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@7710❤️, I also have been constantly obsessing about my relationship with my husband of 18 yrs for 4 yrs now. It’s constant torment.
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I could say that you have to see what is missing what is different in the relationship that makes you feel like the connection isn’t there
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…we’ve both been depressed… seriously depressed… It’s either I work all the time and due to his lack of hours he is always stuck in the house… I know I love him. I know that deep down I still do. Maybe it’s because everyday is the same thing with nothing changing… I hate my job and want to find a new one but then again I don’t wanna work anymore (sounds childish I know) we’ve never had the opportunity to live without people… always living with others… Before my depression got bad we use to have a wonderful sex life and now lately we haven’t had sex at all. I told him it bothers me. It’s been hard on him to wanna have sex due to him having a low drive due to depression. I told him I am worried about our physical connection and due to lack of it I feel like we have no intimacy due to that. I know that people go thru rough patches and anything can be fixed with effort. We’ve been together going on 12 years.
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@7710 ❤️ I completely understand i think you guys should get out of your Comfort zone and set a date nite 1 day a week it’s just for you 2 no one else dress up go out come home and watch a movie that’s what I use to do I know lack of sex sometimes does separate a lot of couples so ask him what you can do to boost his sex drive
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@Anonymous There are other concerns but I am constantly thinking about them…. I don’t wanna break up! Even saying that I hear. You’re lying! In my head without thinking it… 😢 I obsessed about them… i don’t wanna break up… 😢😢 I just wanna be with him like before where we could laugh and hug without feeling closed off… 😢
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@7710 ❤️ Listen to me,I had these same thoughts what I want you to do is go to the store,get you both your favorite snacks put on a funny movie and watch it together,it helped me,AND me and my girl both had fun
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I know I love him but how can I fix it when I have been dealing with ROCD for going on 3 years straight with constant testing ruminating complusions obsessing over the relationships issues… I don’t wanna end it. But it’s like I am getting a feeling I should.
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Dont let ROCD ruin your relationship I know it’s easier said then done but you have support replace all your thoughts with all the good times you had
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Take a nap and let yourself say goodbye to the day. Tomorrow is a new chance to feel connected <3
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I’m sorry my love do you feel this all the time or is it some days you just feel this way
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😢😢😞😞 Most of the time… 😭😭 I wanna cry… i do have moments of feeling it but not much… 😢😢😭 I am really crying…. It’s like I wanna end my relationship 😭😭😭😭 it’s like it’s what I truly want 😭😭 I held him and started crying softly so he wouldn’t hear me.. I want to love him like before again!! I hate this!!
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But then I feel no connection with anyone else too but this feeling scares me…
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I’ve been depressed for years but never lost my emotional connection like this… I know relationships will go thru this… but how can you stop it!? I keep looking for the answer and nothing ever pops up…. I focused too much on issues and seem to get upset easily at anything…
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I understand I do the I focus on issue to much but I’m learning to let go and continue doing what I was doing I say think about all the good times you guys had
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Stop looking for the answer,that’s the oroblem
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OCD can make you feel anything. It knows you don’t want to feel this so it’s purposely making you feel like this
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Lately, I’ve been feeling like something has changed in me — like I have changed, and like my feelings for my boyfriend have faded or shifted. It’s one of the worst sensations I’ve ever felt. I keep thinking things like “I don’t love him like before” or “I’ve changed too much to feel anything now.” Sometimes when he calls me or makes a joke, I get irritated for no reason. I feel like I’m being mean, cold, disconnected — and then guilt crashes down on me. I remember how I used to feel: warm, close, expressive. And now… I just don’t feel the same. That makes me think: “Maybe I’ve fallen out of love.” But I’m also constantly anxious. I overthink every moment. I can’t relax into anything without analyzing if what I feel is “right.” It makes me wonder — maybe I haven’t actually changed. Maybe I’m just overwhelmed and tired from months of these thoughts and fears. I don’t know how to feel right now. I just want to believe that this disconnection isn’t proof that love is gone, but a sign that I’m scared and burnt out.
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I feel like I’m falling apart. I’ve been with my boyfriend for 2 years. He’s kind, loving, supportive — and I know he loves me deeply. But I can’t feel anything anymore. I sit next to him, and I feel numb. I kiss him, and it feels empty. I remember how I used to feel, and now… nothing. It terrifies me. The worst part is that I don’t even know what’s real anymore. I constantly question if I ever loved him, if I’m just forcing things out of guilt or fear. Sometimes I imagine breaking up, and I feel nothing — and that scares me even more. I keep thinking: if I really loved him, wouldn’t I feel it? I’ve read about ROCD. I want to believe that’s what this is. But the thoughts feel so real. And I can’t stop spiraling. My therapist didn’t help — she made me feel like maybe I was lying to myself. My mom either tells me to stop overthinking or gets angry. I have no one to really talk to. If anyone here has been through this — through the numbness, the “what if I never loved him?” thoughts, the feeling like it’s all fake — please tell me how you got through. I’m exhausted. I just want to feel peace again.
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