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I’m sorry this has happened. My husband actually moved out the beginning of the year for similar reasons. I love the cliche quote, “if they don’t love you at your worst, they don’t deserve you at your best.” I say this with a grain of salt. My issue, which is why I downloaded this app, was that I didn’t get the help I needed. I ruminated in my anxiety with pride. I believed that I could handle it on my own. However, this is too big of a monster. And help is necessary. My advice to you would be, take care of yourself mentally and physically. After you’ve done the work, find someone who is strong enough to catch you. People with anxiety are tough. We may not feel like it. But, to go to through what we go through on a daily basis is challenging. You deserve someone who can match your strength. I hope this helps.
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f him lol like if he doesn’t want to have ever part of you then he obviously wasn’t that amazing anyways. someone who really loves you will truly love ever single part of you, so his love was obviously never true. You’ll die for someone you love, right? so if he would die for you, then why wouldn’t he stick around with you? exactly... it doesn’t make sense. it’s because he never really loved you. sooooo f him
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- 6y ago
Update: he asked for me back and he also was just going thru a stressful time and just needed to clear his thoughts!!!! Thank you for all ur support
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- 6y ago
He was usually so good at helping me and listening but last night I brought up my doubts and he kinda just shut down and said how me being unhappy makes him unhappy and stressed and I’ve been giving off negative vibes lately Bc I’ve been stressed and how he loved me but didn’t feel a spark anymore and lost feelings:( he was the best part of me and he made me grow and idk how he could just throw us all away
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- 6y ago
I agree. It kills me when people only want to come around during the good times, disappear during the bad yet day they love you.
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- 6y ago
It hurts like hell:( he was the only person I ever trusted fully in my life:( and he was my safe space and my best friend and he just threw that in the trash and now I’m stuck loving someone who doesn’t even love me
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Does he want to work on things?
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- 6y ago
No I begged him to give me another chance and let me fix things and I told him I could work on me and make it less stressful and he just told me to stop making the decision harder than it already is and just to accept it:( I’m not ready to give us up yet tho
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- 6y ago
:( I’m sorry. You know what, though, if you truly want him back, be so unavailability and flourished that he will hate he didn’t stick around :)
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I'm 18, and been in a relationship with my man for nearly 2 years. I started living with him around 2 months ago, and all I do is think about if he's cheating. We were long distance for a year and a half of our relationship, maybe seeing eachother once every month or two. I decided to move in with him, and ever since all I can think about is if he's cheating or watching porn. When he's in another room I think he's doing something wrong, I have to check on him every ten minutes to ease my anxiety. I didn't have this problem before moving in. Granted he has talked to some girls on his phone, even having his ex on his phone (didn't do anything bad) and he is porn addicted though he is getting better for me. It's gotten so bad I want to leave him. A couple days ago I broke up with him and it absolutely broke my heart, I couldn't bare it so I gave him a month to show me he can do better, and for me to work on myself. If I'm still unhappy with us I'm going to leave. I love this boy more than anything. I'm scared to be without him, this is my first real relationship. At this point I refuse to even sleep until he is sleeping. I don't want to start over, I don't want to leave him, but I really can't take this pain it's causing me. It's all I think about. I've convinced myself so many times that he's cheating, but I know he wouldn't. I question whether it's anxiety or intuition. Maybe I just know deep down he really is cheating and I just don't want to believe it. I don't know. I don't think he would do that, but at the same time he's really into women. I hate that he looks at other girls in a sexual way, it bothers me so much, and we talk about it often, but with it being an addiction it's difficult. He has gotten a lot better since we have talked about it. He understands I have an issue and is usually happy to talk about it over and over and promise me over and over that he's not cheating. He allows me to have his phone whenever I want and everything, I have no reason to think he's cheating, but I can't get over it. It's not fair to him either. How do I deal with this? How do I stop hurting so much?
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Hey everyone, First time posting here! Wanted to share my story for some support but also to hopefully make others feel less alone. In short - my ROCD has made such a mess of my personal life. I was in a great relationship until spring of last year, at which point we separated mainly due to my ROCD. I struggled heavily with OCD about 10 years ago (harm based intrusive thoughts, sexual orientation ocd, etc). It took a lot of work but I was able to mostly overcome my struggles and truthfully, hadn’t given ocd much thought since then. I thought I was cured. And then 10 years later I am in a very fulfilling relationship with a girl I really love, but at about the year mark in my relationship things really changed. She wanted to have a conversation about next steps (moving in, marriage, kids, etc) and at that point my brain just went into panic mode and the ocd took over. From that point on, I was constantly scanning for red flags, felt very reserved when it came to any sort of statement or commitment and tended to avoid anything that would indicate I was committed to a long term future. It was not that I didn’t love it was just that my ocd was doing anything to keep me from making a big commitment. It eventually got a point where we had a big conversation about breaking up or staying together and my OCD convinced me that it was safer and that I would do less harm to her if we ended things, which was incredibly devastating to me. At the time I felt like my obsessing over small red flags were normal and that I needed to protect myself. I just had no clue it was ROCD. I spent the next 8 months missing her and kicking myself for my mistakes, and I eventually got the courage to reach out and see if she’d be willing to talk again, which she was. But the problem is, at this point I still didn’t know it was ocd. So when we talked again I was still plagued by ROCD as all the same thoughts and feelings came flooding back. We tried to talk through things but once again I was unable to make any sort of commitment to the future so it went nowhere. Once again, I am feeling very sad and angry at myself for not being able to handle ROCD. I feel like I let it control me twice and has robbed me of a lot of happiness and hurt someone I care very much about. I understand it’s probably not best to just look at ourselves with anger and guilt all the time but it’s hard not to when you feel like you just caused so much harm. Anyone feel like they can relate? Or if anyone is going through something similar I am happy to chat as ROCD can really be tricky. Thanks
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- 7w ago
My psychologist tells me because my thoughts are based off of facts/ broken boundaries which is why I am having thoughts of am i in love , am I settling , and feeling guilty I should let him go to find someone who wouldn’t doubt him that I do not have rocd. She states rocd is intrusive , irrational thoughts not based off of real facts and I may have ptsd not ocd. He kissed someone else before we were official and he finds a certain type of female attractive that I find disgusting . So I spin about these issues all day long to the point I’m so unhappy with him and had to break up . It’s been over a month now but I’m still severely anxious and depressed The thing is I can’t stop thinking about this 24/7 with severe anxiety and depression and nothing is helping me . Can someone please tell me their thoughts
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