My heart hurts:( my bf gave up on me Bc of my mental health and I feel I’m not enough. How do I heal? I gave him everything when I didn’t even have anything to give myself:(

you are enough! if he couldnt handle the challenges of loving someone with mental health issues, its his right to say stop. i hope you can remind yourself of the many ways you are a lovely person besides having ocd! just because he cant handle you, doesnt mean you are a burden or not lovable. he simple didnt have what it took. remember, ocd is a thing you carry around, like a big and heavy backpack, but it is not a part of you. im very sure that you have a million little ways of being more than just enough! you are not ocd!

We were together for almost 4 months and Ik that’s not a lot time but I’m also an empath so I love deeply and we were so close and he was first person I fully trusted despite my trust issues and who I got fully comfy with

Exactly. If he can't handle that your mental health history is not you, but a challenge distinct from you which requires sensitive handling, he is not the right person for you.

He is the one who is not enough. You are so strong you don't even know ♡

Hang in there for the person who says “this makes me love you even more”! Your OCD is likely making you a person of resilience, empathy and deep insight into our human condition — all desirable qualities in a partner.

But you shouldn’t give up in love :( I would have never gave up on him when he’s upset or stressed or hurt

That just means you deserve someone better that accepts you totally!

You deserve someone who respects your religious beliefs! I also have those boundaries and the one who was right for me respected them. (We’re now married.) So sorry you have to go through this. I know it hurts like a deep overwhelming abyss (aka h*ll).

How long were you together?

i totally understand that! it can be tricky to understand why he did what he did when you wouldnt do the same. we have different values and priorities like that. wait, maybe you could think about it like this; you have ocd and i’ll bet my left pinky that you would pay anything to get rid of ocd now! because its fucking exhausting and heartbreakinh. but since its not that easy to just leave it, you have to deal with it whether you like it or not, and try to recover. but when he suffers (and not even close to the amount that you do) under the weight of your ocd, he actually has the chance to get rid of that problem. if you could pack your bags and leave ocd, would you?

I understand that. It’s hard. He obviously wasn’t ready to give you all you need. I’m sorry.

Plus it probably makes you more accepting of your future partner’s struggles, whatever they may be. So hang in there and trust your amazing self!

It just hurts so bad:( idk why he had to give up. And he also gave up Bc I told him that I wanted to wait till marriage to have sex Bc of my religion and I asked him to ask for permission b4 touching me and got mad saying “ I don’t like having barriers on what we can and can’t do” and he said we could stay friends and then he blocked me:( I’m hurt