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I’m sorry this has happened. My husband actually moved out the beginning of the year for similar reasons. I love the cliche quote, “if they don’t love you at your worst, they don’t deserve you at your best.” I say this with a grain of salt. My issue, which is why I downloaded this app, was that I didn’t get the help I needed. I ruminated in my anxiety with pride. I believed that I could handle it on my own. However, this is too big of a monster. And help is necessary. My advice to you would be, take care of yourself mentally and physically. After you’ve done the work, find someone who is strong enough to catch you. People with anxiety are tough. We may not feel like it. But, to go to through what we go through on a daily basis is challenging. You deserve someone who can match your strength. I hope this helps.
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f him lol like if he doesn’t want to have ever part of you then he obviously wasn’t that amazing anyways. someone who really loves you will truly love ever single part of you, so his love was obviously never true. You’ll die for someone you love, right? so if he would die for you, then why wouldn’t he stick around with you? exactly... it doesn’t make sense. it’s because he never really loved you. sooooo f him
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Update: he asked for me back and he also was just going thru a stressful time and just needed to clear his thoughts!!!! Thank you for all ur support
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- 6y
He was usually so good at helping me and listening but last night I brought up my doubts and he kinda just shut down and said how me being unhappy makes him unhappy and stressed and I’ve been giving off negative vibes lately Bc I’ve been stressed and how he loved me but didn’t feel a spark anymore and lost feelings:( he was the best part of me and he made me grow and idk how he could just throw us all away
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I agree. It kills me when people only want to come around during the good times, disappear during the bad yet day they love you.
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- 6y
It hurts like hell:( he was the only person I ever trusted fully in my life:( and he was my safe space and my best friend and he just threw that in the trash and now I’m stuck loving someone who doesn’t even love me
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Does he want to work on things?
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No I begged him to give me another chance and let me fix things and I told him I could work on me and make it less stressful and he just told me to stop making the decision harder than it already is and just to accept it:( I’m not ready to give us up yet tho
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:( I’m sorry. You know what, though, if you truly want him back, be so unavailability and flourished that he will hate he didn’t stick around :)
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- 24w
My bf and I just broke up and I haven’t felt this sort of heartbreak in a very long time. I’m crying all the time and can barely get out of bed. Idek what to do with myself and I’m terrified I’m going to relapse because of all the added stress. I think us breaking up was the right decision but it hurts so fucking bad idek what i should do anymore. I’m not normally the emotional type when it comes to situations like this either. Any advice?
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Longer post, but please, I need some guidance. I thought that my thoughts relating to relationship OCD were taking over. But, my bf started treating me differently. I tried to have a conversation and communicate this worry. He then texted me that he had actually been feeling distant for a month and has been meaning to tell me. But “we’re fine now.” I spiraled. Later in the week, he went quiet after a disagreement. After he promised we were okay and he was okay, I found later he was texting a mutual friend (female) that I was crying again. She said that it was fucking insane and other hurtful things about me. He said he lost his trust with me because I looked through his phone and saw that message even though during the whole relationship we had a mutual understanding that we had nothing to hide from each other and he always assured me that I could look through his phone at anytime. It’s ok for boundaries to change in a relationship, but it wasn’t communicated and I was harshly reprimanded. During the texting chain with the mutual friend he also said that “she just has no idea.” When I addressed this, he then said that for the past month, he actually felt he didn’t want to be in a relationship, but still loved me. I’m ruined. I had the same thoughts in January and knew I loved him. I found out it was ROCD (through this app) and told him the day after the realization because it was eating at me. So him saying I wouldn’t understand and telling other seems unjustified. I would’ve been the most understanding. Any help would be appreciated greatly.
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- 19w
Hi - I’ve made a series of posts about my situation over the past few weeks. My bf asked to take a break from our relationship through text the first week of April. We haven’t spoken since. There’s a lot of outward details to this but I’ll try to keep it as simple as possible. My ocd is telling me the worst of the worst. He left me with full uncertainty because he didn’t give me a reason, and his decision felt like it happened overnight and I’m still so confused. He’s never been in a relationship as serious as this before. I’m incredibly hurt and angry, and my emotions get worse on Saturday and Friday nights because that’s when his frat parties happen. I do ERP phrases but my stomach hurts and it’s churning so bad. I deactivated/deleted social media apps for now because it’s too much. I just wish this physical feeling would stop. Does anyone have tips?
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