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- 6y
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- 6y
I’m sorry this has happened. My husband actually moved out the beginning of the year for similar reasons. I love the cliche quote, “if they don’t love you at your worst, they don’t deserve you at your best.” I say this with a grain of salt. My issue, which is why I downloaded this app, was that I didn’t get the help I needed. I ruminated in my anxiety with pride. I believed that I could handle it on my own. However, this is too big of a monster. And help is necessary. My advice to you would be, take care of yourself mentally and physically. After you’ve done the work, find someone who is strong enough to catch you. People with anxiety are tough. We may not feel like it. But, to go to through what we go through on a daily basis is challenging. You deserve someone who can match your strength. I hope this helps.
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- 6y
f him lol like if he doesn’t want to have ever part of you then he obviously wasn’t that amazing anyways. someone who really loves you will truly love ever single part of you, so his love was obviously never true. You’ll die for someone you love, right? so if he would die for you, then why wouldn’t he stick around with you? exactly... it doesn’t make sense. it’s because he never really loved you. sooooo f him
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- 6y
Update: he asked for me back and he also was just going thru a stressful time and just needed to clear his thoughts!!!! Thank you for all ur support
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- 6y
He was usually so good at helping me and listening but last night I brought up my doubts and he kinda just shut down and said how me being unhappy makes him unhappy and stressed and I’ve been giving off negative vibes lately Bc I’ve been stressed and how he loved me but didn’t feel a spark anymore and lost feelings:( he was the best part of me and he made me grow and idk how he could just throw us all away
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- 6y
I agree. It kills me when people only want to come around during the good times, disappear during the bad yet day they love you.
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- 6y
It hurts like hell:( he was the only person I ever trusted fully in my life:( and he was my safe space and my best friend and he just threw that in the trash and now I’m stuck loving someone who doesn’t even love me
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- 6y
Does he want to work on things?
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- 6y
No I begged him to give me another chance and let me fix things and I told him I could work on me and make it less stressful and he just told me to stop making the decision harder than it already is and just to accept it:( I’m not ready to give us up yet tho
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- 6y
:( I’m sorry. You know what, though, if you truly want him back, be so unavailability and flourished that he will hate he didn’t stick around :)
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- 25w
It hasn’t even been a week since my boyfriend broke up with me because of my OCD and depression cocktail. He said that the breakup wasn’t out of him not loving me anymore, but because he and his family had already dealt with very strong mental health issues in the past and that a) he couldn’t bear seeing me hurting all of the time and b) he wasn’t sure that he wanted to be “my nurse”. Then he said that I shouldn’t blame myself because depression and OCD are never anyone’s fault. I’ve tried to be very understanding: I do believe one has a right to decide what one wants in their partner. He doesn’t want a partner with mental health issues, I can understand that. I can also understand that these five months since my OCD made itself known have been very hard on him. But, I also feel so betrayed. He used to nitpick the word “love” so much and reflect on what it actually meant to love. He said loving someone was choosing to stay with them during the good times and the bad. This is absolutely the worst bad time in my entire life. And he said, and also said it to my mother, that he would stick with me through it all. Now five months later, he’s changed his mind. I don’t get how he can say he still loves me and abandon me when I most need love and support. If it’s not my fault like he says, why leave me? He said he still wants to be in my life—at a safe distance, where he can’t see all the ugly parts of what OCD and depression can do to a person. All of this makes me feel as if I wasn’t worth the effort of dealing with everything. Then that’s not love is it? I also feel very lonely as the only people that know about my OCD were him and my parents. He made himself into one of my biggest pillars of support, and shaped our lives so that he could always be with me. So we’re in the same classes, and although we share friends I’ve always felt that they entertained me because I was his girlfriend. As for my closer friends, I’ve felt that I was drifting apart from them and although I’ve furtively mentioned my problems with OCD to them, they either don’t care to ask or aren’t really sure how to talk to me. I feel so alone. And now my “number one supporter” has left, and it angers me very much. Especially because I’ve been the one to calm him down and give him hugs and explained what topics we saw in the class he missed the day after we broke up. I’m the one that convinced him to eat three cookies for dinner because he didn’t want to eat. And I’m the one that had to tell him that friends don’t wish each other a great night every night, like we used to do. It seemed like he wanted things to stay the same but without the relationship part of kissing and dealing with my panic attacks. It feels it’s kind of unfair because he’s not without issues and I didn’t judge him once and always tried to be there for him, and the single biggest issue I have ever had was too much for him. The vengeful part of me wants him to hurt as much as he hurt me. I hope he understands his decision has consequences and that he can’t be with me in the same way he was— especially now that I know that he leaves at my most critical, vulnerable moments. I’m writing this while mad. But I know later I’ll feel sad and more understanding and want to be friends with him again. And then I’ll get mad again. And so on. I know this is just a really tough situation however you look at it. But I’m still overwhelmed by the thought that if OCD had never struck, we might still be together. I also deserve some love and support 😔 Thank you if you read all the way till here. I’m sorry if it was a long read, but I’m very thankful. Nowadays it feels like NOCD is one of my remaining sources of support. I’m very grateful for everyone on here, I hope all of you have a great day and that it’s a victory against this accursed mental disorder
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- 21w
My bf and I just broke up and I haven’t felt this sort of heartbreak in a very long time. I’m crying all the time and can barely get out of bed. Idek what to do with myself and I’m terrified I’m going to relapse because of all the added stress. I think us breaking up was the right decision but it hurts so fucking bad idek what i should do anymore. I’m not normally the emotional type when it comes to situations like this either. Any advice?
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- 19w
My ocd is going crazy - I feel horrible and didn’t see this coming. I can’t stop crying please help
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