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@7710❤️, I also have been constantly obsessing about my relationship with my husband of 18 yrs for 4 yrs now. It’s constant torment.
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I could say that you have to see what is missing what is different in the relationship that makes you feel like the connection isn’t there
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…we’ve both been depressed… seriously depressed… It’s either I work all the time and due to his lack of hours he is always stuck in the house… I know I love him. I know that deep down I still do. Maybe it’s because everyday is the same thing with nothing changing… I hate my job and want to find a new one but then again I don’t wanna work anymore (sounds childish I know) we’ve never had the opportunity to live without people… always living with others… Before my depression got bad we use to have a wonderful sex life and now lately we haven’t had sex at all. I told him it bothers me. It’s been hard on him to wanna have sex due to him having a low drive due to depression. I told him I am worried about our physical connection and due to lack of it I feel like we have no intimacy due to that. I know that people go thru rough patches and anything can be fixed with effort. We’ve been together going on 12 years.
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@7710 ❤️ I completely understand i think you guys should get out of your Comfort zone and set a date nite 1 day a week it’s just for you 2 no one else dress up go out come home and watch a movie that’s what I use to do I know lack of sex sometimes does separate a lot of couples so ask him what you can do to boost his sex drive
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@Anonymous There are other concerns but I am constantly thinking about them…. I don’t wanna break up! Even saying that I hear. You’re lying! In my head without thinking it… 😢 I obsessed about them… i don’t wanna break up… 😢😢 I just wanna be with him like before where we could laugh and hug without feeling closed off… 😢
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@7710 ❤️ Listen to me,I had these same thoughts what I want you to do is go to the store,get you both your favorite snacks put on a funny movie and watch it together,it helped me,AND me and my girl both had fun
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I know I love him but how can I fix it when I have been dealing with ROCD for going on 3 years straight with constant testing ruminating complusions obsessing over the relationships issues… I don’t wanna end it. But it’s like I am getting a feeling I should.
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Dont let ROCD ruin your relationship I know it’s easier said then done but you have support replace all your thoughts with all the good times you had
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Take a nap and let yourself say goodbye to the day. Tomorrow is a new chance to feel connected <3
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I’m sorry my love do you feel this all the time or is it some days you just feel this way
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😢😢😞😞 Most of the time… 😭😭 I wanna cry… i do have moments of feeling it but not much… 😢😢😭 I am really crying…. It’s like I wanna end my relationship 😭😭😭😭 it’s like it’s what I truly want 😭😭 I held him and started crying softly so he wouldn’t hear me.. I want to love him like before again!! I hate this!!
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But then I feel no connection with anyone else too but this feeling scares me…
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I’ve been depressed for years but never lost my emotional connection like this… I know relationships will go thru this… but how can you stop it!? I keep looking for the answer and nothing ever pops up…. I focused too much on issues and seem to get upset easily at anything…
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I understand I do the I focus on issue to much but I’m learning to let go and continue doing what I was doing I say think about all the good times you guys had
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Stop looking for the answer,that’s the oroblem
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OCD can make you feel anything. It knows you don’t want to feel this so it’s purposely making you feel like this
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My boyfriend told me that he feels like he’s losing me, that I’ve changed, and that I don’t seem happy to see him anymore. I know that this should hurt me deeply, but when he said it, I didn’t feel anything. And now I’m terrified. Why didn’t I react? Why didn’t I feel instant sadness or guilt? It’s like I was emotionally blocked, like I didn’t care at all—and that thought is destroying me. What if this means I don’t love him? What if I’ve just been lying to myself and I don’t want to accept the truth? I feel so disconnected and numb. My brain keeps telling me: “If you really cared, you would feel something.” But instead, I feel nothing. And the fact that I feel nothing makes me panic even more. I don’t know what’s happening to me. I used to feel so much, and now it’s like I can’t access my emotions at all. I don’t want to lose him. I don’t want to feel like this forever. I just want to feel normal again
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I realized I’ve depended a lot on my boyfriend for comfort through my ocd, and I’m starting to feel like even before my ocd I was paying more attention to the relationship itself more than him, or the attachment: even though I remember distinct feelings of me wanting to be with him forever, and feeling so happy and complete with him, time didn’t exist, I felt like my most authentic self. So now I’m trying to create a healthy attachment and see him as his own person, which was helping at first, but now it feels as if I’m seeing that I don’t actually love him for him, the thought of moving forward in life without him breaks my heart and I don’t want to but my mind keeps telling me that I want it because of the attachment. He’s the exact type of person and partner I would want but it feels like whatever I feel is not enough.. But I DO experience moments of affection and care and admiration for him but they don’t last long..before I started making this shift in perspective even with the ocd I was still so sure and confident in moving forward with him, I felt so much like I wanted to be with him for the rest of my life. But now that I’ve made this shift it feels like I’m seeing him from a whole different place. Like all those good and happy feelings I had for him are gone now and I don’t have any confidence in what I want anymore. Before I did feel confident that I wanted to be with him but now it feels like there’s this wall between him and me :( I want to be with him I know I do, because even now I still feel the desire to keep going, but I can’t see the future anymore or the confidence to keep going. I was never much of a future thinker, even in my personal life but this feels like added proof I feel like I’m alone in this like no one else has this situation and the chances for me to realize after I recover that I don’t actually love him are so much higher 💔
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Recently she has told me she will be calling a lot less and stuff, this bothers me because well I’m scared, as I’m writing this I sent messages from 1pm to 7pm and tried calling her, no reply or anything, as a man it’s not good to be left alone with my mind, I’ve had “those” thoughts because of everything else going on, I told her how I felt and she said she’s sorry but she’s uncomfortable calling a lot, granted I’ve been doing good not calling her but when I really need her or call her she doesn’t pick up, this entire situation has screwed me up, it doesn’t help I have a overthinking problem, I’m scared to lose her, I’m scared to share my feelings fully without it being a burden or emotionally wearing her down, well that’s life, god do I hate it.
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