Help! I need help from someone who suffers from ROCD. I’m scared that I will never know if I want to promise forever to my partner.

You might never know. We don't and can't know a lot of things with utmost certainty--especially the way OCD demands. You can still choose to live by your values and chase your goals--use those as a guide for what to do. OCD will make us doubt EVERYTHING, so we have to choose to live without certainty if we want to move forward.

I worry a lot about how my relationship will manifest in the future, especially in regards to marriage and children. But it is impossible to know for certain what is going to happen. I'm learning to live with the possibility that something *might* happen. I'm learning to focus on what is going on now, so that I'm not sabotaging the present by worrying excessively about the future. It's hard, but I want to move forward and enjoy what I have now because now is all that exists.

Thank you so much! I’m never really had these thoughts to the extreme that I did earlier and it really freaked me out. Your words are comforting though. I appreciate your view of how you move through this towards what you want.

You're welcome! OCD can be really scary. It's so great to have this community. We're all battling OCD together!

Anyone with ROCD get married and get past it?

I'm not married, btw. I'm in a long term relationship, and I struggle with ROCD.

This is my first bf and we're going to marry on july. My ROCD has been the worst after we engaded. I hope that after wedding I can be a bit more free about my thoughts. During my life my jumps to unknown and to uncertainty have been terrible but after jumps I have feel better and my uncertainty have come tinier. Very often I have felt freedom and happiness you can never imagine. I want to believe that it will go like this also on this time allthought it feels impossible many often because of ROCD and my thousand doubts. It has been very rought with my man last months, but he still loves me and want to merry me allthough I have said bad things and my feelings have been messy. His love gives me hope.

That’s amazing. I’m so happy for you. Good luck with your marriage!