsessions centered around cheating ever since my partner and I got together. I am constantly worried about whether certain things are cheating: daydreaming about another person (already told my partner about this and he said it was okay and that he does it too), talking in a group chat with someone, sitting next to someone, speaking to them in person. I question my intentions. I worry that I cheated by wearing my hair a certain way in an attempt to look more attractive or by jokingly poking someone with a fake sword (despite doing it to other people too), looking through someone’s social media, etc. I have confessed so many ridiculous things to my partner and he’s always told me that none of them are cheating. I feel so guilty for being attracted to someone else, despite the fact that my partner said it was fine and normal. I have made a very very conscious effort to limit my interactions with this person. I never ever ever ever message them privately, I make an obsessive effort to NOT reply to their messages in a group server (constantly keeping track of the ratio of my replies to their messages compared to other people’s), to ignore them when I see them in person and hardly ever speak to them or initiate conversation with them. Yet I still feel like a disgusting dirty cheater who is hiding a big secret.
I am at a very difficult spot in my relationship. My boyfriend and I have been together for 6 years, and I have a history of cheating that for years we’ve been trying to work through. To me, it makes a lot of sense that my OCD has attached itself to this and for the last few years I’ve experienced intrusive sexual thoughts of others and relationship ocd. I have been open to him about the content of my thoughts and now, with a proper diagnosis of an anxiety disorder, I am able to reframe them and work through them with ERP so that my brain will *hopefully* get bored and stop sending them. But, things have not been easy. As a result of this and everything in our past, he has become anxious about all the scenarios where I could be having sexualized thoughts about other people. To him, if I am thinking something utterly different than what I am telling him or acting like to him, he can’t fully trust it. And of course, I can imagine how difficult it is to know your life partner is sexualizing others in her brain and to be able find a way to dismiss them as unthreatening, especially when past mistakes say otherwise. Is there anyone that has gone through this with a partner? And other than repeatedly explaining the egodystonic nature of my thoughts and providing reassurance, what are some things you did that helped them? Any advice helps! Thank you
OK, so I never had a boyfriend before because I’ve always avoided relationships because I’ve always had a fear of intimacy/ fear of someone getting too close (i have an avoidant attachment style) and just a hard time getting close to anyone in general. Well i am 22 years old now and i finally got a boyfriend for the first time and he is my heart in human form. Like i love him more than anything and i just want to love and support him as much as possible because i truly believe he deserves the world and more. OKAY SORRY ENOUGH ABT MY UNDYING LOVE FOR MY BOYFRIEND- i came on here to say i have been having these intrusive thoughts and they’re so disgusting. The thoughts are of me cheating and never I my life have i ever thought i?? I would do that so when I had this thought, it sent me into a panic. I was having anxiety for weeks and it was hell because it’s like my reality gets distorted. It just sucks because this is my first ever relationship and the only thing i want to do is just give my love to this man and make him the happiest person on earth. That’s is it i swear but my thoughts are so so so cruel. BTW i forgot to mention that cheating is his biggest fear in a relationship SO I know my ocd took that and RAN. Well anyways I can’t help but feel like I’m the worst human being on this earth but can some of yall send some ERP exercises and ways yall get over your ocd flares ups/ocd attacks please ? help a girl out 😔
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