Play fighting

I do want to, and I have in previous times but it’s only become a problem recently. I’m convinced that it’s too much and when I stop it and get annoyed the room is silent. Right now we’re currently sitting in silence, because i’m unable to talk about why i’m so quiet. I want to communicate but i’m stuck. Thanks for replying btw

@Macc200 Of course, I’m here cause I want to figure out how to help my friend with OCD, I downloaded the app in order to help so I engage when I can. When you say to much do you mean to much as in your partner does to much or you do to much? Or the fighting is to much, the room being quiet can be calming at times and if you’re partner is there I have a few ideas that may help, you can do what I’ve been doing and trying to do engage them in TikToks (yes I know) so I find a funny video and try and distract the mind and create a space to show them I’m wanting to make sure they’re ok, another is if you want it to be silent for a little bit is you can just say what you want your partner to do, that is like if you want a hug or to cuddle or for them to leave whilst you release your mind. These may not help at all but you’re being strong when you say you want to talk, you can try somthing that I’ve just thought of, you can maybe type out feelings or small issues like you have in the community page into notes and show your partner in order for them to understand your reason for silence. I hope somthing helps and if you don’t take anything I say then that’s fine, writing about your feelings is a great start and I’m proud of you for that.

@Macc200 If it’s becoming a periodic issue were some days the play fighting becomes an issue, I’m sure your partner will listen if you address early that you feel things are becoming clouded when you’re engaging in activities then you can set boundaries, if doing that upsets you I understand as you want things to be ‘normal’ but as sad as it is to say doing that is better than battling the invading thoughts

@Local listener You are a saint, my partner noticed something was up and offered me a back massage. I took the offer so I can break the silence that I created, i’m still unable to talk about it with her and still want to try and tell them. I’m glad my moods back up I just am scared it will happen again. :)

@Macc200 Don’t be scared of it happening and I’m glad you’re feeling better, it’s good that you took an offer, it seems they are willing to help you within these situations which is great. Taking your time telling them about your thoughts is understandable but maybe have them install this app. I hope you take an idea I had into mind when you next have a moment of invading thoughts, rn I’m learning how to help my friend and the best I have at the moment is distracting them before and during the thoughts but I still want to know more on how to help. I hope you can tell your partner one day, they seem engaging to help and that’s sweet. Have a grand day!

Nah we do it all the time cause it’s fun dw no one’s getting hurt